Watch your fuckin' language in here!
I still cannot believe that they let Hippolicious come South. Did they make you get your shots first? I thought Texas was building a fence to keep your kind away?
I love you always!
You're a tough little chick and I'm proud of you!
I love you all the way to the moon and back.
you alright? just checking in on you
I'm sorry you're dealing with so much at once. Do your best to keep it simple. Personally, I think being solitary beats staying in a destructive relationship. It sounds like you've tried your best to do the right thing and get things on the right track, but you can't do it by yourself.
You shouldn't stay with someone who demeans you and can't get over their resentments. Your kids have to pick up on that attitude as well, and it can't be good for them.
Best wishes, honey. Keep your chin up.
Oh...KimmyK....you can't miss and episode here and there and expect to be up on the drama.
You're wrong again...Rilee is a he...not a she.
Thirdly, since everybody is offering advice let not the Dr be quiet. After my divorce I wondered....why did I get so fucked. In turn I read pervasively on the subject including many state supreme court slip opinions and general laws and then I understood ala Rands "Atlas Shrugged," the system was working just as it should. White male is meant to be fucked.
So, regarding telling Rilee. 1) if the genetic fathers name ain't on the birth certificate he ain't the legal father and no child support is forthcoming ever. Some of the true classic decisions I read our for non-genetic fathers who continue to pay child support after divorces for children they thought were theirs but found out differently after the divorce and DNA testing. Even after the ex-wife had committed adultery and had children with another man the ex gets to pay...everybody say YAY!
Ok, should Rilee be told...is it the truth...yes it is...so yeah...Rilee should be told...at some time in his life but I'd probably be one to say just about when he gets of legal age.
Finally, I'm so verbose here because I'm in Texas right now. I was mistaken by a lady I hung out with for an evening for a texan in character. No shit, she said "...you sure are a friendly Yankee"
ooooohhh now it makes sense. cause like a few days ago i was all..."hmm...maybe she had an affair...." i didnt know. i can be stoooopid like that.
okay but still...don't tell her. i'd wait. same advice..different kid.
ya with me?
Dwane, I love the way your mind works.
This is just a thought...
you never know if you're really "better" or dedicated to your new path unless you've been tested. Without passing the test, everything is just a theory.
Consider this your test.
Bigger and better things usually come next.
Oh yeah... you're still my hero!
Thank you my peeps. Kim, it's Rilee. Not Red. 
Although I know all of this is very Serious with a capital S - your post had me lmao. I'm glad to see you sticking up for yourself!
There's only so much you can do, and it can't be fixed without both people wanting to fix it.
You're doing the right thing.
We all love you.
i agree with "kimmyk" regarding Red, I don't think that right now it's the right time. In regards to le hub; I'm sorry. Would you be moving out before the trial???
Someone already said it better than I ever could:
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of every day's
Most quiet need, by sun and candlelight.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love with a passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.
.......... Elizabeth Barrett Browning
You tried so hard to keep things together for your family. To succeed you would need lehubs to PARTICIPATE with you, to work on things with you, and from what I gather, he just wouldn't do that. Sadly, honey, you can't have a relationship all by yourself. Bless you Anna for trying so hard. And yes, I love love love you! LOVE! ac
girl you hang tough...have recently stumbled upon your blog....have respect and admiration for you!!!....posotive vibes and love sent your way!
I love you bunches! Did the hub suddenly forget what he did to you? Was that your fault too? Forgive me for being so brash, but he is an ASS! Many hugs to you!
Oh yeah.
I love you this much...*extending arms as far as I can*
I am completely with you as far as not wanting to stand by and accept responsibility for everything that is happening-enough is enough.
As far as telling Red about his dad, I'm not so sure I would do that-right now at least. I'd wait and see what his sperm donor of a father decides he wants from all of this, because if you alienate Le Hubster from Red because well, let me rephrase that...IF Le Hubster decides to remove himself from Red's life if you drop that bomb and the sperm donor waltzes in and then leaves as quickly as he came-Red is going to be left holding the bag. Think that one through and weigh it out.
I'll be sending good vibes your way...sadly small town people don't have much forgiveness...
Yeah, "turn it over".
I would reply "I AM turning it over, and over and over and over. In my mind. Mental masterbation I like to call it. Giving all my powers away? Were they crazy? I ruled the world, don'tca know? What would happen if I actually turned it over to some unknown source? Surely that source could not do as well as I had been doing, right? Yeah, riiiight!! I was doing so well though......
I am so glad that you are no longer taking TOTAL responsibility for all of your marital woes. Geez Anna, even Superman needed Lois Lane to help him out of some of his situations. Your husband can no longer play the victim if you don't let him. END OF DISCUSSION! LOL!
Love,
SubMom
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