It isn't just that we don't have an apparatus for comforting the bereaved, or easing the passage of those in an altered state, we don't any longer seem to even want to recognize that it is a state of change that even exists and that lasts for more than the week of the funeral.
We seem to want everything to be easy and simple and solvable with three counseling sessions and a pill. It is sad, because the denial of grief is the denial of feelings in general.
You have no idea how much I needed to read this. After the school shooting so near to my home, the local paper has been the source of information. I hear that they let the teachers in on Monday. They want to get back to the students. Everyone seems to be rushing the process, and it bothers me.
Does Emily say anything about when you haven't let yourself greive, and then you want to go back to that moment and greive because you realize how important it is?
I agree.
Since my grandfather died, I've been wearing dark colors and no jewelry except a bracelet that he gave me. I wish that society still had crepe armbands or other signs of mourning; I still hurt, and I don't want to go out to parties, and, even though the burial was during spring break, I really didn't want to be asked if I'd had a good time.
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