The Boy on Top
I walked out of job after 5 days because of a boss (a female boss) just like that.
Best thing I ever did, workwise - even though I was unemployed for 2 months I then found the job of my dreams.
Yeah, I had to put up with him for a while. Mortgages and children, and no jobs to be found (though I was looking hard)! TB
I always used to think that there was a language problem, and we ought to have separate words for "unbelievably busy but not feeling bad about anything long-term" and the stuff that makes people ill. But I've read more about the physiology of stress since, and I don't think you can separate out the physical effects of as it were "good stress" and "bad stress". But I agree with you that good stress is fun!
Could you have got your ex-boss binned for saying that to you in front of witnesses? You almost certainly could in the City these days, but I can see why you wouldn't want to go through it. The only comfort I can offer is that when people like that stop being effective in their jobs, they usually fall a long way very fast because so many people hate them including undoubtedly HR.
Its sort of a yes/no answer. I most likely could have by going externally legal, but might very well have made myself unemployable. LL and I discussed it very seriously, and my major worry was in backing away from a fight that would leave him able to do the same to others. Which indeed happened. The main problem was he had a lot of protection from the top, and in my leaving I had very careful discussions with a number of people to ensure they knew of the problem. Thing was, the bosses in the US very definately knew of his behavior, but considered him invaluable for his commercial relationships, so was willing to take a legal liability risk. Business is shite sometimes. TB
There's also the matter that, if you make a formal complaint, you are obliged to focus on the problem and that gives it control over your life. If you switch off from it, as far as you can, it's easier to cope with.
For a long time, I had a good deal of stress in one aspect of my life and I counterbalanced it by taking on more and more responsibilities in other places. It worked and I got through it, though it took some time to recover afterwards. Now I'm happy and relaxed and finding myself offering to take on the challenge of more work (and good stress) again.
Glad things are good with you at work and home.
Thanks! TB
Conflict ... aiii! I hate it and definitely find it to be the most stressful part of my life. Conflict at home is the worst because it is generally where I find solace ... but conflict as work is more pervasive / constant.
Its funny how the two can counterbalance. What is the worst is conflict at both home and work, which I had for a short while. Ick... TB
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