The Boy on Top
Chap rarely complain when the seat is left down and we have to lift it up. Some say this just proves how easy going and adaptable we are.
I shall now wait for the cyber slaps from the ladies.
I tried a compromise with the wife. If I have to put the seat down, she has to put the lid down also.
So, in our houshold I never forget to put the lid and seat down, but she rarely puts the lid down.
Mind you, she's the only person I know that can come in to the house, dump her hand ba, car keys, phone, briefcase and now changing bag for the baby n the hallway floor and just leave them for me to pick up whne I trip over them. She then alwasy says "I was just going to pick those up".
Still, we're still together and mostly happy 
I don't any more say "you never" unless it is absolutely, literally true. I say "I can't remember the last time" or "I remember the last time you did it, and it was too long ago" (this is devastatingly effective, I'm a mean arguer!).
I've also made the decision not to fuss about things like that. My husband doesn't nag me, so I don't nag him. I think women are so accustomed to being the ones in charge, domestically (however much paid help you have, or how much the man does, it's how we think) that we think we have the right to say how things should be. My view (after all these years) is that my opinion is not more valid than his. So, if he chooses to leave the seat (oh, if only it were just the lid) up, that is his choice. If he wants to leave socks on the floor (he doesn't, actually), it only becomes my problem if he expects me to pick them up.
This isn't an answer to your conundrum. Just a different way of thinking about it.
Ah, a practicle woman. Alas LL is firmly of the opinion that in things domestic her view holds precidence. I think that's a little to firmly ingrained for her to change. All I'd like is to shift her management style a little... TB
Things like that go over my head - really. I can't see the point in getting het up about those little details. I'd just put the cover down if I saw it up.
People make far too big an issue of the little stuff.
True, but sometimes you got to thrash the little stuff out to make sure they don't turn into big stuff. TB
Of course, if you put the lid down then there's no way of showing you have. It's only visible when you haven't. Probably LL thinks you have a Bladder of Steel and only go to the loo twice a day.
It'll get better when the children are old enough to blame. You can have hours of happy bickering about whose fault it is. As long as you aren't careless enough to use the en suite, of course 
The answer to your question is contained in the direct quote from her.
What she has to do to get you (nearly) always to remember is sometimes to say "I do love it that you always remember to put the toilet lid down just because you know I like it that way" or something like that. Just a little loving acknowledgement that you're doing it for her, because of her preferences, not because there is some moral or practical rule that says that toilet lids should always be down.
Maybe as she asked, you could answer?
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