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oh no! ~HUGS~ I'm sorry to hear that - that really sucks!!
although at least his heart rhythm is more normal - I've never been able to really lay my head on Sam's chest because his heart just doesn't sound right to me - and even when it does sound right I'm afraid it won't haaaa
I hope they are able to get everything sorted out soon so Allan can start feeling better
although I HATE BP meds... ever since I've been on them I've gained even more weight, have less energy and stamina - all of which make it that much harder to work toward getting to a place where I don't need them anymore
anyway you guys don't have a blood pressure monitor at home?
kitty, I hear you about laying your head on Sam's chest. 'Hear' you...get it? hehehe Never mind.
I don't pretend to understand how all this works because Allan has been on his blood pressure medications all along so what the interactions are is way beyond my comprehsion.
I was discussing whether or not we should purchase a home monitoring kit yesterday with my gf who is a cardiac nurse and she said not to rush out and purchase it, that it can cause more problems by causing people to over monitor. We'll see what the next couple of days bring. He has to go back to our GP for a follow up in a couple of days and I'm hoping his pressure will be better.
well I don't know nothin' about over monitoring - there was never a time where I did mine like 30 times a day... NOPE
I didn't do it 3 (or more) times in a row and take the average... or anything crazy like that HA!
I would think that as long as you're not a fucking wackadoo (like me) you would be ok
I actually got mine from my grandfather and was using it because I wasn't able to go to the doctor as often as I should have been - I wasn't on medication (like I probably should have been) and wanted to keep an eye on it and see if I could determine when it was high and if I could link it to anything (which I did) so it has actually been pretty handy for me
I'm totally ok with it now... I only check it a few times a month - it's also a heart rate monitor so sometimes I use it for that too but I don't overuse it anymore because it really can make you crazy haaaa
Do what they say to do, so glad he went in and got checked out. Keep us updated! {{{{hugs}}}}
Jocelyn, if he's not feeling well, he's not feeling well. Don't play doctor no more. :P
He'll be fine!
{{{hugs}}} you really do need them right now! Allan has smart doctors, trust in them and take one step at a time. I know it's tough...deep breaths!
As for the BP machine, I wouldn't rush out to get one either...I think it could possibly cause more anxiety. See what the doctors think about checking it at the machine available at the local pharmacy...that might be a better solution.
Keep us updated! And don't feel guitly...you are human...of course he was feeling better because this was the solution, the fix, the thing to do and Allan was just being cranky and impatient with his recovery! It's natural that you would react that way, especially after the long road already travelled. You are not an asshole and stop feeling guilty! The doctors on are it!
xoxo
kitty, I think you have proved my friend's point. lol. Given my perfectionist personality I would most likely drive the poor man out of his mind wanting to check his bp every hour to see if it was normal. Even if it had been, it wouldn't stay that way for long. gack!
Amber, we heard from the nurse practitioner again today and the cardiologist is happy with what our GP has done so far. She wants to be kept updated but doesn't think Allan needs to see her until his next scheduled appointment. This is all good, right?
Brian, trust me, I have learned my lesson!
Mimi, thank you a gazillion times. I was getting so impatient with him and thinking that it was 'my' turn already! Ya know? My shoulder would get better and then isn't it about time we started having a LIFE again? And sex...how about sex? I'd like me some of that!
But now I just feel like a jerk for thinking those thoughts when the man has been ill. So thank you for the hugs and positive reinforcement. It helps. 
well the thing is... what good does it really do to know your BP is up? can you pop another pill? as far as I know that isn't an option
if I feel like MY BP is up I try to do relaxation stuff - but my problem is more anxiety related
I don't know what is going on with Allan - I would do what the doctors say
BUT if you do end up getting one - you wouldn't have to check it for him... mine is something I can do by myself - otherwise there's no way I would have been over using it - no way in hell would Sam play into that kind of insanity hehehe
This is all good, right?
Yes. And remember, getting a machine and checking his BP every half an hour isn't going to fix his BP.
I know you want to *do* something and I so totally grok that, but what can be done IS being done and you guys are addressing it with the docs; all good and appropriate.
So DO WHAT YOU'RE TOLD! (That's what Dan always tells me...and it works! ahaha! Plus it's hot! hehehe...)
And stop feeling guilty. Dan is still having pain from his surgery and sometimes I get irritated by that. It's not exactly "compassionate" of me but I'm human. You're human, too, you wanted Allan to stop being tired because you love him, you wanted everything to be good for him, you wanted the surgery to have fixed all problems; well, so did I. That is not wrong, you did nothing wrong, nothing.
{{{hugs}}}
Jocelyn, you were probably just wishing or willing him to feel better. That is certainly understandable. You really, really wanted him to be better.
Take good care of each other.
God, Jocelyn, I'm reading back through diaries of when my first husband was on the heart transplant list. I can really relate. After so long with the problems, when someone throws you a bone you just really, naturally, want to hang on to it. You want to be done with the bad stuff and the complaining and the pain and move on to some normalcy. You want the husband you remember from before back.
I was SO clueless to what was going on in my family during "the sick years." At one point in my diary I say essentially, my husband "thinks the kids are stressed." Well FUCKING DUH! But I DID NOT SEE IT AT THE TIME.
Anyway, just sharing all this to try to help you feel better. I truly believe there is only so much our brains can take and everything beyond that gets blocked out. Or we really do go crazy.
So love yourself girl. Don't ever condemn yourself. You are doing the best you can. I really believe that. And that is enough. (That *I* believe it is not enough, but that you're doing your best..that is enough!) 
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