Family is so tricky. It's like we want them to be all that and in many cases they are just a messed up bunch of individuals who want to mold us to their neurosis. (Sorry I am having an issue.) But because of blood, we take much more from them than we would our friends. Sigh. Doesn't make it any easier.
P.S. (Totally jealous you got to meet Sizzle.)
Nat No need to apologize. I understand issues. Wouldn't it be nice if we could select our families? But I guess that's why we have friends.
Oh, and Sizzle is really nice.
I can hear your pain at losing your aunt in every word you have written in the past two days. I'm glad you didn't go to the funeral home - better to remember her as you knew her, alive and loving and funny. Go to the service for your Dad but then you have done your duty and can escape!
u know deep thought ios a good thing
i am told i think too much
or worse
that i am deep
thats offensive to me
Zoomie Did I ever escape after the funeral. I must say that the Villa Florence hotel in San Francisco is quite wonderful. I think I need to return there soon. And Sunday I took my mother to one of our favorite places for dinner -- Salute.
Actually I'm trying to get the energy up to write about some of the food I've had in the past few days.
rawdawgbuffalo I don't do thought; I process.
Dagny, I'm sending good thoughts your way. I'm with you on the taking care of yourself thing - one of the main reasons I joined the military out of college - and then chose not to live near family for the past 28 years. I can love 'em from a distance and visit now and then, but can be myself and live my own life without all that family crap you've been describing. Hang in there - I look forward to your new journey.
Amen! It's so hard to let go of being the caretaker.
Cyndi Thank you so much.
When I moved back to the Bay Area after college, there was a great deal of debating. I decided that I needed to be here because of the wonderful friends I have regardless of the fact that family was a little too close for comfort for me.
abbersnail What makes it hard is when others won't let you let go of the role. Every time that I think of falling back into it all -- OK. So I haven't completely left it but it's less than it was. -- I remember how I felt last Thursday night driving home after dealing with the relatives. And my thoughts were not healthy ones for me. That's when I knew that I definitely had to step back. I have worked too hard for too many years so that I could not fall into those traps.
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