that was quite a post!
coming out doesn't have a right way or a wrong way; and it is loaded with mixed feelings for both parties.
it gets easier with practice
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people will 'settle'with time even if their first emotional reacion is less than what you hope.
good luck.
Hang in there, kiddo.
It's one of the weird things about life: We finally get to a place where we should be happy, and then all this stuff comes up that we have to deal with. It sucks Kris, but it's still better than you where you were before.
This stuff comes up because it needs to be dealt with. And you'll get through it.
Call me.
Hopefully you have had a conversation with your dad by now and it all went well. Coming out is always a hard and different experience for everyone.
hey kris,
don't be so hard on yourself. you do deserve to be loved! and it's okay to let others love you for whatever reason. accept that fact and i think some of these issues won't be things you worry aout anymore.
and i do know how hard it is to want to be loved and accepted by your father yet also wanting to be okay if he doesn't. i went through over a decade of not speaking with my dad because of what he had to say to me about being gay. i was mad at, but mostly disappointed with, my dad for a long time until the day i finally made the choice to break the silence because i came to accept that others loved me even when my own father didn't.
things didn't really change dramatically, but i now know that i don't need my dad to tell me he loves me and accepts me to make me a better person. i am just fine. it is nice though that we aren't complete and total strangers to each other anymore.
still, i hope you and your dad can have a better relationship than i have with mine.
Of course you're still seeking love and approval. Everyone likes it. Especially from parents, those who birthed you. In fact, I've got a friend who goes around actually telling people that he doesn't want love or friendship. I wonder if he knows that everyone looks at him and thinks he's a dork. I loved your post. Crazy emotions, crazy times, ups and downs. Things will level out. It's a long learning curve...for you and everyone.
You're brave and fierce and self-reflective. Life is a PROCESS, ever-changing. And easier if you learn to let things - like your identity - be in a state of flux rather than carved of stone.
*smooch*
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