Testify!
What about Chicken??? It's my Cock Year after all...
You get a different toast. We'll work that out later.
For being the most patient and accepting Non-Girlfriend?
Yea - I'll raise several glasses to Those Who Don't Settle.
Ya Basta to those who think we should!
I'm raising a glass on Monday - we're having a big pub crawl.
That's Mary/Lisa's 40th!
right on - SUCK IT to all you people-persons hanging around people you don't like. get some fucking balls and learn to appreciate solitude over miserable company.
salut to bunny as well
Hey! I was born in the year of the rooster... ehhh chanticleer... too! Very cool. So does that make me a cock?
Bonus points to Bunny for posting the Onion reference as well as the virtual toast (I prefer mine with Nutella).
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
And what's up with those little blue boxes to the right of our comments?
Don't be hatin' on your friends who are in happy but in relationships. Also, I gotta say that all relationships, romantic or friendly ones make you feel like you settle,on some level & at some point in time. At one time or another, I loathe & despise everyone I know but love them too. Call me Sybil!
I'm with Care 
Get over it. This post is not for you! Nobody's hating on people in happy healthy relationships. And don't start nitpicking about how all relationships are unhealthy and all relationships are settling. There's normal settling and then there's being involved with abusive types, etc., and putting up with it because you don't want to be alone.
LOL settling for less sucks hairy monkey balls. I'll be doing homework with my little guy on VDday. LOL and that link to the Onion...hilarious!
Also - that thing about loving and hating everyone - agreed, but since I cut and run with pretty much everyone when they step out of line, this is one of the things I'm working on. Trying not to blow people off when they show they're human and imperfect.
Is "doing homework with my little guy" a euphemism for masturbation? If so, I like it!
Cheers to you, Lady Bunny. Let's pop some Cris and celebrate condoms, cocks and casual sex.
Cheers to those in happy love.
Cheers to those who don't settle.
Cheers to those who can recognize it and do something about it.
And then theres Cheers! to me.
this is my metaphor:
we would have settled HAPPILY for john kerry as our president. having bush as our president is an abusive relationship that we should NOT have to put up with by any means.
difference between settling and tolerating. settling requires that you lower your standards.
*scratch scratch* Well, sometimes our standards are unreasonable. Like why does he have to be a male model when we look like Gorrillas in the Mist?
Casual sex does not a relationship make.
And yes, there's a real disparity between people who are coupled and people who are alone because generally the ones who are alone are too critical of others' relationships when they aren't in one to experience the hell of the give and take themselves. Meanwhile, couples just piss the rest of the world off. It's natural. Except...not.
What about Non-Couples? Can we have a Non-Valentine's Day?
I love Vday - another excuse to buy myself something!
Interesting how a comment war errupted from Bunny's salute to those that are single but seeking.
F'eh, I still don't know what's up with those little blue boxes in our comments.
if you want to put up with serious flaws in your mate or friends then that's fine. bunny was just offering a salute to those of us who don't tolerate significant mistreatment (this does NOT include reasonable compromise) to avoid being a single.
She knows I'm not being a hater! It's just my nature to go against the grain & be the devils advocate.
Once you settle for less than you deserve you get even less than you settled for.
I'm currently listening to an audio CD on emotional intel. So far it's pretty interesting...
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obido...060968?
v=glance
Amen Phizz and A Girl. Very well said.
I totally understood you, Bun.
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Sadly, I have been on several occassions one of those who settled. And I wasted 3.5 years of my life settling on one relatoinship. At least i wasnt married to the evil woman or had any kidlets with her so id be permanentnly attached.
Its so very hard to not settle when you think you cant do better. And to think you are doing better, then find out that you are only settling.
I prefer being single, much easier on me and my schedule. and no settling. well, unless you count settling down on the couch for a night of tv watching. which is a good thing. or video game playing. or computering.
is it settling if I am in a relationship with a Windows PC that I have no choice but to use at work? what about when i goto eat somewhere and they dont have coke, only that crapsi stuff, and i have to settle for tea? what about when i settle on chinese but really wanted vietnamese?
I fear I would have ended up one of those girls that had to settle for less had phlome not come back into my life and rescued me from certain doom. After all, anything less than Phlome would have been settling. :-P Ok - now you can all hate on me for being happy in love.
I love people in love.
I am in love with myself. Obvioiusly.
I think those little blue boxes are comment avatars (fittingly, the guy named Avatar seems to have figured it out).
I've seen plenty of women (and a handful of men) in abusive relationships seemingly because they were afraid of being alone. Perhaps that's what bun was referring to, at least in part.
Then again, she painted with a Much broader brush then that.....
It's not a brush, Hag, it's a paint roller.
Abuse, emotional or physical, is just the most extreme example of settling. Care's right - you have to settle on some fronts, or you'll end up miserable and alone sitting around waiting for Vincent D'Onofrio or Kate Beckinsale (add well-adjusted, nice personalities, and brains, since more than likely those don't come with the package) to knock on your door and declare their undying love. Compromise is what relationships are about. There are also dealbreaker things that you walk away from the table over.
Point being, if you refuse to settle on some things, you'll end up alone forever. Which isn't such a bad prospect - there are worse things, like being those crab-looking conjoined twins who share the husband - but...hmmm...is that how we want to live? Not connecting on that much deeper level with another person? Missing that emotional component, and support.
What a mystery.
I want an avatar, daddy! I want one now!
The snozzberries taste like snozzberries!
Go read her - new blog link. Cate, like myself, refuses to get involved with anyone who uses the word "party" as a verb.
I like how you're essentially debating yourself
It seems to me that you make an emotional connection with someone Despite them not being the "perfect" person for you (whatever the hell that means). It just kind of happens.. then you're stuck with it. Some day you may fall madly in love with some great guy who happens to say "we partied hard last night" on occasion. Then what're you going to do?
In other news, I reckon your avatar would be controlled by your haloscan account in some way. I havn't actually logged into there since I first set it up...
Exactly - I wonder about things. Where do you draw the line between not compromising and compromising too much? Isn't that what we all struggle with internally when choosing whether or not to be with someone? Because on some level it's a choice, or Madonna and Sean Penn would still be together.
The avatar is controlled by Haloscan but I think only premium members can have them.
I like cheese.
And doesn't everybody like cheese, at least at some level?
=P
A Girl - I LOVE CHEESE
Thank you Bunny - a toast back to you hon!
I totally know what you are saying...and I am very happy for my friends who are in relationships. I don't have any friends that do the "settle" thing anymore - I've pretty much cut those types out of my life....not because of their dumb relationship mistakes but because those type of people are usually also the type that are very codependant, subservient and cannot live without a MAN.
I just can't do those types anymore, I don't have the tolorance for the stoopidity.
Amen, Liz. I love ya, babe!
hmm... well, what if you're not SURE if you're single on valentine's day?? i think that may actually be worse. *sigh*
I just fucking had some really tasty cheese curds a bit ago while watching SITC on TBS. I think its colby or maybe a very mild cheddar but its fucknig tasty stuff. cheese is like a gift from the aliens above who give us cheese because we are good and swell.
those little blue squares make me want to kill.
anyone else?
satan!!!
Number 1: I'M A WOMAN!!!!
Number 2: Go to www.gravatar.com. Sign up. Verify. Choose file. Wait for approval. Voila! New HaloScan avatar. Easy.
Go get 'em, Avatar!
Heh, sorry about that; I'm usually better with gender neutral terms.
hooray for gender-neutrality! i had an awkward conversation with my dad about my dating life which involved playing "hide the gender pronoun". fun.
K, I think you're gonna be destined for that kind of thing with some people, at least for a while. Then again I've never had to come out of the closet, so maybe it'll all be much easier and less "hide the gender pronoun."
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