Flirting is all about interpersonal skills. I generally have good interpersonal skills but seize up when flirting. I think a number of women are the opposite when out of balance - good flirts, but don't think of how to use these skills in other areas - so the author was asking people to look at daily situations in a different way.
I don't find this is about the other team's playbook. Men use their skills to get things as well.
I worked in a bookstore for years, with more male customers. Many of them flirted with me, but not often to get a date, more often to get a deal. Reading SF books and comics gets expensive. Sigh.
I have male friends who flirt and put on puppy-dog eyes for(most recently) grocery checkout staff, dentist technicians and their co-workers to get things they want.
Commenting by HaloScan
