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Isn't it more a problem of what group context you're in? I've found that, at some work-related events, who gets listened to is often a matter of rank. Plus, our type of work people have so few social skills that whoever is willing to talk the longest and the loudest gets an audience. Everyone else is probably thinking they agree with you, but have no idea how to break in to say so.
I think the rank issue is probably true of the other situations in which I've recently felt the same way. In the case of the dinner, the issue of rank was very complicated and inexplicit, but I think the person who monopolized the conversation may have been doing so as a response to feeling at a disadvantage "prestige"-wise (not technically rank-wise but in a way it comes down to the same thing). I was irritated by her, but I didn't feel diminished by her, in the same way I have in other social-academic situations of late....
"Do you, dear readers, have this experience, of feeling like everything you say in a group context is either completely ignored, as if you hadn't spoken at all, or considered crazy?"
Yes, I also have that experience sometimes. I don't have a hypothesis about why it happens, but I'm glad to hear I'm not alone.
I think most of the time this is such a completely ordinary part of our experience that we don't even notice it because it's balanced out by other social experiences that go more smoothly. I suppose it's when (probably just by coincidence) it seems to happen several times in a row, that it feels uncomfortable. hmmmm...
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