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I have received two mix tapes in my life. I married the second person who ever gave me a mix tape. I am so ashamed.
Holy shit! *You're* the one who is encouraging these people!
Wait - were you already sleeping with him when he gave you the tape? Because that doesn't count.
I can't remember if I slept with him shortly after or shortly before the tape. I hope it was before, because then the tape counts as a sort of thank-you gift (mentally shoving away a number of unflattering analogies) and your hypothesis remains untainted. If it was shortly after, well, I think we all know who we have to blame for this epidemic of mix tapes. Me, that's who.
ah, the power of mix tapes. when i was 15 a guy in high school gave me a mix tape. i noticed there were some gay-themed songs on it. e.g., "boys say go" by depeche mode. i then slept with him a month later. then we dated for 2 1/2 years. i guess i am just a sucker for mix tapes. any cute, gay, single guys out there wanna make a mix tape for me?
I married the last woman that I gave a mixed tape to. However...
We knew each other for a couple of years (during which I was not single until the last four months) before we started dating.
We'd dated for several months, then split up because she was on meds that made her psychotic and homocidal. And I had commitment issues.
The mixed tape was about demonstrating my devotion and ability to make a commitment and be clever.
My two best-choice songs for the CD: "Annie" by Fred Small (about a lesbian schoolteacher) and "Shut Up and Kiss Me" by Mary Chapin Carpenter.
Ah - but I have such an urge to *share* that my mix CDs should have no sexual connotations whatsoever. I mean, if I was trying to pick you up with some Elliott, it was really, really subliminal 
Heh.
But really - you can read meanings into songs no matter what. Or, you can make a really overt tape that shouts "yes indeed, I would really enjoy it if you would just skip the preliminaries, please
I send Emilin a mixed CD a while back. Anyone wanna analyze that?
Well, I mean, what was on it? :p
I think earlier I over-shared, but there is no edit function that I know of. Sorry about that.
I'm there with you Morrigan. And I'm horrified because the first person to give me a mixtape was a girl in highschool who is now married (or engaged) dang. Thats weird. Second mix tape I made out with him while it was playing for the first time.
In my defence it was PJ Harvey
And it was a CD.
But we'd only known each other a week. So yeah, I think its justifiable to blame it all on me...
I gave my husband a mixed tape, early in our marriage. It had nothing what-so-ever to do with wanting to get him in bed.
Eve, if you've already slept with him, it doesn't count.
And look how I spelled "mix tape" throughout the entire post. I can't even call it a typo because I did it the whole way through. Must have been some sort of brain twitch, because I know better.
And now I know all the guilty parties in perpetuating this courting ritual. Tsk!
I knew Brooke was more than a friend when she made me one. Funny, we have more mixed tapes from her exes than anything else...
I wanted to make you a tape of sexy music,flea! And it had a master plan behind it. I wanted you to play it in the store, so everyone who came in would suddenly, desperatly need to buy the most expensive vibrator in there.
Emilin thought it was a bad idea. That and we never figured out how to burn CDs. Hence, you never got it.
Wow. I had no idea that there were those connotations to mixed tapes. But my sister and her friends give each other mixed tapes all the time; I wonder what that's all about?
No one has ever given me a mixed tape. *pout*
Okay, so the only mixes I've ever made were for my siblings. Erk.
namlet made me a couple, complete with cool magazine pics for covers, only I don't remember if it was before or after the consummation of our undying love. I should ask him, on the off chance that he'll remember. Don't sue me, it was ten fricking years ago. Who remembers this stuff? I can't even be trusted to put my clothes on correctly.
I got a 3-album mix "BOX" set.
I put a tongue-in-cheek "brag" code before that post, but it got eaten. Let that be a lesson to all of us.
Come to think of it, my sister makes mixed tapes for my kids regularly.
This is a confusing concept, Flea.
*moment of silent awe for the box set*
Flea says: "And look how I spelled "mix tape" throughout the entire post."
I thought you spelled it correctly and figured my quaint "mix [no 'ed'] tape" spelling was just another humiliating reminder of my region of origin, but I was going to stick to my guns about it and be all "I love my home state even though we talk funny" about it.
So the lesson is if you'd never said anything I'd still be wandering around all insecure and thinking you were a big slang-spelling expert.
I often used the tactic, and often had great success. Of course, it helps when you are able to sing the sexy/heart-breaking songs along with it, as I did.
Then, every time they hear the song, the remember me singing it to them with "that look" in my eye.
Yes, it was a devilish plot...
This is a big revelation for me too. I have a whole box of mix tapes from teenagedom and a little after, and although they had "connotations" they were mostly of the kind that say "gosh I am really misunderstood, Morrisey can tell you all about it".
An old co-worker/friend of mine was also hit on while married and working at Borders in Chicago. Same supervisor perhaps?
No one has ever made me a mix tape.
ever. 
Oh wait, one friend did. She had a really good brit pop collection. I think it was platonic.?
Wow. I've made mix tapes before for people. And yeah, it was a flirting thing...though I wouldn't have admitted it then, and it didn't even occur to me until reading your post that that's what it was!
Of course, I'm fairly notorious for not telling myself what I'm feeling. But still!
Flea, it's the Automatic Mix Tape Generator!!!!!
Wow. I have made mix tapes for myself my whole life? OHMYGOSH! Does that mean what I think it means? :-o
Bwah, rumbled! 
I'm in the process of making D several mix tapes. But we had slept together before i started.
Having said that, i often swap mixed tapes with the two most heterosexual female friends i have. So where does that leave us?
hokay, so you wrote the thing about the mix taping and it not working like three months ago, fine. so i'm bored. it's tuesday. what of it.
making a mix tape in order to get into someone's pants has, indeed, worked on at least one person. it worked on my sister. she was living abroad at the time (still is) and was the very good acquaintance of this pill-popping bloke who was on somewhat permanent holiday with incredible taste in music (still does). they would hang out, talk about running businesses in sleepy beach towns in cambodia, sleep with other people, and hate each other. from what i understand, it was kind of a nice way to live. but then w. (the bloke) went ahead and fell for d (my sister me). chasing ensued. pills stopped being popped. boozy kissing happened, a mix tape was made (featuring the works of elliot smith, natch, and also love, and yo la tengo). and then d. bit a hole through w.'s shirt. it was love. they've been together three years now.
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