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It's not the stupid ones you have to watch out for. It's the irresponsible ones. And there is a mind-blowingly high number of irresponsible people out there, smart and stupid alike. Some of them already have children, and want more.
I think it's totally different with your own kids. Before I had mine I hated children, did not want them, etc... But I feel totally different about mine to the point of wanting to be a SAHM which I didn't want before them. Now I wouldn't change it. That lady at your work was a complete dumb a#@ I cannot imagine.
Oooh, I love this story! And I cannot wait to see what your child has to do with misdemeanor drug use. Is this the early beginnings of his life of crime? Part three, please, as soon as possible!
Wow. You know an incredible number of remarkably insensitive, inconsiderate jerks. Nearly every time I read one of your stories, I am amazed.
On the other hand, few things are more interesting to talk about than the astonishingly rude, so maybe there's a slant there...
Obviously I never knew you before you had the boy(s), but I can't imagine anyone ever saying you shouldn't have kids. You're a great mom!
i must say, these stories DO make me nervous. i've known since i was twelve that: i was a feminist. that racism was horrible. that i was a democrat or some such thing (maybe a socialist). that i DID NOT EVER WANT KIDS. they all said "you'll change your mind." (i know now at least why you *would* say that to a 12 year old.) however, it inFURiated me.
i'm 30 now, and while i hope to at least find that part of the inner jocelyn or some such crap that would make me not at least shrink from and fear and sometimes really dislike kids, i still do NOT want one. period.
i'm recently finding out that 'more shall be revealed' re: my sexuality, however, there's plenty of lesbians that have and want kids, so that shouldn't make a damn bit of difference, right?
as always, thanks so much for a wonderful story. i read every day.
Hey Jocelyn,
I'm straight, but I never wanted kids when I was younger. Didn't feel the slightest bit maternal. Got married, still didn't want them. Was on the pill until I turned 36. An older friend, also on the pill, had a stroke, so I stopped taking the pill. Used alternate methods of BC until my husband got a vasectomy last summer. So we aren't ever going to have kids, and I'm very happy about that.
Yes, we hear stories all the time about "I never wanted kids but then I had them, and They're The Best, and Now My Life Has Meaning", but that doesn't mean *you* will feel exactly the same way. YMMV.
Morphienne, I don't know that I've had more than my fair share of assholes in my life. I think I tend to nurse grudges like they're bitter little children, is all.
Mychelline - No, it doesn't mean Jocelyn will feel the same way. I hope I didn't imply that, because that isn't at all what I think. This was meant to be a personal anecdote, not a blanket statement that covers everybody. Sorry if I wasn't clear.
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