Great post Goldie. I know exactly what you mean. Although I'm on the other side of the fence... working from home. It feels rewarding to have the kids see what I'm capable of beyond the household stuff. Especially my teenager - who thinks it's pretty cool that I can optimize websites and all that 
The other week I took a day off for dr. appts. and picked up one of my daughters from school. We drove to get the other one (cuz it was rainy) and as we were waiting, my eldest said, "Look at these moms with nothing better to do all day than pick up their kids from school." Whoa! And all this time I've been feeling a bit guilty cuz I can't pick them up every day. Turns out my girls have quite a bit of respect for me for going out and getting a job six years ago for the "selfish reason" that we needed silly things like medical insurance.
I think I'm one of those moms you were talking about. I'm not as partisan on the SAH/WOH battle as I am for, say, breastfeeding, and even on breastfeeding, I am only partisan in general. The specifics mommies and their choices all have my respect. But I never thought about my kids needing to see me work. All of those other reasons? They seem perfectly fine to me, nothing to sneeze or scoff at. Each of them has run through my mind from time to time.
This mommyhood game is a balancing act, and each of us tip the scales a different way at different times. Hard enough for me to make my own decisions, much less anyone else's.
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