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\"Gravatar\"Age is just a number and it should be between the 2 people involved and no one else. I've definately dated my share of younger men and while it was fun and wasn't just about sex, I think I've passed that stage. Younger men do bring an air of confidence, fun, spontaneity, vibrance and energy to the relationship. That is exciting and for me, helped me hang on to my younger years and not face the fact that I am 40'something. I've now realized I want someone older (or same age as me) who is fun and energetic but also has goals, stability, confidence, tenderness and knows how to treat a woman. But, that's just me and where I am right now.
Craze | Homepage | 05.05.08 - 11:17 am | #

\"Gravatar\"I think my preference is for my man to be the same age as me or a few years older.

However that hasn't worked out to well for me recently, has it ?

Ok, send me a young man to try please and I'll let you know :0
auntiegwen | Homepage | 05.05.08 - 12:40 pm | #

\"Gravatar\"I see no problem with older women dating younger men. Shucks, why not? When I was younger I definitely had a problem with it but no that I'm considered an older woman, my views have significantly changed.
The Diva's Thoughts | Homepage | 05.05.08 - 2:43 pm | #

\"Gravatar\"I've always gone for older guys (sometimes a decade or more) because, as a gal in my mid twenties, it was tough to find a guy my age who had his life as together as I had mine. The BF is my age (well, three months older) but now that I'm in my late twenties that makes sense. And I love that we know all the same pop culture references from our \"youth.\" I don't think I'd ever go out with someone younger, but then I don't like people who are younger than me in general. I'm ageist, I guess \"\"
Honey | Homepage | 05.05.08 - 4:51 pm | #

\"Gravatar\"Oh thanks for this post. I'm 4.5 years older than my boyfriend. He'll be 32 this year and I turned 36. From what I am told is that he has mommy issues and I'm a cougar.

When I was 19 and dating a 27 year old no one said a damn word. It was perfectly acceptable.

Whatever people. :P
Jordan Pearce | Homepage | 05.06.08 - 1:40 am | #

\"Gravatar\"Exactly Craze! It's interesting how the preference has changed. As you said, it's where you are right now.

Oh Gwen you are too funny! Look for a very large package in the mail girl. Soon as I find the right younger man for you, I'll send him over! \"\"

There you have it Diva. Why not indeed!

Honey I think you've hit in right on the head. It's about finding someone in the same place you are whether they are younger, older, or the same age.

Thanks Jordan. Don't listen to them! Who you date is your business and no one else's!
lisaq | Homepage | 05.06.08 - 6:14 am | #

\"Gravatar\"Hi all, I've been invited here by Eve-101.com

As a guy, I've had no problem dating younger women, sometimes, considerably younger. I like their optimism, and to be honest but crude, I like their flesh.

However, the \"shared culture\" of a peer is also very hard to beat.

That being said, my lady is 15 years younger than me and for the last 6 years, even though we're from different cultures, we get on like a house on fire.
Luck? Karma? Chance? Who knows?

My advice: Spend time with folks you feel at ease with and tell everybody else to mind their own business.

ADG
andrew goulding | Homepage | 05.07.08 - 7:40 am | #

\"Gravatar\"Cougars is such an inappropriate word! Nobody bats a frickin' eyelid when men do it. Sometimes, in spite of an age gap (unless it's an illegal one), people find a common ground and love. It's as simple as that. Society just loves to put the boot into women!
NML | Homepage | 05.07.08 - 1:40 pm | #

\"Gravatar\"Welcome Andrew! Nice to have you here! Very good advice. I couldn't agree more!

Ugh! It makes me throw up in my mouth a little bit NML. It's nasty. It's definitely as simple as that!
lisaq | Homepage | 05.08.08 - 6:33 am | #

\"Gravatar\"I believe you're right-on. It really is all about personal preference. Those who've been with someone their senior, probably would gravitate towards someone younger the second-time around.
Women live longer than men. Our companion \"for life\" could certainly be that...maybe, there is an unconscious need, which draws a woman to a younger man; but, I don't think it's anyone else's business.
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Anyone, who can find someone who they love, and who loves them in return, soon finds out what's compatible...

Nothing wrong with that, aye?

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Will | Homepage | 05.09.08 - 2:18 am | #

\"Gravatar\"Nothing at all Will...nothing at all! I think you've hit on an interesting point. That women who've been with someone older, gravitate toward someone younger the second time around. I hadn't thought about it that way, but it is certainly true in my case. My ex was 7 years older and, toward the end, he seemed to age more and more every day mostly due to his demeanor and attitude. Perhaps that was more influential in my choice than I first realized.
lisaq | Homepage | 05.09.08 - 8:08 am | #

\"Gravatar\"\"...My ex was 7 years older and, toward the end, he seemed to age more and more every day...\"

Well, that's certainly something I've pondered greatly...but at 50, my gal says I'm more like a 30 year old with a great attitude.

Personally, I don't do the \"Daddy\" thing very well but I know it's a big part of other age-gap affairs. As for when it's reversed...well, somehow it seems more bizarre (perhaps from a gene-pool standpoint, where continuation of the species is less possible) but as I said before, to each his/her own.

ADG
andrew goulding | Homepage | 05.09.08 - 5:57 pm | #

\"Gravatar\"See Andrew that's it exactly! It's all in the attitude!
lisaq | Homepage | 05.12.08 - 6:18 am | #

\"Gravatar\"I'm always a little nervous talking about the experiences I've had with older women because there is definitely a code of secrecy maintained about such things. But despite our society's general messages of denial and disapproval, these relationships are happening, and a lot. They are just being kept secretive for the most part. In my case the experiences have all been incredibly positive and enriching. In every experience I have had, even those in which it was clear the woman was looking for little more than a boy toy, I always felt valued and well treated. I'm not sure that is always (or even usually) the case when a younger woman gets involved with an older man. Mature women, on the other hand, generally seem to take better care of everyone and everything around them, even their toys. It just seems to be part of their nature. Any thoughtfulness, respect and consideration that's directed at them is responded to in kind. It makes for a very strong bond potentially.
Mark | Homepage | 06.07.08 - 10:56 am | #

\"Gravatar\"I dunno about the secrecy you talk about Mark. I've not really come across that in my experiences dating younger men unless, of course, it's all about a secret sexual relationship. I've had a few men suggest that in the past although not in a long time.

When you're talking about relationships, though, I don't see it at all except for the occasional relationship kept secret because family and friends wouldn't approve or whatever.

While there are women who are looking for their boy toys, there are also boys looking just to bag a cougar. Guess it goes both ways, but there's a large population in successful age gap relationships too.
lisaq | Homepage | 06.07.08 - 7:08 pm | #



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