I'm very happy to be the first (in blogland) to congratulate you.
Congratulations. Best wishes for a long, happy, and loving marriage.
And happy valentine's day. 
How shocking that someone would call you on the "father-in-law" comment. I use "in laws" all the time just because it's shorter than saying "my boyfriend's parents"!
Well, I recognize your father-in-law! Hope it counts for something 
Congratulations and best wishes to you both!
Congrats!!
Husband Figure and I chose, deliberately, to not seek state-sanctioned marriage (in large part because we hate the exclusions that you describe and don't want recognition from that f-ing State). At the same time, I know that were I to desperately need to be covered under his benefits, I would have a way. I also feel that deceitful-or-not tug when I talk about him; just today a colleague asked about our "marriedness" and it took awhile to explain, although she understood and is supportive.
Husband Figure and I, in our values and the way we've shaped our commitment, are totally behind what you are fighting for. Just want to express my congrats and support!
If you had told people AHEAD OF TIME, some of us would have sent a present.
Congratulations.
Congratulations. This post immediately brought a smile to my face and a warm feeling to my heart.
Wishing you a lifetime of love, happiness, and support in your marriage.
Congratulations. All the best to your family.
(And I referred to my husband's parents as my "in-laws" before we were married. IMO, your semantically picky colleague can just get over it.)
D. and I sometimes joke about the "in-law" language, which we both use regularly. And at the church that D. and I attended before moving to Small City, we went through premarital counseling with a cool priest on staff there, even though the rector of the parish wouldn't let us have our relationship blessed; the rector got mad when we said something about "premarital counseling," so D. started calling it "extramarital counseling" to piss her off (and to amuse herself--always an important consideration).
Congrats on the relationship blessing--happy Valentine's Day to you both!
Congratulations on the wedding. I wish you could enjoy the same rights as people here in Canada. We're going to a same-sex wedding this summer and really looking forward to the full celebration involved.
Congratulations! (Is there an echo in here?)
I recoil from both Valentine's Day and marriage as being brutishly het-centric, but you've put them both to fine use.
Trust me, the hetro marriage thing sucks. You get taxed more, you don't get the same benefits if you were single, you pay for each others mistake in the past (finacially and otherwise)... UGH. If I had it to do all over again, I'd just shacked up.
Congrats by the way. A friend of mine and her GF are getting married and I'm performing the ceremony (i'm ordained, and not by that online church place either). LOL
Way to go! Like Manorama, my partner (I use the new term Yidg) and I feel it is a political statement not to get married. We've been living together for almost 12 years, so I feel we've really missed the boat on any supposed meaningfulness from a relational perspective. I think I want to write a longer post on this, so I'll continue this conversation out in the open on my blog. (after I get some more work done, wink wink).
Congratulations and best wishes to you! What a wonderful way to celebrate valentine's day!
Congrats!
Rana
huzzah and huzzah and huzzah (that's one for you, one for your gf and one for the ceremony).
Yes, the synonyms and euphemisms get so tiring and none of them really work...my friends and I have taken to just referring to a partner/boyfriend/girlfriend as "my euphemism."
Congratulations and best hopes for the future!
Also, about "partner": when a friend lived in Australia for a while, at first she thought that everyone she met there was queer, because they all had partners.
There's a post about the linguistics behind marrying (especially the illocultionary force of "By the power . . . ") on Language Log today.
congrats!
yes, indeed, our wedding, somehow the former INS was more powerful than the rabbinate, our families, or tax law...but you do remind me to appreciate the options we had.
Congratulations! from a lurker.
This post will probably inspire a post from me. As a het chick with a gay brother I'm extremely close to, I've spent a lot of time railing against the bully-pulpit of "marriage"... and yet I'm about to be married. Thanks for reminding me. About my own relationship to marriage. And about the need to discuss emphatically and openly.
This is the best Valnetine's post that I've read all day ....
the nicest thing i've heard all day. congrats and best wishes.
How wonderful! Congratulations.
Congratulations! I wish you a lifetime of happiness and activism . . . .
awesome post. hooray for celebrating your marriage!
Very sweet post. Congrats from a long-married straight guy who does not take his legal advantages for granted. Given the roles we play in our relationship, my wife & I have joked that she is a gay man trapped in a woman's body & that I am a lesbian trapped in a man's body: perfect harmony! Anyway, thanks for a beautiful post.
What everyone else said, congratulations, etc. That's great. Hopefully it won't be too long before legality catches up with symbolism. But even without it, it's great that you two did this.
Congrats and best wishes!
I hate that I live in a country that refuses to grant the same rights to all citizens and seeks legal remedies to calls for equality.
How can a country that denies its citizens basic rights call itself a land of freedom?
Belatedly, let me add my congratulations!
(I'm still laughing about What Now?'s "extramarital" counseling...)
Thanks so much, everyone! My gf and I are really touched by the good wishes.
Hey - just read this post. Congrats to you both!
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