whatchutalkinbout folk?
You are too funny Nikki...Sorry about your "almost hook up" but yeah, when
a female co-worker can't answer that question about a guy...nine times out of ten..he's gay, because even if a man is your friend...you know if he's straight or gay.
i'm sayin tho...they've been working together for four years and she don't know? she know and just don't wanna admit it. lol
LOL...I don't have to live in atl to ask if a single man with all of those qualifications is gay or not.
I wonder to whom and what was he texting.
yeah, it's not just an atl thing, fa sho. men get insulted when i ask, but i'm asking so that if it turns out he is, i can kick his ass cuz i asked him and he tole me he wasn't.
Hilarious!
And the A is definitely short on Single, Successful, Straight Brothers. If I was still single I would probably be planning to move...too many women in this city.
i don't think the a is short, i just think there are too many damn women around here! i can't wait to move to the ny. larger pool there.
OK, I am really getting the creeps from what people are saying about ATL, yes there are gay dudes here but it aint even that serious.
you're right. it's not that serious. a sista gotta be observant, though. no need in wasting my time when the efforts are in vain. lol
You know this was long as heck, don't you - but since it was Nikki, I rode it out.
Yeah, it's some gay dudes in ATL, which is another reason why it's like 20 to 1 in that piece. That worked real well for me when I lived there, but I can see how it presents a dilemma for a straight single black woman.
Trouble at every turn.
i'm optimistic about the dating scene, probably cuz i'm moving. LOL
I don't have a formula, but I do have a good gay-dar 
Funny you picked him out of a crowd.
Did he ever ask how you knew about his Phd?
naw. he didn't ask cuz i think he assumed everybody there knew about it. he's a supastar in his mind, you know.
This is a wonderful article. I laughed and squirmed at the luciousness of your prose.
but a bet is a bet aggin...im SAYIN dude.
I GOT U. lol
You have a formula?! A whole formula lol
*dead* at you wishing all the gay men were ugly. Lol
all single straight women wish all gay men were ugly. anyone telling you otherwise is lying to be politically correct.
you are too funny, nikki
i gotta agree with clnmike and rich. i live here in atl and it ain't like that. i don't knock those dudes for being gay however i rarely see em. maybe it's b/c we just don't run in the same circles? lol
i think that has something to do with it. LOL
single folk congregate at the same places, regardless of sexual orientation. i see them cats all the time. however, i do see my fair share of straight cats too.
HHmmm, you are a very wise and observant woman.
It is uinfortunate that we have to do this work...so many women are willing to ignore what they know to be true...and so many men are willing to let them.
Excellent post.
thanks for the compliment! yeah, it's unfortunate we gotta put in this kinda work, but it's not just digging to find out sexual orientation. we gotta dig to find out if dude got a bunch of babies mommas or if he's deep in debt or is running from the law. sistas gotta be careful these days. (of course, that goes for guys, too.)
I hate when I see a man who is tall, dark, well built, . . .oh and gay. Makes me want to pull my hair out.
I don't have a formula. And I think no matter where you are now a days you need one cause too many men are not open about being gay.
Hey they will marry you and go to the public bathroom and tap three times on the floor.
Nothing against the gay man, but please be honest about it.
i think alot of gay men are honest about it. i don't think the 'dl' thing is at crisis levels. i'm saying though...as a single straight female, i don't need no debris cluttering up my playing field.
LMAO @ your formula...
Hey...As long as that bad boy proves accurate, I ain't eeeeven mad at it!!!
I suppose it would do a lot of us women some good to adapt formulas of our own...
Never happened to me but I can imagine it would suck [BIG TIME] to fall head over heels for a dude only to find out later on that he's gay.
yup. which is why i have no problem asking up front, but only if i'm interested. if i'm not attracted to him, i could care less if he's gay.
Sometimes other folks can say the things you can't so well. Thanks.
no doubt most of us single sistas have said it plenty of times. lol
Ahhhh back to not finishing our stories! LOL!
i'm gonna finish the other story. LOL i'm actually trying to decide if i should post it here or at pchats, cuz it's kinda raunchy, even for me.
Lmfao! LMFAO!!!! BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
Your equation was right on, especially for Atlanta. You know that women in the A don't let a man that's at least mildly attractive and successful stay single and unattached that long... they'll trap him if they can't get him to wife them, lol.
Is it wrong that I immediately dismiss any single, attractive men I come across in Atl as married or gay? **shrug** lol
that's what i'm sayin! sistas here don't sleep on that! dude is single, highly educated, relatively attractive, with no babies? that has gay WRITTEN ALL OVER IT if he's in the atl. sistas would have had him on lock in college!
QQ is very fucking dead at this post... why are there peeps walking around with broken gaydars??? what's up with that!??!?!
unfortunately, some sistas are delusional enough to think they can make a gay man straight with the golden pussy. those are the same ones who think they got the golden goods to keep a straight man faithful.
This was hilarious! Your equation made a lot of sense though.
thanks! it's a damn shame i have to resort to mathmatics in order to date these days.
Ha!
There is a lot of that going around in ATL.
Straight brothers come up with the quickness down there though. Whenever my friends in Georgia talk to me like they are pimps - I laugh.
It's like playing Madden on Rookie Level out those parts...
it's like bringing a gun to a knife fight. some of the cats pulling that pimping nonsense here would have their asses handed to them in any other city.
I could read a whole book of your writing. It is funny as hell. So dude was gay, and you were right, LOL! Too Much
one of the rare instances i actually hate being right.
damn there's a part 2... this post was long as hell... but I was dying laughing at that gaydar chart
u know i'm verbose. LOL
lol Nikki, my fav bar, hangout is saturated with Gayfolk, but i don't hate bc we have a good time all the time...i just hate the ones who want to play two-sides, who want to flirt with me, play with my hair, but really just admiring my male friends...it's cool though, cuz i can spot them a mile away...it took sometime i have to admit, but i know now and love them all, so i hear ya!
see, i'd have to hurt a guy flirting with me to get with my male friends. seriously. i'd hurt a sista doing that ridiculousness. lol
You're hilarious...I can't wait for part 2.
you really shouldn't be so cute. BLAST U. lol
I love the way that you break it down ... unless a guy is wearing a dress ... it's anybody's guess.
lol@"wearing a dress, anybody's guess". it's like dr. suess wrote a book called "what's that in my closet?"
LOL
Damn. I heard that ATL is bad or the gay dudes, but seriously? Whoa. Good thing I have excellent gaydar.
*smdh*
Does this formula work every time?
*mumbling*
I guess that is the reason why I get the one eye glance. Everyone has a different formula.
I like the post.
LOL @ his moms having a deep voice. Well your gaydar seems to be pretty on. I don't see how the guys in atl do it. All those fine women lumped into one city and they want another man??? WTF? But whatever to each his own. Don't let me move to atl though. lol.
I don't run into the gay men issue too much with regards to accidental hookups...lol. That doesn't mean I haven't had my odd moments cuz I certainly have. Lately I find my biggest two issues to be: 1)I keep meeting UNsingle men- UGH NO PEOPLE! Since when did marriage become the new reason to date? 2)I keep getting hit on by women. LMAO
But even with ATL's drama I've gotta admit I've had a rather decent datelife.
LOL! Yeah, I always wonder about the ATL eligible brothers. My first thoughts are "GAY", unless he proves otherwise.
The Mama with the deep voice is classic! LOL!!!
Hell I've met city councilmen around here that cross dress. lol
You are hilarious...definitely had me thinking about that damn equation!! lmao!
And I am like you...I do get mad or at least bothered when I see a HAWT gay men.
HAHAHAHAHA I haven't surfed blogs in a minute and right before Christmas I roll up on you Ms. Nikki discussing your gaydar. Mine is pretty accurate also and this post had me laughing so loud. I gotta stop reading you at work.
I'm with you. There is nothing worse than finding a brother attractive before your gaydar kicks on, only to have it tell you "Um no sista he's not for you". Just Damn.
You never cease to amaze me with your hilarity.
I'm dying over here...oh and uh, how bout them Cowboys! Tell Jerry Jones not to pick us in the future.
I came back to see if you had posted some more, folk.
LMahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!!!
You crazy as shit!
This was so funny! That equation makes a lot of sense to me. Happy New Years!
Best wishes for the new year!!
Happy New Year lady and may it be filled with amazing moments and last memories.
so, i thought i was the only one who is constantly looking at men sideways these days. whenever i see well-dressed, well-mannered men, etc, i can't help but wonder even if just for a moment if he's gay. hell, i'm even looking at the homeboys that way too. i wasstartled into reality a little while back while in ATL and passed Bulldogs on Peachtree St and saw all those husky, sexy men, in Tims and such looking all kind of luscious hooked up with other men. ::crickets::
while i honestly don't care what your sexual preferences are, please be honest when questioned about it. i recognize that in some environments it's not easy to come out, but wouldn't it better to come out than be outed??
love to live; live to love!
Girl, you are funny as hayell! I absolutely adore your blog!
Oh lord, I was thinking about taking a little jobie job in the ATL for a short spell but stories like this make me wanna keep my ass in LA and flirt with old rich white men at wine bars!
they might need viagra but they ain't gay!
i love atlanta but i really don't know if i'd like to live in a place where a woman is nitpicking out my characteristics to see if i'm gay, especially normal, every day characteristics like having a degree, dressing up/down depending on the scenario, and being single and over 30. i make it known that i'm interested solely on women but damn, if it's this serious in ATL, something's fucking wrong over there.
I know it's been like 100 years since I've commented here...I just HAD to say...never mind the entire post...I am MAD at that GAYDAR! HAHAHAHA!!! I couldn't even get my head right after seeing it to finish the post!!! I was sitting here laughing so damn hard my baby was staring at my like I had lost my damn mind!!!
And yes, your calculation is on point...
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