Your post reminded me of the following footnote from a book called: Plato's Dialogue on Friendship - An Interpretation of the Lysis by David Bolotin.
"Love as desire aims at the now. It wants to drink in the moment for the sake of the moment it swears will last. Its eternity is the moment....Friendship, however, wants to last." Kurt Riezler, Man, Mutable and Immutable: The Fundamental Structure of Social Life (Chicago, 1950), p 198.
How do we get love and friendship working together, I wonder?
How does the consumption of alcohol play into your power to stop? That seems to be my downfall...If I am seen dancing (takes LOTS of drinks) then chances are I'll hook up 
Luckily I don't dance very often!
Alcohol makes it harder. I'm not a big drinker, but alcohol has probably led to some kissing that wouldn't have otherwise occured. If you are trying to avoid having sex with someone, don't drink too much. Dancing is still fun, even if you're not drunk. 
Read "He's Just Not That Into You" Whether that applies to Jay or not, it would make you worry less.
I doubt it would help, but you never know. My worrying seems unrelated to specific situations. What kills me is a lack of control. If I knew he just wasn't that into me, I could accept it and move on. There is a lingering uncertainty that makes it hard to close the door.
Amen! Thank you for voicing this out!
Anytime! Thanks for reading.
hope you have a vibrator handy...i respect your view, but women have needs too!
Everyone has needs. It's difficult to balance physical needs with emotional consequences. I think you have the right idea, though.
well i hav the same view on the sex issue not like im having sex but all i want is a boyfriend and im not into wanting to try this guy out n that one,but if and wen the time is right i would want to when i get to know him much better.
Exactly.
this post is f'n hilarious!!
I'm so glad you saw the humor here!
Where are all you girls who are hooking up? Just kidding. Or am I? I have been on a spell as well. I have no excuse. I would just say I am lazy. I don't feel like working a girl I hardly like just to have sex.
I thought it was a good post until you added the addendum about Amanda and her generalizing your advice and now I think it is a great post. I just hope I can keep it in mind for the future when I might need it.
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