Maybe he's pulling a Finn (Grey's Anatomy) and throwing his hat into the ring. Now that would make for a great series here.
Entertaining for you, horrifying for me!
Glad you did what you wanted and glad you got the message from Owen. You HAVE to get his email address. Tell him you have a good forward to send him or something. It's much easier to be breezy or to make plans by email -- you can easily write something like "checking in, how's life?" or "funniest thing just happened at work..." Much more low key than calling, esp if he's not a phone person. It might give you the mid-week life involvement you're seeking without making it seem to him like things are too serious.
You're right about the email! Text messages are ok in a pinch, though.
I knew he'd call/text you. I guess you're making plans for the weekend. We'll see if Wayne steps it up.
As soon as you wrote it, I knew it too. Weird. Plans are afoot.
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Interesting--and disturbing!
But it should be wonderful for you too! Except when you have to finally choose... but oh, the journey!
Some might enjoy it, but I'm probably not one of them!
(Caveat: These comments are coming from an old-fashioned kind of guy)
I guess I'm from another generation, but I just don't understand a guy texting someone for a date. If a guy is really interested in you, he should have the balls to call. Now that I think about it, had texting been *available* when I was younger, maybe I would have also. But I would have also missed out on the fear while dialing, fighting the urge to hang up before she answers, and finally, the relief when the call was over... Oh well, enjoy your date!
Look, he made contact, and that was great. He didn't feel like calling (one assumes), but he still got in touch. It's fine, really.
I would have fretted about slipping the whole "I'm seeing someone" into the conversation, as well. But it sounds as though you handled it very well.
PS. I got tickled with your liking Owen a "whole bunch" line. I haven't heard the words whole bunch strung together in a loonngg time. I plan to try to use them tomorrow. 
Maybe you can try "swell" too. 
Hey Jamy, you are too much like me, faithful to whomever I'm dating right now, even when there is no exclusivity agreement.
I'm 34, and I really want to be married and I'm not. I have the fancy education, the career, good friends, financial stability etc etc. But sometimes I fear of growing old alone and never having kids.
When I look back at my dating life, sometimes I held onto relationships with people who were not crazy about me. Who did things half heartedly. People who spent time with me because I initiated things.
When your 24, it's OK to try to be "faithful" to someone in the hopes of something developing. It's not OK when you're 34.
All I can say is, don't wait for a guy who may not be waiting for you. Don't refuse every other guy just because you want something to develop with someone who may not never love you want you the way you deserve. You're single till there is a mutual agreement, don't deny yourself.
Good luck.
No denying going on here, never fear. It's just...I think you have to try and find satisfaction in life where you can. Sure, I'd like a relationship, but I'm happy without one too. It can't be all about one thing.
Hey, thanks for the 2 entertaining posts in a row. I'll add your blog to my RSS.
Glad you enjoyed them!
The reason people commented on your Candy blog was because it was linked from dcblogs.com and I'm sure it brought you a lot of traffic (if you monitor it).
Yes, I know it was linked--but that doesn't always produce comments. It did bring a few more hits that day, though.
Oh yeah, you didn't say anything about the new guy being from work. NEVER EVER EVER get into something serious with someone at work!!! NEVER EVER EVER!!! There's only a 1% chance that things will "work out" with the new guy, and out of the 99% chance that it doesn't, there's a 70% chance that it will be awkward, and you'll have to see him in the office everyday.
Not that anything is going to happen with this guy, but I disagree. I do think it must be handled carefully, but if you can't date people from work, where are you supposed to meet people? I'd make sure to take things super slow, but if I really liked him, I'd deal with the awkwardness.
Again, thanks for the entertaining posts.
--Paul
Dating someone from the office is never a good idea. It either results in marriage or a very awkward and difficult working situation. It is mostly the latter for many people.
Marriage wouldn't be bad idea! It's mostly a moot point, but I do understand the risks.
Isn't dating complicated?
I do agree that the Owen thing could be y'all being on different pages in terms of timing. I met a woman recently and we were both on different timing pages..I was on the page of let's explore this slowly and build a solid foundation first and she was on the, please let's declare that we are bf/gf and start planning the wedding....
Needless to say I ran, ran far away from that one.
Running seems like the only choice she left you!
I'm afraid that Owen thinks I'm going to turn into that woman, but that's ridiculous. Silly, silly boy.
My question is: what do you really want from dating, Jamy? What are your goals? Marriage and kids, just marriage eventually, or just enjoying whatever relationship happens at the time, however it turns out in the end?
If you want children, you need to set priorities and actually be sort of directed in finding out what the guy you are involved with wants and what time scale he is on in terms of making decisions. You can caricature this as being "desparate" but it is just being practical. A 25-year old like Owen could easily date you for a couple of years before he even thinks seriously about whether to marry. (Believe me, I've been that charming 25 year old in relationships with older women before, I know).
On the other hand, perhaps you don't so much want kids, and don't feel any urgency about settling down and gettting married soon (i.e., you aren't sick of dating). Then you are in more of a position to relax into relationships that have no clear destination. But there is the possibility that if the guy wants kids he will eventually move away for someone closer to his own age.
I guess all this is obvious enough. One other thing, though: personally I think it's kind of mean to date someone when you're emotionally entangled elsewhere. When others have done it to me, I haven't liked it (I felt toyed around with), and when I've done it to others they haven't seemed to like it either.
If you read the post above, you'll see that I'm not toying with anyone. I told Wayne I was seeing someone. Wayne and I are friends, period.
Also, I'm not sure why you care so much about what I want from dating. You'll have to trust me when I say that Owen and I are on the same page. No one can know with certainty after a month of dating what they want with that person, but I'd say our overall goals are compatible.
P.S. please don't take that last paragraph too judgementally -- like I said, it's something I've done myself before, and it's definitely an easy thing to do while feeling good intentions. I've just come to feel it's a touch inconsiderate, from my experience in how it felt on both sides.
I'm not doing it, so how could I feel judged?
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