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Those aloe vera tissues are gift from the Gods. I am glad you have them to see you through the tough times. If I were nearer, I'd be the one with an aloe vera tissue on hand if you needed it.
S
xx
Yeah, what Stella said.
Disappointed for you babe but know you're strong enough.
Need Postcards? Send the address...
gorgeous, i'm so proud of you. you know where i am if you need me - i'm ALWAYS here for you.
Ach Liebchen ... warm baths, your favorite beverage, pain will go away. You simply have to live it through. Take care of yourself, we need you.
Keep wearing the slutty tops and the cleavage-glitter!
I seem to remember you once suspected me of possessing a glittery vulva? All I can say in response is:
'Try it. You'll LIKE it!'
xxxx
Sorry to hear the news Jay, but so looking forward to your upcoming posts; sure to bring smiles to your readers I'm betting 
i'd already say you hit fabulous.
I'm sorry that you have to be going through this...but I do hope that you will heal, in due time. Sending all my best to you.
The phrase 'widow of depression' resonated with me, not beacuse I share that title, but I have known some. Good luck in your reconstruction.
Sometimes the best decisions are the hardest to live through - but we do live through it - glad you have a ton of support.
Well, just so you'll know, if the cleavage glitter doesn't help you it does wonders for me.
Seriously though, been thru it. Sucks alot but even though the first person you fuck will be the opposite of what is good for you if you do like I did you'll simply fuck them alot to make up the differance. My suggestion... dance naked! Alot! Again, I don't know how good for you that will be but just imagining you dance naked does a world for me...
heh heh
I'm even a letch in my imagination.
Now this time really seriously...
YOU GO GIRL!
Chocolate icing is my favorite, so keep it in mind......just sayin, in case I get invited over for one of those sharing talks cuz I a good listener. But then, you are one of the strongest gals I know
So sorry....
Ben and Jerry are also good companions at times like this.
I went through this many years ago, and I am sorry yet happy for you all at once. If something can't work, no matter how hard you try, the best you can do is move on with no bitterness. I wish you luck (and I wish you abundant frosting and tissues as well).
I read a post today from a sweet blogger friend announcing that her divorce is final. She is looking for congratulations. If you want to wish her well, she'd love it, I'm sure. kathibratcher.blogspot.com
I guess the difference for me is that my wife is fighting her depression. It's very difficult for her sometimes (and me, to a lesser but no less significant extent), but giving up is not something she does.
Hang in there, Jay. You obviously are strong and, in spurts, confident.
Slutty tops unite! (whatever the hell that means)
Frosting, cleavage glitter, tons of moxie...girl, I know you're gonna be just fine. Sending big hugs and happy vibes (but no lucky charms!) your way. 
Congratulations on new beginnings! xox.. I feel like breaking into Helen Reddy's I am Woman Hear Me Roar..but I won't.
Hey Jay, keep remembering everything you have, you're doing great x
To me, I think you are already a fabulous person!!
Buy some new panties and head for the fun! You deserve it!
Good luck!
Oh, and depression is a waste of time. I know easier said than done but it is!
How dare you make me laugh when I want to be sad about this post?? Tube top and bad decisions have gotten me where I am today, I highly recommend them.
May the scars on your heart fade quickly... new york fudge b & J has worked for me in these types of situations, though I haven't tried frosting, that might be fun.
Between the lotion filled kleenex and sparkly tops, sound like you are going to be just fine. I am very sorry to hear about this though, I know it's tough. Hang in there.
I dunno, the glitter on my chest hasn't worked for me and the guys on my softball team keep calling me names.
Aww jay...well, I'm sorry that it had to come down to a seperation but from the way it looks, you're both at peace with it.
Remaining friends is something special.
Time does move forward....and you go out and bare that cleavage girl!
Send me a copy of your itenary (however you spell it)
my husband says that a motorcycle is a therapist on two wheels. ever thought of joining a biker gang?
You are one smartie. I wish I'd thought of the frosting and slutty tops way back when!
Yes, it is time to look after and out for Jay right now. My best wishes to you.
*uncomfortably strong hugs*
Jay I am so sorry to hear about this but I wont say anything mean. I just remember when I first started reading how much in love you two were and this was a year ago already. Yikes Where has time went. Like some one up above said you need post cards or cheerful colors let me know and send the address. You are a very strong person and I know you will get through this trying time in your life and move on. Its not easy but you will. You have us to vent to and have us as advisers. And readers to give you advice when needed. Take care and hugs ok.
You need funfetti frosting (if you haven't tried it, you haven't really lived) and a trip to H&M for 5 slutty tops for $50. It sounds like you're doing what's overall best for you - both in the larger picture, and in the body-glitter areas of life.
Jay, I haven't visited in a while, but thought of you today and decided to drop in. I'm sorry about the split, but I know you tried. And, I also know that you will be okay. You're too sweet to be sad long.
The first time I visited here, I read one of your posts about how very much you loved Jason, and I was so impressed by how real your words sounded. There is no doubt about your love for him, but you're absolutely right. Love isn't always enough. Love is often not enough. Take care of yourself.
Honey, I'm so sorry it didn't work out. I got nothing bad at all to say about Jason. I think you two were really good together. But as you said, you can only go so far trying to help someone else.
Glad you're doing well. Let me know if you need anything.
I hope that your healing process leaves you stronger
I am sorry it didn't work out for you and Jason. I think new panties would also be good therapy!
as I told a friend last night who is going through something sort of similar, you are doing the right thing, taking care of yourself. (I also told her to have more margaritas and more dessert. I think that advice also applies here!)
I wish you all the best in what is yet to come for you!
Hope you weather this well and learn something also.
I remember the "agony" of some breakups. Keep moving and same some frosting for the rest of us-we're all hurting in some way.
try to have a good weekend despite
Sorry!
Well, Hon, I was somehow expecting something like this to come after reading you these past few months... and I'm sure I wasn't the only one.
I have gone through this as well. My ex-hubby is -still- a great guy, but I wasn't doing well in the relationship, and at some point, we had to call it quits. We're still good friends and many don't understand that, but it works. We both have new lives and partners, and all get along really well. Your way of thinking will make things a lot easier, believe me. You might find yourselves again, but maybe also not. People change and that's normal. If one or the other can't or won't keep up with the other party, then it's ok. At least you both tried and you didn't just give up immediately.
I'm proud of you and believe in you AND in Jason! All the best in your "new lives"!
xxx
I am happy to hear that you are focusing on yourself now. You let me know if you need me to send you something! Even if it's just a handmade card! (Although I don't know if the address I have for you is current, so send me your address!)
I'm sure you'll come out on the other side a wonderful and powerful person. I'm sorry things didn't work out. It's amazing how truly great we are and yet don't know it. You, my dear, are one very great person to deal with this whole thing so maturely. (okay, now go get the frosting and apply liberally to your emotional wounds)
and there ARE better days to come.
xoxoxox
I'm sorry to hear that. Sending hugs and cleavage glitter your way.
Have you tried frosting on Ritz crackers? Then you can claim it's a whole meal. I wish you all the best through this time. It's ok to cry and cry and cry and to be angry and sad and happy. I've been there, it does work itself out.
that is one thing I agree with you...there is nothing a can of frosting cannot cure. And sometimes though separation is the hardest decision...sometimes its the right decision, no matter how difficult it is.
But I am glad to hear you are doing well...and well on your way to fabulous.
But if case you need them *hugs hugs and more hugs*
Screw the cleavage glitter. Break out the damn tiara. If you lived closer I would totally take you out for cupcakes and martinis. Care to start your new life in Florida? I'm serious.
I have to admit I've seen this coming but can't exsplain it. You're a fantastic subliminal message writer on top of being just a fantastic writer as well. I guess. I do know you will pull through this difficult crazy time with typical Jamie flair. I know you'll be okay. I just hope you can feel me giving you a warm hug through the blogosphere when you need it. If you need it. And it has nothing to do with sexy high heels and cleavage glitter. If you want to call and reverse the charges, let me know by e-mail and I'll give you my details. Love you lots.
God Bless.
I know it's hard but I know thing will get better.
You gave the supreme effort honey, and I'm proud of you on all counts. Wish we could sit and share some frosting together, I'd even bake you a cake with more frosting.
Now take care of you. Wishing you peace. xoxoxoxox
I lift a shotglass filled with fluffy white buttercream frosting modestly into the air...
"Here's looking at you, kid."
Wow, you came out with it! And what's so wrong about "wearing slutty tops and making bad decisions?" It's how I solve all my problems Just kidding... sorta... I don't always call them bad decisions, he he.
Sounds like things are looking up in Jamie-land, and all us Jamie's deserve the BESTEST!
Cleavage-glitter is a time-honoured form of therapy but for best results, apply frosting first.
Warm thoughts for both you and jason...
Did you just say patent leather heels? Is that the tall kind that make your tushy sway just so?
Oh my.
I have no doubt you will go forth and be fabulous.
Take care.
You currently mirror my sister in almost every way. I know what you're going through, and it's easier to support you and your clothes decisions than it is my sis!
I wish you well, Jamie, and I think you are already fabulous. Every experience has its learning curve and it is a wise woman who knows when to quit.
courage moves forward. I'm behind you for all the right reasons.
I'm sorry to hear your news. But things happen for a reason, right?
It took me a long time wondering what the hell is wrong with ME before I finally got that it had nothing to do with me at all.
Good for you knowing it now. Because it might not make the loss easier, it'll at least keep your self-worth on an even keel.
And dude, that's important.
Be well.
Oh honey, that shocked me. Have just done the same thing too so know exactly how it is for you. It's like being on a rollercoaster, some days fantastic and others bringing you to your knees. Just go with the flow, nurture your soul when it needs it, kick the hell out of life on some dancefloor when that is needed too. Stay strong and focused and all will come together in the end. Oh and don't ever lose your dreams!
Big hugs from across the pond
x
i like the butter cream one best, if you can't finish the whole tub, it's good even cold out of the fridge.
I'm so sorry, honey.
But I am more sorry for Jason, because he's the one missing out.
I think a big sparkly sloppy girl's night is in order! I'll be in Toronto maintenant!
Love, SMJ
Save some of that frosting for use on the next man you club and drag back to your lair (but don't get the kind with sprinkles mixed-in as that could cause chafing.)
I've sort of been reading between the lines the last couple of months, I guess. I don't know where I'm going with this, but I've seen your pain, but more than that, your strength, and it's awesome. Take care, and I'm so glad to see you're doing what's best for YOU. It's not always that easy.
I'm so sorry that it has come to this Jamie.. but you have to take care of yourself first and foremost.. I love reading your blog and don't often comment but felt a need to reach out to you and give you a cyber hug... *hug*.. I respect your need to be discrete during your struggle with this decision and am humbled by the fact you decided to share your private pain with the rest of us out here in blogger land.. Kathryn
hang in there, sugar *hugs*
...and cleavage glitter.
here's to a lot of cleavage glitter.
xoxoxoxo
jay, do we need to start a tattoo removal fund?
I am so sorry , I did have a feeling but I didnt want to ask, I figured it was better for you to tell whatever you were going through in your own time!
Thanks for being around in the beginning when my boyfriend went through his cancer and such, I know I dont put anything private anymore on my blog(all fluff I post now!!) but its all becausee of legal stuff with his kid!!!!
You are amazing and great things will come your way!!!!! I will probably meet you at your book signing!!!
Must be that time of the year cause I'm newly single myself, although your ex is a let better man than mine
{{{hus}}}
My girlfriend of three years recently broke up with me. It is rough.
I am sure things will work out for ya. I tried the whole boob-glitter thing, it definitely did not go the way I planned.
Oh dear. That's so hard to take. I'm very sorry.
On a different note, I must say - beautifully written post, ms fabulous.
Maggie - you are a wise woman.
I'm sorry to hear that you've come to a parting of the ways. Even if it's the right thing for both of you, it can still be very difficult. Good luck getting to fabulous (not a far journey, as I see it).
Poor thing.
been there. done that. hurt like hell. feeling better now.
that's about it.
p.s.: cream cheese frosting in the can is great therapy. Especially if you dip vanilla wafers in it.
good luck, and my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Again, been there and no one could say anything to make it hurt any less. I had to do it on my own & I survived, the world kept turning & nothing imploded.
It hurts like hell, but in the end you'll be stronger for it.
There are enough people out there to help you through, use & abuse them, that's what they're there for.
& babe, you are already fabulous.
xxxx
I hate the fact that I think you are right...love is not enough...damn, it took me this long in my life to admit...or realize that & it hurts to even type it.
I wish you only the best & admire your braveness...add extra glitter & do what you gotta do.
Well Jay I'm sure as time goes on there will be far better days than not. I will lift a glass to you and your new single life, welcome to my world!
Sometimes starting over is for the best. I am helping a friend through a similar situation ... he's been divorced for over a year now, and I think he's finally turning the corner. Lean on your friends, that's what they are there for!
You are a good girl. Email if you ever want to vent or whatever. I know you will get through this.
Ouch. Ouch.
Mmmmm...cleavage glitter.
I'm sorry things went South for you and the Significant Other, but you're a lovely lady with a sharp mind (and cleavage glitter) and I have nothing but faith that you'll land on your feet again. Good on you for keeping the dirty laundry where it belongs.
*hugs*
I'm really sorry to hear about you and Jason.
You can't believe how sorry I am to hear the news. It really does come as quite a shock to me.
I only wish it hadn't taken me this long to hear about it and to offer whatever support you might require, Jay.
*hugs* Sorry to hear that it came to that Jay...Enjoy the frosting and cleavage glitter.
Wishing you much happiness!
Sorry about the news.
*Hugs*
Hot baths and hotter tea.
I don't have a lot of slutty tops, but I'd still go partying with you in cleavage-glitter if you're ever in the O-Town. I'm not a bad cheer-er upper.
The world will indeed keep spinning, but still... a big hug for you. And that frosting sounds so tempting, but the sugar... man, the sugar.
Hell.... I'm sorry Jay. If we lived closer I'd bring you a batch of my very yummy homemade chocolate frosting.
Prescription Strength Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough.
Sorry for your' break-up, but then, you did say cleavage glitter..."mmm...shiny"
:- )
teasin, good luck Sweetie.
Hey, when "The Golden Compass" movie comes out, I'll come up to TO, see it with me.
((HUGS))
Always.
Sorry to hear about your split. Glad to hear that you are doing OK though. Moving apart is never fun, period. Wishing you the best from over on this side of the world!
"wearing slutty tops and making some bad decisions"
And pictures, please :P
Many many ((hugs)), much love. You've got my e-mail if ever you should want to use it.
Been there. Done that. {{hugs}}
Sorry about the break up Jay. I wish you all the best and will think of you often.
I just found you from a link at Mochamomma--who I love love love. I am glad I found your blog. Your post about you break-up so echoed my feelings that I was almost overwhelmed with emotion. I get what you are feeling as I am feeling the same. I will be back to check you out some more.
Love,
Babz
everything happens for a reason. Glad to hear you have slutty tops and cleavage glitter to help decorate the blues.
Widow of depression is what I want to be.
HUGS HUGS now. go be free for a while. and grow.
so i've just stopped by for the first time in 3 months (so annoying my work blog won't allow me to put my personal blog links up on the sidebar) and i've just read your post.
first thought was damn that must have been hard to type.
second thought was more a memory of going through a breakup and only have industrial strength tissue paper without lotion in it and between crying sessions i would take my tub of aloe vera cream and smear it thinly across individual sheets of tissue that i then let try before putting in a basket to be used when needed. since then i've never complained about the price of pre-lotioned tissues.
take care, and enjoy the cleavage!
Late, as usual, but wishing you the best in 'healing'. Glitter helps. Cleavage helps. Find what works for you. You'll realize how strong you are when you allow yourself to mourn the loss of what was. I have no reason to think that you will continue to shine. May you both be well.
Been there, done that, lived through it.
So will you.
Much better than I in fact, as you are much stronger.
Sending you a hug.
I'm sorry to hear that you guys are not together right now. I don't know you, or Jason, but I do know your relationship was often at the crux of this blog. I do relish the fact that you respect your readers enough to tell them the truth...about the break up and the frosting.
And yes, I said relish, too.
SON-OF-A-BITCH Jay!! Oh girlfriend, my heart goes out to you. I know you know you are strong and will get through it. But I also know you're going to have days that are not-so-hot.
I am so very, very sorry to read this. I won't lament the fact that I saw you and Jason as solid as the rock of Gibralter. Or that your talented writing has made me feel close to you. So this hurts. I hurt for you. Jay, I will be keeping you in my prayers. I've had two divorces, and even though they could both be seen for the better, there is pain involved.
I wish I could reach through this screen and give you a big protective hug. Let me say now, if there is anything I can do, regardless how small or big, if I can I want to.
For starters, let me say that I'm back blogging again. More reading than actual posts. (there will be one or two a month) I hope you feel you can share when you need to.
I would also like your snail mail address again, if you don't mind. (You can send through email.) I just want the chance to share things with you, that may brighten your day. Damn it all to Hell! I'm sorry, but even as cynical as I can be about relationships and men, I would have never seen this coming or suspected anything but happily-ever-after from the two of you.
I'm sorry Jay. I'm just shocked. But I promise not to post another comment like this again.
But do know, that I'm here and if you need to talk count me in as one of the 1,000 friends I know you have pulling for you and available for venting, or anything else.
BIG, BIG (((HUGS))) your way, Girlfriend.
With love,
3T
I'm sorry, Jay.
Bottom line. You have to take care of yourself.
Things will get better. Sending good thoughts and hugs.
I wanted to wish you luck on your journey & admire your sense of humor. The slutty tops & cleavage glitter will for sure get you some temporary feel good attention. Stay strong & keep smiling as much as possible!
Aw, snap
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