Can you work out some other display that you could call a "Lene Hug"? Like maybe you put your index finger on someone's nose and they know that is your hug.
I know, touch is an important sense, but one that we tend to overlook or take for granted. Although it wouldn't be the same as a hug, can you manage having a massage? And tell Mojo you need extra cat-snuggles.
I have some thoughts to share on this subject but would rather not on a public forum. I have a silent disability, fibromyalgia, and am going through some of the same issues. I also have a son with cerebral palsy in a powerchair. email me if you'd like. "Hugs."
I agree with B - I was going to suggest massage if you're up for it. It's not the same, but it's still gentle, loving touch.
I am reliving my old RA days, from before mine decided to be lupus when it grew up. A friend thought a back massage would be the thing, and it was so very well intended, but one touch and it was stop, please get away from me!!!
But there are other ways to be hugged. And to be touched by the spirit of a friend is in some ways more intense than anything physical could ever be. Remember the doctor who looked in my eyes while I was frozen. If you can hug, too, that's icing on the cake, but it's not the most necessary part. Being there for each other is. And I am deeply grateful for the times you have been there for me, Lene. I have never met you in person, but I have been deeply touched. I will forever be grateful for that.
I'm thinking of you.
Even when I'm all the way across the room and couldn't possibly reach you, I'm kissing you on the cheek.
I love you.
Me
Have you had to give up being hugged, or just hugging others? I know it's not the same at all, but the Lene Hug development sounds like a good alternative.
Okay, a "good" alternative meaning the best of the crappy alternatives...
Here's bisoux on both cheeks (because we're like that over here in the next province): * et *. And a hug of the mind.
On Lene. I'm so sorry. It isn't quite the same, but here's a cyber-hug -- ((Lene)). Or as my daughter says -- "mental hug" ...
Reiki would be better than a more traditional type massage, as it is only touch. (and sometimes not even via phyisical touch)
Consider your self hugged! 
Lana
I'm with the some of the others...we need to come up with a "Lene hug" for in person. You already get our cyber-hugs reguarly.
As far as the cold drafty season that is almost upon us, would a shrug be a good item for you? It wouldn't fall off and could be snuggled up around your neck and shoulders.
The only constant is change, huh? Here's another psychic hug flying at you. ((*))
And another one for tomorrow morning. ((*))
So very sorry for this latest change. Hope you can mourn the loss deeply and find an alternative very soon. Need something if only for the Tinks.
I also hope that someone gives you a shawl or wrap or something that keeps your neck and shoulders warm and reminds you of all the good thoughts sent your way.
Be strong in the moment. Strength for the future will come.
Maybe a good time to remember that "If the world didn't suck, we'd all fall off...."
Your entry reminds me of that exercise they do in psychology class where you have to write out on slips of paper all the things that are important to you, and then they are taken away, one by one. Which, really, happens to us all sooner or later. It is just hard. No getting around that.
You have good friends who are rooting for you, though. I can tell from reading Stephanie's blog that she thinks a lot of you, and I came here tonight from Alison's blog.
You can live without hugging physically. Would you be able to live with the extra pain hugging would cause you? You're still you and obviously many people love you just the way you are. Chin up and maybe simple hand-holding will be enough to take place of hugging.
Stay positive. Thinking happy thoughts of you!
I've been in and out of here a dozen times wondering what to say to give comfort. Seeking to give and receive comfort is the core of what it is to be human after all. I've nothing clever to say nor life-altering advice to give; just thinking of you is all, grace
I note that Judith has yesterday and today covered for cyberhugs. I'll send you one to be delivered tomorrow. {*}
Well. Darn it!! So sorry that every time you get things to where you can live with them, the universe throws another straw on the fire (to wildly mix metaphors). No solutions jump to mind, just know you are special to all of us.
{{{hug}}}
bonnie
I'm not a natural hugger but I like receiving them. And I'm better at giving than I used to be. I envy people who have a natural hugging instinct. I know how much I'd miss it if no one reached out to me. Cyber-hug to you.
There's gotta be a modified hug. There has to be. We NEED touch and contact. It's funny, my kidlet and his Asperger-y thing, he doesn't think to touch, and I'll go a long time without, (though I touch him a lot, rub his back and ruffle his hair) and then my friend that I don't see very often comes over and hugs me and I almost cry. We need it, Lene, you can't do without it completely, really.
The idea of a customized hug rates some thought -
Cyber Hug for the day after tomorrow {{**}} -
(((((Lene)))))
This is a very vulnerable post. There are no words. I am thinking of you.
Michelle
Thinking of you.
If no hugs, then how about a kiss on the cheek? Form of touch, expression of caring...
Me, I'm on the side that it's going to get better..you know, sending those positive waves to the universe..
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