Moving is always hell - getting used to a new space always takes time even when it's a move you've been looking forward to. Don't rush it. Take your time and give yourself a chance to aclimatize yourself. You'll get settled and be happier before you know it!
Unfortunately there is no magic wand my dear. I agree with Sister. I have moved at least half a dozen times or more and you have to realise it takes time to sort things out. One way that works for me, is to do 1 room at a time and go from there. :)
I know this sounds like Pollyanna but you just have to do those things. You need to ge the art up on the walls.
Frig goodwill. Throw the stuff away if it's easier. You're allowed to do that sometimes. Call the homeless shelter on the corner and ask them if they need any of the stuff you don't need and get them to come and get it.
Invite two friends over, people with good visualization skills, and have a storage planning brain storming session.
Write down the suggestions. If it means buying or building shelves get John to build or buy them. Or pay someone to build them.
Buy one of those big rubbermaid things that go outdoors, put it under the fireplace window and you can store some stuff in there.
If I left any of my shit, throw it away.
Invite your father and Scott for dinner, or lunch on the weekend.
If you need help ask a couple of people to help you. Then go out for dinner.
You're not good at feeling "homeless". It makes you really ineffective in all areas of your life. Don't do this to yourself.
It's fine to miss Guelph. It's possible that you'll miss it so much that you'll want to move back. That's not the end of the world.
It helps me to give myself a time frame. If after a year you still don't feel at home in Toronto then maybe it isn't for you.
Find a cleaning lady who will do the laundry and put it away.
Volunteer somewhere.
Go to the theatre at least once a month.
Go to the beaches with a book and sit near the boardwalk for a couple of hours.
Find author readings and go to something by someone that you'd never read. Readings don't last long.
You already know all this shit. You do have to do it though.
I can sympathise with you. I once moved five times in one year. It was hell. It sounds like you just need time to acclimatise to the change. You don't really sound as though you're ready to do all that stuff like putting up art, etc. and personalising/claiming the speace, because maybe to do so makes the change in your life permanent?
It's fun to live in the moment and whine by the way.
By the way, your mum is completely wise.
Hang in there sweetie. and call EM and I for beer and scrabble.
Okay, so your mum and you are related huh? Did you guys have some sort of mind meld because you sound the EXACTLY THE SAME when planning.
There are a few tricks to living in a big city - what works for people varies, but there are a few things I have found to be really important, that I suspect you will too. One really nice thing that clears my head immediately is spending time in the park. Find a really nice one, and spend some time there with John. A picnic, just lounging on the grass...whatever. I found when I was first trying to move into my house that I needed time away from it. The tasks were overwhelming. Clear your head, relax, eat some of the best food in the world (cause you will have made it), and hang out with John. Do that a couple of times, and you will be amazed at how much better you feel.
You have to deal with your house because you won't be happy if you don't, but this should give you the head space to do it. Then you can plan the party you always do, have some friends over and fix the place up the way you really want it.
Guelph is easy, but I think you were right to assess that it wasn't fitting your life well this past year. Our friends have mostly moved away, and your job is in Toronto. Mind you, Toronto life may not be right for you either, but it is too soon to tell. The adjustment time is going to be much larger than any other move you've had because so much is different.
Anyway, I've written more than I'm sure anyone cares to read in a comments section. I think I will stop. Now.
yep. everyone is right.
and paddy, make the comments as long as you want. it's my blog and i said you could. ;)
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