I read a cute little cartoon book on relationships one time (actually while sitting on the porcelain throne at a friend's house, so its a quick read) about "the two-step."
Basically the book suggested that often in relationships, people become either the chaser or the chasee. However, one of the ways to break this dance is to stop being either.
If you turn around and stand where you are, the book suggested, the chase ends. If the person is meant to be your friend and/or lover, then they will stop as well. If not, they will run away.
I guess the gist of this is that if "bill" goes away now, it will be okay.
OTOH, it was a cartoon book on the toilet.
In any case, enjoy the game if/when you are playing it. That's what games are for.
So I had an epiphany when I was about your age. Until then I thought it was necessary that everyone like me. Then I worked with a woman who didn't like me at all. Not one bit.
I fretted over it and one day I realized that I didn't like her either. In fact there were quite a few people that I didn't like. This being the case it must follow that there were quite a few people who didn't like me.
And that was fine. That was the epiphany, that not everyone was going to like me and I didn't have to like everyone. Freedom!!!!!!
I can't tell you what a relief it was to admit that there were people I didn't like and to know that I really didn't care if they liked me or not.
It would probably be different if I really liked someone and they didn't like me but so far that hasn't been an issue.
Here's a funny thing though. I ran into her, let's call her Ferret Face because that's what Charlie called her, and she acted like we were long-lost friends. Very weird.
Ferret face? That's an awesome nickname!
Okay, the fact that you did a purple update epiphany cracked me the hell up. Great stuff.
I think you should write a post called purple epiphanies
Hmmm I am not sure how I feel about Bill, maybe he is just guarded. Maybe he is a total doody head. either way I totally get the desire to want to get to know him better. Not that I am bragging but I sort of get the person who wants to be my friend who I have no interest in. I try to be nice, but I am also always aloof to that person. Its not my fault, I just do it.
noone- yeah, that actually usually is what happens to me. i remember saying to john once 'but, i don't get it, i'm mean to her, why does she want to hang out with me?' and he said 'because, meg, your version of mean is kind of most people's version of nice and polite'
as for bill, i don't think he's a doody head at all. i think he's just not very interested in getting to know me, and lord knows there is nothing wrong with that.
Know exactly what you mean about someone being so apathetic to you. Though in my case I think I'd prefer they dislike me rather than just not care. I think maybe some people are just like that. Must be a lonely existence though...oh, and nice blog.
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