Tell me what you really think.
I don't have any idea. What made me sad lately was to hear that girls as young as 11-12 are giving blow jobs in the back of school busses and letting everyone look while they do it. And they don't even have sense enough to get reciprocated.
In a larger sense, I feel it is the pendulum (sp?) swinging far to the left--and as it always does, it will swing far to the right again soon; it happens almost as inevitably as the tide. I regret/resent the overly-permissive nature of today's society as much as I resent/regret the overly-restrictive nature of societies past. Why can't it all be like when i was a child, everybody cared for everybody else, and wars were things only Americans were interested in? 
I teach 6th graders, and they were discussing the books that they are reading. One made a comment that Harry Potter was a loser. The reason? He's still a virgin.
:O!!! The kids are 11 years old!
It's so sad to hear that kids have these ideas that sex will make them popular or loved (as i have heard in my office when i was a counselor), and its even more sad that some of them don't feel like they have an adult to talk to. I hope this changes, I really do. I take hope that in me running a group every winter with a group of middle school girls, I'm able to have a candid discussion with them on relationships and be open with them why they shouldn't be sexually active. I just hope that talk stays with them and they make the right decisions.
It's the fault of some parents and the schools. You can teach your kids right from wrong, but they're still gona come in contact with the idiots who haven't been taught a thing.
Most schools blame those parents for their disregard of upbringing, but that's no excuse for those schools lack of supervision.
The media also has a hand in this. They pump out crap in quest for the big bucks, not caring who might be viewing.
Elected leaders can straighten most of this shit out, but they're too busy filling their pockets.
Sorry if I'm making you cry again, Mamacita.
Oh dear heavens...I have little hope for my monkey growing up. I think I"ll join you in your cry fest
It's conversations like the one you reported in this entry that make me glad I have dogs, and not kids.
Dogs are safer.
And you can spay them.
I've heard the foster kids that I work with talk about sex and none of it includes mention of waiting or of being in love beforehand or any of the lovely, trite things my friends and I used to say. Part of it is that they do not have the World's Best parents (understatement) but I think, too, that there's just not enough value placed on, well, "values" in their lives in general. They watch TV, play video games, go to movies, goof off on the 'Net, and listen to the news...you just don't see a lot of stories in any of those mediums that celebrate having good morals and behaving in a way that would make your grandmother proud. (Am I the only one who still pictures my - now dead - grandmother watching me whenever I have a tough decision to make???) What happened to The Wonderful World of Disney and The Waltons and Eight is Enough and other shows where families were happy and loving and supportive and kids didn't exist solely to be disrespectful and mocking of their parents?
Man, I think my blood sugar's low or something - sorry for the rant.
I'm not sure I really understood any of the sex and female period thing as a junior high student. I don't know what we are coming to and that pendulum has been way over to the left for so long I think it is stuck. Actually I don't think it is a pendulum, more like a downward spiral with the edges greased for lightening speed. I almost hope my daughter decides not to marry and have kids... I cannot imagine what depravity will be in store for them.
I read your story about the weather. I have lived a good part of my life in either northern Indiana or Oklahoma and Texas. Tornado alley. We lived through a tornado when I was in junior high. There is nothing like it. That strange color to the sky and the quiet, that hot still quiet where the birds don't chirp and the crickets are still. The lightning looked as if it was streaking from ground to sky and the pressure change and noise was so loud. We had a basement, thank goodness. After that, any hint of a tornado watch sent me to the basement for hours.
I have the same problem. I remember whe I had to explain to an assistant principal the different levels of "virginity" that these kids now believe in.
And I taught middle school then. Ewwwww.
When I was in 7th grade, my mom sent me to a class to learn about sex. And I remember thinking, after hearing the description of oral sex, that this was some big crazy lie made up by men to try to convince us that such a ridiculous thing could be fun or "cool." Kinda like thinking knee high socks and gauchos look good together.
Eight is enough?!
It is normal for each generation to look back on the generations following them and lament over the lowering of standards, wildness and promiscuity. Ancient Greek writers mourned the same issues over 2,000 years ago but you would think they were talking about today. I am not saying that I am numb to the pressures our youth today face but that it should be taken into perspective. Being a child of the late 60's and 70's I recall junior high and high schoolers being sexually active, drugs (especially pot) being common place and extreme peer pressure to use a daily occurrence and secret beer bashes for underage partiers were a weekly event. If you didn't participate in these activities (which I didn't) you were ostracized and labeled "uncool" and possibly even a "narc". Does this mean that it isn't even more so today? I can't say for sure but statistics have shown that drug and alcohol abuse in young people is down from previous generations as well as teen pregnancies. Does that mean it is any better than when we were kids? Probably not and statistics tend to "prove" whatever the people financing the statistician wanted to prove. Having a pre-teen myself, I am keenly aware of the pressures our children face and am not burying my head in the proverbial sand or saying, "hell, that's the way it's always been." I don't want my child to fall into the traps of peer pressure and suffer the consequences of their behaviors and I will strive to guide them as far away from that as possible.
I'm sad tonight. What are we coming to?
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14?! I mean I knew it was happening but still....I feel sad for the women these girls will turn out to be. Used and abused for the sake of popularity only to find themselves alone and maybe diseased later in life...by later I mean their early 20s.
I'm glad we have a boy. We only have to worry about one boy; parents of girls have to worry about all of them. We've taught him the dangers of being around girls like those, and we hope it "sticks" so he doesn't get involved with any of them.
LOL @ Kenju's comment. What I find striking is this detachment a lot of kids seem to have between the physical and the emotional. I mean, at least we used to pretend we were "in love" even if for just a week. Maybe that's no better, but still...this is so weird to me, this "hooking up" with zero emotional content.
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