Tell me what you really think.
Well, this is amazing, overwhelming and pretty depressing! The "comments" are pretty scary---wherever they came from...So many seem so very 'clever', if you know what I mean...you wonder if they are/were for real, you know? BUT, whatever.....this is a hideous comment on the state of marriage and fidelity, etc...Talk about a slippery slope! Fascinating Mamacita...just fascinating.
Here from Michele tonight...This should illicit some interesting comments and dialogue, my dear.
This is just so very sad....I sent my husband over to read it.
I know our marriage isn't perfect, but after almost 15 years, I know I am so blessed to have a husband like my Goalieman, and so thankful he's a good father to our kids.
I have a feeling you need some (((hugs)))) after that. Looking forward to reading the positive comments!
you know, you aren't convincing me that i should put relationships on the "to do list" haha.
michele sent me, have a great weekend!
This is pretty interesting and powerful stuff; much better than the stat class I took. One thing I noticed is that although sex was at the bottom of the list of people's values around marriage, it's at the top of the list of negative concerns, It is as though they (we) are smart enough to priortize rationally and then we get all screwed up (no pun intended) when it comes to our most intense feelings and failings. I need to see the good list, too...
You met Kim??? Lucky duck. She has always struck me as both smart and tolerant in all the right ways when I read her blog.
(I could be online to chat. Sniff. We really need to start hooking up, Jane, if you know what I mean.)
Wow! Peyton Place is real! (Actually, I already knew that.) But what a sad state of affairs!
I'm grateful that I have not had to deal with this at all in my own life. I've known (and know!) people who have, of course, and some of them are even related to me, but for the most part, I've kept company with folks who do NOT behave like this. It is its own brand of insanity.
It just seems to me that people are in such a hurry to "grow up", that they don't take time to learn about themselves and their companions. We hear all the time that life is short, but for most of us, it's not THAT short. You can breathe between relationships, if it should happen that one of them fails. Additionally, some people seem to be so desperately lonely that they'll settle for anything. WHY??? I just don't understand it.
#40 could've been me writing about my ex boyfriend.
Sex was always a giant looming Thing in our relationship, and it did, much like this lady, cause me to be less affectionate than I would've liked.
My heart is hurting for some of those people...but at the same time, I feel a sense of relief about Not Being The Only One.
Un-break my heart
Sweet darlin'.
~Toni Braxton
This is just so sad.
Unfortunately, what I found sad beyond the obvious lack of happiness was that the cheating women were automatically "whores," but the best slur anyone could come up with is "whoremonger." Where I live, men like that are referred to as sluts and whores. I find it appropriate and accurate.
Another thing is that so many of these people have bought into the idea of marriage, and probably rushed into it, rather than studying the reality of marriage. The wedding is the focus for so many women (really, girls), no planning or thought beyond that, except having babies. The men seem to look at marriage as nothing more than having someone to cook and clean and provide regular sex. How could anyone end up happy when having one of these viewpoints?
Forgot to add that this is why I was so happy to leave working in family law office. I doubt there are few things more depressing than that.
Good lord, that's heartbreaking.
But probably not entirely unrepresentative, given some of the drama I've seen envelop the lives of my students.
Makes me feel less sad to be unattached. (Really - most of the time I am NOT lonely - I get enough human contact in my day job, so it's a relief many nights to come home to a quiet house).
I always wonder at the people who talk about how much they "pity" me and how they'd like to see me hooked up with someone...given the statistics I see there, I'm not sure that I don't have the better end of the deal.
Wow - that's a lot to absorb.
One thing for sure, anyone who has a halfway decent spouse will be inspired to real gratitude after reading this!
What kind of class is this? Is there anything about the nature of the class that would encourage people who are having spouse problems to sign up for it?
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