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HA! Whale-tail? Is THAT what it's called? How appropriate!
I remember taking my daughter to school and I saw another mom taking her daughter into FIRST GRADE wearing a tight leather skirt, tall leather boots, and a black leather vest. (The DAUGHTER was wearing it, not the mother).
I was appalled. My kid doesn't even let her midriff show. She doesn't like it. (Thank goodness!)
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I always find it interesting at school when the dress code isn't enforced in the primary grades. The little cuties can wear halter tops and spaghetti straps because, "they aren't developed yet, you know". Maybe the dress code needs to be rewritten to read, "Straps wide enough to cover undergarments, but only if undergarments need to be worn", or "no halter tops unless you are still as flat as a board", or "no visible undergarments, until we don't think it's cute anymore". Or maybe, just maybe, we should recognize the mixed messages we are sending our children.
Are these same parents going to punish their teenage daughters for behaving like tarts, and then wail to their friends about what a hard thing it is to raise daughters? Probably.
I never let my kids watch The Simpsons, even though I appreciate the humour of a lot of it. I never wanted to hear Bart Simpson's words coming out of my kids' mouths, because then I would have to punish them, and it would be my fault for letting them watch the stuff in the first place.
Who's the adult these days? Not the parent obviously.
I guarantee you this is one elem teacher that sends the little darlins to the office when their dress in appropriate. Unfortunately I don't get the final say. It's amazing how many prance back to class and tell me they passed muster.
I'm so fortunate that I have a teen who dresses in updated styles but realizes what modesty is. I had one 9 year show up one day with a t-shirt on that said "I kiss better than you!"
Idiot parents was not too harsh!
Idiot parents also call their kids on the cell phone during school. They write notes for them to be excused because they just don't feel like coming to school. They allow them to dress in outrageous clothing that costs us time and confrontation to deal with. They don't seem to care if their kids are doing their homework, learning anything or even showing up to class.Because it's all OUR fault, isn't it?
Only on very rare occasions to I even let my 3rd grade son wear a t-shirt to school. His shirts for school must have a collar and buttons, he can wear jeans and nice shorts with them. Not the school dress code, mine. I think school should be treated with respect, and you should dress appropriately. Also, I am a teacher, and I know how a lot of other teachers are... they will judge a child by the way they are dressed.
We do have a pretty strict dress code in the middle school where I teach. And, thank goodness shirt lenghts are getting longer and jeans are getting higher. I am so tired of seeing middle school butt crack.
YESSSS! I do so much agree. My daughter calls it being a "hoochie mama" and she won't let her girls (ages 7 and 11) do it, thank Heavens!
Parents (esp. mothers) who do this or allow it, are too caught up in being popular. We all know where that leads.
I, too, am a school teacher. Call the parent in because their child isn't dressed appropriately - and you see the kid is dressed like their parent.
Parents are dressing their kids like hussies - it's very sad.
Funny, I was just going through Anna's closet this morning trying to find a sweater for her to wear over her shirt, and I had to smile to myself at all of the pretty pointelles and cardigans hanging in there. I love to see little girls in those, Alas, those days are numbered as she's almost eleven and I'm sure they'll all be replaced with hoodies and jean jackets before the year is out. She's already complaining that I "dress her like a nun", although I'm quite sure there aren't any nuns running around in crap from Nordstrom... But then again, at least I'm dressing her and not leaving it up to other people to select her wardrobe. It's hard to be a parent, wildly unpopular, but it's your fucking job in life when you squirt them out, do it.
I always think of that little girl who got murdered, the one whose parents sent her to beauty contests, and who were suspects in her killing. Even before all that, why on earth were they dressing that poor little girl like that and dragging her around to beauty competitions?
It seemed unnatural, criminal even.
Oh, yeah. We started EARLY on that one; our daughters are not allowed to wear clothes with "rips, stains, or words" out of the house. They can wear ripped jeans on the weekends, but they NEVER go to school. We're hoping that establishing this rule early will make it such a part of their existence that there will be no discussion once they have more autonomy over their wardrobe.
Another advantage I think I have as a parent is my openness about sexuality. I am more than willing to point out to my daughters (who are going to grow up into KNOCKOUT redheads) that they had better be able to handle the kind of attention they attract, and need to consider what kind of message they're sending with their attire.
We've allowed one little exception to the "rips, stains and words" rule: they can wear clothing with the names of colleges on them.
My daughter's school had "beach day" which happened to fall on the day of their music concert. Most the kids dressed in Hawaiian shirts or straw hats -- but one little girl walked into the concert in a bikini. Third grade. No cover-up.
Did I mention this was winter in Minnesota?
What's worse is that I don't think this kid had anyone at home in the morning to guide her.
Don't worry. The way things are going in this country, another two generations and the BRATZ look will be a thing of the past.
Their granddaughters will be wearing either a burqa or a pile of rocks.
Great post, Mamacita.
I should start taking photos and posting them, of the tartlet look and why it is inappropriate.
Two of my candidates for Hell-Bound:
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"They're ten going on thirty," laughs Kim Millman, director of Girlfriends LA, a clothing and accessory company that sells to teens and preteens via catalog and the Internet. "When the kids want it, they want it. They're very vocal. I think the idea of Moms picking out pinafores isn't happening anymore."
Club Libby Lu:
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I refuse to allow my children to display their unmentionables in public, which is hard since all three of 'em have NO BUTTS.
And I was recently enlightened as to what a "camel-toe" is, and THAT's not going to be happening in the Cornelius house, either! Yuck.
"Idiot parents" is right-on!
I sorta have to side with the Headless Unicorn Guy. I hate indecent clothing on kids as much as the next person, but let's not get carried away here people.
Prostitot clothing is no different than child abuse. So says this grandpa...
http://kauaimark.blogspot.com/20...-and-
macys.html
Wait... how old??...
Good grief! It might be debatable when we're talking high school kids, but 6 years old?? First graders?? What the hell?
Have you heard about the Moms for Modesty campaign?
www.everydaymommy.net/everyday-mommy/2006/9/5/
moms-for-modesty/
There are a ton of moms who feel the same way as you do! I for one would welcome uniforms. My cousins kids have to wear tan pants or scooter skirts with either maroon, navy or white collard shirts. She buys the uniforms at K Mart and those clothes last forever!
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