Wow. I can't believe she was THAT clueless as to the possible fertility concern--I would, if anything, have expected her to bring it up in a "so are you and Basil still trying to conceive, and how do you feel about what you're doing on that front?" kind of way...I guess I give either women or therapists too much credit when I say I honestly can't fathom that those words would come out of her mouth. It may be to her benefit if you write her a short but heartfelt note giving her the resolve.org URL and advising her that you felt she ought to have been perhaps equally proactive, but in more informed ways, when it comes to fertility concerns as a friendly heads-up, and include what you told us about possibly seeing her again in the future for non-fertility-related issues. If she's worth her salt she'll learn something and appreciate it.
Hang in there, hot stuff. Sounds like you made a good decision. It's hard to know the right thing to say as you go through this, but goddammit, she got a degree in being supposed to say the right things....
Breaking up with a therapist is definitely a personal thing, and one only you can know is the right thing fir right now. It really sounds like this one just didn't "get" the direction you are headed. Good for you! Sticking to your guns and heading where you know you need to be are not easy endeavors. Good luck with it!
What I want is the blog post: Which is easier, breaking up with a therapist or breaking up with your hairdresser. Both are good stories.
Ha, like the hair dresser comment. If you are sitting in the chair and you know it's just not going to turn out right, you need to find the strength to get up! And you did. I read the etiquette link (had to peak at the correct spelling 
and can now tell you-call or talk to me any time. I can't put myself in your shoes, but I can tell you I'll be there for you if you ever need me.
Sorry she didn't work out better in the end - you'd think she would have at least recognized that this is not her area and recommended someone else!
Congrats on being ready to take the next step. And eek on the therapist's blind spots.
Oh, so the reason you are not pregnant is that you don't have the technique quite right? Who knew the answer was so easy...
I think infertility is something most people just don't get, and secondary infertility--and all the feelings that come with it--is definitely even more confusing. But to have something like that come out of a therapist's mouth? I find that really frustrating. I agree with Yum--she should have at least recognized that this is not an area where she is qualified to give advice. I am glad she was helpful to you overall, but you are right, she is not the right person to help you on this particular journey.
As one of the people who is used in stories about people who adopt then get pregnant, I cheer you on at refuting the mythology.
I had surgery. SURGERY was the magic that made me pregnant, not adoption.
Luck on this next part.
Kudos to you for knowing when to move on. It's great that you can appreciate the good that came out of the relationship but still recognize that it's not meeting your current needs. Easier said than done most of the time!
In my own experiences, EAP therapists are good at the general, and not the specific. I've only had one who really really helped me. The others tried.....I'll give them that.
That said, that crap about the pillows? that's just immature and kinda rude.
i think i am ivf and i have had my tubes tied lol...........lol..................ha ha ha how funny
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