My condolences. You know you can get just as easily attached to animals as you can to humans. Sometimes more.
It's taking you longer to feel "unsad" because it was such a gruesome end to a loved one. You also feel guilty to for not being there for Cinder, but you couldn't have know Kim. Life is so unpredictable and uncontrollable.
You loved your cat very much so why put a timetable on your grief. It wasn't just a cat, it was Cinder, a member of your family so it will take some time. As long as you're not dwelling on your grief 24/7, I don't think there's anything weird about still feeling sad about your loss.
I know exactly how you feel, Kim. We lost our beautiful dog in January, we've had him for 17 years, and I still miss him like crazy. It's the little things that make you realize how much a part of your life your pet is. It's so hard letting go. Anytime you want to talk, I'm here.
That coworker of yours has rocks in his head. When I lost my poor kitty I saw her all over the house for weeks. I couldn't believe she had gone and saw the laundry piles as her. I was shocked she wasn't under my feet all the time, or waiting to be fed.
It takes time to get over something you loved so much and no one should make you feel that you should be on a certain timetable.
Don't diminish how you feel by saying it's only a cat not a human, because you loved your cat as though he was part of your family.
Hmm, would it make you feel better or worse to know that it never completely goes away? Better, I hope, because it means you shouldn't feel bad about feeling bad. Even now reading about Cinders my mind and heart recall losing Snoozy, my cat I had from ages 11 - 28. And that really was partially my fault; she'd had kidney problems for a couple years & we went out of town during the summer & didn't keep the AC low enough for her and returned to a very dehydrated kitty. She was almost immoble but purred when we went to her & I always took that as a sign she felt comfort, & was letting us know she knew we wanted to help, etc. Except a couple years later I read that purring can signify fear as well as pleasure/comfort! Argh, and *sniff*.
Not that they'll ever be a replacement, but you should be grateful you have another furry to cuddle!! We were about to move at the time so I couldn't get another cat for a few months.
More hugs - {{Kim}}
-Kat
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