Someone's talking out of his backside.
On the contrary, I would argue that more young men are damaged by the idea that women naturally dislike sex. "No means yes?" "I'm not that kind of girl?" I'll wager that such phrases actually led to MORE sexual assault in the old days, not less. Truth be told, I'm usually going to respect a sexually active, sexually aggressive woman in the dating world MORE, as she's usually more honest about her own needs and desires. She can say yes, she can give directions, and when she says no, she actually MEANS it.
I can't stand a woman who is so afraid of being labeled a "slut" that she refuses to even get to know her own body. If a woman is too afraid to learn to give herself an orgasm, she's never going to be sexually honest, either with herself, or her lover. Honesty, honesty, honesty. Sex is ALWAYS better between equals.
Sounds to me like somebody realized too late that the sexual revolution was going to entail more work on his part.
Have some sympathy, Freeman. It's easy for you to ask a woman to not fear being labeled, but you're not the one who has to get dirty looks or called names. And, for that matter, all you've promised this hypothetical person is that you'll want to have sex with them - that's very kind of you, but it's not exactly enough. Women who've been pigeonholed into fear or hatred of their sexuality deserve our respect as much as anyone else. What they also need is encouragement and empowerment, because this is ultimately her problem and not yours.
Sara,
Please understand, I'm not merely. castigating the woman here--hypothetical or no. I apologize if that's how I came off (need to work on that). Rather, I'm simply (perhaps inarticulately) venting my frustration at a society which produces women so limited in the choices available to them, romantically and sexually. It's irritating, because my gender has bought into a standard, and it's not a standard that ultimately provides us any real fulfillment. We dupe ourselves, over and over again, into wanting an equal, but when we get it, we freak out. And that pisses me off, I'm sorry.
a brief look into the modern pornography industry demonstrates the utter fallaciousness of this claim that "men need the chase". the overwhelmingly popular scenario in the last few years (and remember, this is market-driven) is the willing woman - the situation is context-free, nothing more than a woman taking her clothes off, shaking her ass, performing fellatio, and having sex. there is no chase, no persuasion, no real dialogue of any kind - just women apparently willing to have sex. and hundreds of thousands of men across the world successfully get erections and ejaculate watching these scenarios unfold, despite their apparent mechanical need to meet with sexual opposition.
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