I think it is perhaps misguided to think that one can find love/mates in the same "goal-oriented organizational" mindset as one would apply to work. I think that only causes you to feel badly about yourself when you don't get the same results from relationships as you do from work. It's not the same process. Relationships and people do not follow the same formulas all the time.
generation next | Homepage | 09.24.07 - 9:07 am | #

Ever since I graduated from college (meaning: ever since I decided to add a little realism to my life plans), I started to actually think about what I want from life. And it turned out that a partner and family is pretty important, so I started to imagine futures where my career could be very satisfying but not necessarily consuming. Relationships and family do take a big chunk out of you, and I've learned to be okay with the idea of sharing a slightly smaller chunk than that with my job. I guess everybody's different.
toughstuff | Homepage | 09.24.07 - 9:57 am | #

Senior year, I thought I was refocusing my career ambitions (from an immediate commitment at law school to more freely scheduled online library science classes) to be a healthier, happier person myself, and to prioritize the person I'd be sharing my life with...

Ever since that person left the equation, I've been a little confused about how much space to leave for the next one.

I also agree with generation next most of the time.

But, I'm highly confused about romance these days. Just give me a special friend (or several) for now, and I'll call it good.
outlawed | Homepage | 09.25.07 - 12:34 am | #