I'm sorry, but this was horrible advice. Each sexual act is separate and independent from previous ones. They should not have been having the FMF threesomes if it was only going to be used as leverage for gettng a MFM threesome later. They should have had the FMF threesomes because both parties wanted to experience it. Everyone has to be comfortable with the situation, and it is unreasonable for the parties to be expected to engage in group sex of any kind when they do not want to.
This advice is the best way to cause a painful end to the relationshi- not that it necessarily will, but chances are good that that is what it is leading to. The decision to engage in a threesome is a big deal and it cannot be brushed off this lightly in the , "oh, well you owe it to her" attitude.
Anonymous,
sorry you feel that way... But last time I checked a relationship (which what these two were engaged in) is all about give and take. Each sexual act is not an individual completely removed event. They flow into each other, they build a momentum, and they CERTAINLY inform each other.
I'm a solid believer in Dan Savage's "GGG"... good, giving, and game (within reason). If your partner is being GGG to your sexual turn ons, it falls to you to reciprocate likewise. She isn't asking for something out of the ordinary or unreasonable... like pedophilia, or something. She's asking him to do what he asked of her! If he isn't able to suck it up and put out for this awesome woman who is totally GGG, then frankly he doesn't deserve her.
I'm not suggesting that he bow to his gf's every desire just because she hooked up with another girl with him. But, if he isn't willing to even entertain the idea of treating his partner equally... then I think she should find someone who wants to play fair.
Plus, it also pisses me off how women are inevitably expected to tap into their homo side when hetero-threesomes are in play. God forbid that a guy enjoy a het threesome with another man present. Clearly his manhood is automatically called into question. patooey on that!
There is give and take in a relationship, but just because she had a FMF threesome doesn't mean he's obliged to give her a MFM threesome. If she told him that later on down the line he might have to do the MFM thing, and he said that'd be okay, then it'd be time to pay the piper. If she expected him to return the favor, she should have been upfront about it... if he'd known, he might have declined the favor. I understand where you're coming from, but it's pretty crappy to say, "Oh, by the way, you owe me this now."
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