I'm sorry to hear about the relationship stuff. No one can tell you what to do, but in my experience/opinion it's no way to live - constantly doubting/wondering what he's really doing. Hopefully this trip helps you decide what you really want to do 
Trust your instincts. If you're not happy with him now, how do you think you will feel a few years down the road? Best of luck in NYC, whatever you decide I'm sure it will be the right choice for you.
Hi, Ms. G! I hope your visit helps you to sort your feelings. These are heavy issues, so it's easy to get overwhelmed, and hard sometimes to sort through what you really want and need. And being apart is generally hard on a relationship.
I will agree with Kristi on this point, though: TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. It's just that tapping in to them that can be tricky sometimes! Also, please try not to let guilt guide you; you aren't doing yourself or your partner a favor, and the guilt won't last (or motivate) forever. Best of luck in figuring out what's really right for you.
Oh, yikes. I hate to hear of this sort of relationship trauma. Like Wendy and Krista said, if it's not it, it's not it. You may have some extra weight, but you deserve someone that is trust worthy, that you love truly and fully. And, the longer you stay in a relationship that isn't working, the longer you are waiting to find someone who is more compatible. For me, I'd rather be alone than in a relationship that isn't working, but I know I'm odd that way. Good luck... take it easy.
There is a man out there that is worthy. Some time even the frogs that turn into a prince can be froggy again. Time and patience will prevail, believe me. It took me a very long time to find someone worthy to kiss. Not that I think I'm perfect but because I wanted a man who would be my friend and my lover..
-hugs and good luck-
Remember, you are too special to "settle" for a relationship that just isn't working for you. I would voice your concerns and see where he stands, but you have to do what's right for you -- listen to your heart. We don't do that enough!
I don't think it's a good idea to live with doubt and wonder...it's very hard to build a strong relationship on such a wobbly foundation...but I can't tell you what to do...cause lord knows I am no expert in relationships
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