Retouched, bobble-head, starlets don't do anything for me. Anyone can look like that if they starve themselves and have the money/time to invest in a personal trainer to go with their 4-6 hours/day workout routine.
In the gay community, if you don't closely resemble a typical Chelsea boy with a 6-pack, perfectly coiffed hair and tight everything, you're practically anti-gay. I feel your post. When I was reading this post, I can hear TLC's song "Unpretty" in the background.
Wow. That last sentence hit me pretty hard.
Very nicely said, woman who is freaking beautiful and who I would totally have "done" during my week long gay phase. ;D
Seriously. I'm going to revel in my plumpness. I still turn heads, so let me eat my ice cream in peace, without guilt, which requires closing my eyes to movies, televisions, magazines, and even other women on the street. I will not hold myself to their ideal any longer, I will hold myself to my own, because, let's face it, I will NEVER be skinny. I will NEVER be flat. I will never get rid of my curves and this is not a bad thing. I am what I am and I can only strive to be the best, sexiest, most memorable me.
As always, you are spot on.
Body Impolitic is talking about that now too. http://laurietobyedison.com/discuss/
It's a hard image to combat. Have you notice de rigeur office wear is getting lower cut in the top and higher cut for the skirt? Body as object for display and youth embodied by displaying middle or midrift is tough to compete with. Women police each other and cold shoulder the ones who dress modestly or don't diet and can be quite merciless in keeping a running tally on weight gains adn losses. Another good reason for hanging around men instead.
In my opinion there has to be a lower balance. Overweight does make health problems, joint problems, heart stress, but rock abs and limber and timber thighs leave you with no resources should you get sick or miss a few meals. It wipes you out completely to not have some fat reserves. People naturally come in all shapes and attitude and how a person carries and conducts herself can make someone plain gorgeous or dull. And I ramble on...
You are a very beautiful girl, and it has nothing to do with how pleasing you look physically. I'm just sayin.
I recently did a post on self-esteem... and even referenced a little "science project" that I think you might be interested in checking out.
LOVE YO BELLY!
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Kudos my dear for writing another wonderful post. MWWAHHH!
My 45 year old step mother is down to like, 118. She's had 2 children and she wants to go down to her highschool weight.
That means no starch or fermented things (according to her bullshit nutritionalist)- I would DIE without starch and soy and tofu, et al.
And yeah, I agree, there's such a thing as being naturally skinny, but I saw Selma Blair on the street once and she looked like she was dead. Great post!
Perhaps when we, as a culture, stop fetishizing (is that a word?) two-dimensional images of haute couture, we'll wake up to the three-dimensional beauty of the very real people around us. The cult of celebrity & fashion worship has sunk its advertorial claws so deep into our psyches that we no longer look to those around us to find our idols; rather, we turn to the newsstands & entertainment television programs to define our ideals. I'd continue on, but I remember leaving a whole string of thoughts about this on Lauren's blog one day not too long ago.
Meanwhile, I'll continue to look to the people in the post below for my inspiration.
Note to Jon/fashmagslag: Although I do get your point, in all fairness, Selma Blair was a roommate of a girl I dated in college; she's always been that thin. Poor thing...
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Awesome post Miss Marisol!
I long ago made peace, well somewhat with the fact that I am always going to be curvy. I wouldn't mind thinner but curvy I am and curvy I will be...
This post is right on, Mar! There is no way that 99.9 percent of the population can look like a Hollywood babe. We need to learn to love ourselves for who we are... and if we want to make changes, then do it with love, not self-loathing. (I love you just the way you are....)
You are so right. Kudos for writing it so eloquently! Now, where did I put those brownies?
Interesting point, ala "Not tonight, honey. Wait until I'm a size two."
If I had waited to have sex until I was perfectly comfortable with my body, I'd still be a virgin.
I like what Echrai said, I still turn heads!
I hate being tortured about my body, hate that right now being sick I'm reveling in the fact that I'll lose a few.
The celebrity women seen in magazines HAVE to look good (in terms of what's popular I suppose). It's their job to look like that and they have all the means to help them achieve that. I could and would have a very healthy diet if I had someone cooking for me. I could be very motivated to workout with someone to work me out....I don't get too upset by what I see in the media. I need to accept my body for how it is now, after having given birth rather than for what it was, before I did. I still turn heads also, now it's time to start turning mine when I see my body reflected, instead of cringing.
Of course I raise a glass of full fat milk to this post my darling. I adore you for printing this and for many other reasons that occasionally have to do with cuteness but mostly have to do with your excellent brain and heart.
What really worries me are the ways in which women/mothers a la mode are maintaining the thin and fit "look." In the area of town I reside in, you will find a very large majority of "beautiful" people. It is mostly quite affluent (to which I am a glaring minority) and the clothes, the nails, the hair, the shoes, the proper car, preschool, door wreath etc...are agonized over ad infinitum.
I've discovered after a casual conversation with one such mom the reason for her svelt nature, after bemoaning my avoidance of a certain cheesecake in our presence. She casually pointed out something which apparently should have been obvious to me: "Just eat it, and throw up." Duh.
I was horrified yet enlightened.
My family has a history of eating disorders. Women are supposed to be small in our family for fear of ending up big like Gramma. (who was WONDERFUL.) When preggo one relation could brag that at 16 wks along she hadn't gained an ounce... Or should I say her MOTHER bragged of this.
No wonder, eh?
I really do worry about society as it only seems to be getting worse for women with regard to expectations. Media in general, Photoshop, Exploitation, Fashion, TV, Hollywood... nothing is real yet we're expected to be that imagined ideal.
BTW: Have you gotten a gander at the average TV or Movie Exec? Not so cute. I guess the standards they propagate are not something they hold themselves to. As long as Trump can get 20 yr old Eastern European models pregnant...that won't change soon.
Get over yourself.
Marisol -- You are a lovely and hot looking woman. I wish we could all see eachother the way others do -- we could feel so much better about ourselves.
The media and the celebs who play into it are idiots, but they are causing more harm than they will ever realize.
I fall victim to it as well.
Being a gay male, we too fall under this level of idiocy. I think it is even starting to happen to straight men.
Teeth have gotten so bright I cringe when I see some people smile.
Great post. I love that you tagged it: Zaftig. What a simple and unashamed way of tagging it!
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