I would argue that you're just getting together with the people in the office who you get along best with, and they just happen to be women. You didn't choose them only because they were women. If they were awful, you wouldn't hang out with them just to be with girls. You are just making friends, and if the guys aren't terribly likable or don't make social effort, it's their own problem!
Surely there's an element of personal taste here. Some people loathe single-sex venues; some people crave them. I tend to feel ill at ease in all-female gatherings of more than two or three people, and so I avoid them as much as I can. But if you like ladies' night out, and your colleagues like it, why not? The fact that you DO permit the odd male to tag along suggests that you're not being particularly discriminatory.
Oh puh-leeze, you aren't banning them, it's not like you are secretly meeting or you are going to a male stripper venue.
You just happen to be going out withe some nice people that you relate well with. So What?
Dr. S argues that this is discriminatory of me. What if the poor dears fell left out? I felt left out for years, I said. That doesn't make it right, or nice, he said.
Dr. S is a clueless fuckwit. Tell him to fuck off and mind his own business.
PhysioProf made me giggle. DrS is just a kind soul, but that doesn't make having girlfriends inherently discriminatory. I think it's only natural to choose pleasant company, and many people have friends of similar genders. It would only be mean if these new women are actually mean.
I concur that it is neither mean or apathetic. Not everyone gets along and that is fine.
Now now, PP, I'm quite fond of him. 
I should clarify: we never invite them to Girls' Night Out. Sometimes to lunch.
Darcy, I wouldn't like it all the time, but once in a while is quite nice. Heather, I think you're right- it's mostly that they don't make any effort.
They are all quite nice women actually.
Hey Jenny
As a side note, I would strongly recommend viewing the movie "The Business of Being Born" sometime in the very near future (Kate of A K8, a Cat, and a Mission will back me up on this). It's something I wish I had watched before deciding to have a family practice resident for my pre-natal care.
Congratulations again!
Birds of a feather flock together. I spent 5 years in a grad lab that was 40-60% Indian students, depending on the year. We got along well in lab, but did not mix socially (more their choice than mine, I think). It's just different. Nothing wrong with it at all.
I am going to grad school this fall. There is school that I can go to and it's mediocre, but its in-state (if I'm going to be going to classes in person it has to be in-state as I have a mortgage and have to work full time at a local job).
That being said, I can attend a more prestigious university but I can only take classes online (the whole degree would be online as the school is 1,000 miles away) because of my situation. What should I do? Opinions? I know that I will get a better experience going in person and that it would be more fun, but, that being said, is it worth the sacrifice in prestige? There are no prestigious universities that I can attend locally for my area.
Thanks,
Kris
This is an issue that arises over and over and over again... here's my response to it.
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