I feel for that girl, and unfortunately know so many people just like her, both men & women.
I think that the treadmill of seminary-marriage-kollel is a bit of a game. The people on this treadmill don't really think about the permanent ramifications of the treadmill until it's too late, until they're stuck in that life. The turning point is children and that usually happens pretty fast. Once kids are involved, there's rarely any turning back.
Perhaps that's why the yeshivish world urges this path - they know that marriage & kids are the quickest way of locking (very) young adults into the "torah true" lifestyle.
how sad but true.
DYS - Treadmill is a good analogy... and it's true, they're almost locked into it once the kids come along.
And, of course, with limited (no?) birth control options, they come pretty much right away. This particular girl had a baby within the first year of marriage.
I'm glad that you posted this. Maybe someone will read it and see herself in it and start to reevaluate where she's going. Just wondering if you had thought of contacting her now.
As for your point about other ways, for some of the yeshivas/seminaries, there's no other way.
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