I agree with you, Patrick. If you have no trust, you have no relationship. Period. And forbidding contact with other people is just plain scary, in my book. Unless, as you pointed out, it's for the other person's safety or best interests. Great post!
Very thoughtful and good post, Patrick. I haven't gone through such a thing myself, obviously, since Dan is sooooo not into that kind of so-called "Domination", but I have watched many many other women who crave to be dominated so badly, *any* kind of domination, that they give up all rights far too quickly to men they haven't gotten to know well enough yet. Who immediately play these kinds of headgames with them. It's alarming to see. And now that I've been watching online for a year now, I've not only seen the beginnings of such relationships, but the sad endings too. Several times now.
That being said, Dan has ordered me to not have contact with a couple of people over the years but he had reasons for it which turned out to be correct. As far as my friends and family go, anyone who is good for me and makes me feel loved is completely accepted by Dan and actually even comes under his perceived protection as an extension of me. I have no restrictions with these people because Dan trusts them. As do I.
I'm glad you wrote about this. I hope it helps someone who might read it and think twice when/if that situation occurs.
For my part, ironically enough, if I dislike someone I tend to be more reluctant to suggest to Gracie that she not talk to that person. I don't ever want to worry later that I let a personal animus drive a decision of mine that would affect Gracie.
She's had friendships with people whom I have despised, but I'm not so selfish as to let my feelings direct her interpersonal relationships, with the only proviso that if I found that it was harmful to her, that person is now an UnPerson on the spot. She's a grown woman, and I won't treat her like a four-year-old who needs every rock and shoal pointed out to her.
--Patrick--
BRAVO!!!!
I cannot say I have been in this situation but I do know of people who are. I hope people who are in this situation read this and explore their situation deeply.
Wonderful post Patrick, i think that you raised some really important points, great bit 
I am so glad you posted this and I pray it opens some eyes of the ones who do this sort of thing! I have been in a relationship like this and tried with everything I had to make it work, it crushed me. It led to depression, along with letting myself go in so many ways. It also is taking a very long time to fully trust myself and others again.
We are not animals, we need contact with others to grow, otherwise we wither away, which I started to do, then I got smart and got out of that.
Thanks again for posting this!
I know it will help many!
Very good post, when I was very young I was in a relationship that almost cost me all my friends. He took total control of who I could and could not see, what I could or couldnt wear, or even do. It took me a while to get out of that relationship. But now that I've grown up and learned. I do have a mind of my own. My Mistress would never tell me who I can and cant talk to, She would however let me know if She thinks the persons no good. Trust is the key issue, we are both adults and have minds of our own.
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