There's a party in the cupboard
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The part in the middle. Relax!
http://www.wm.edu/news/?id=3650
The part in the middle. Relax!
Sure, I've book marked the page and I'll stay in touch. I'll keep you informed on how I'm doing as well.
Sure, I've book marked the page and I'll stay in touch. I'll keep you informed on how I'm doing as well.
Chris, thank you so much for your comment, especially since we don't know each other, and thus your only motive for such thoughtfulness can be pure kindness!
I do have some half-formed (some might say malformed) ideas of what I want to be doing eventually, but low confidence and my scattered brain are my main obstacles. I loved your remark about being unable to think yourself into higher confidence - it reminds me of one of my favorite passages from Crime & Punishment (I'm a little bit obsessed with that book). I'm working on stepping outside my safe zones but it's a bit like groping blindly in a dark warehouse for a light switch - I don't really know what I'm doing, and I don't know if I'm even capable of doing it. But I'll keep trying - I have a lot of dreams, and we have only one life, right?
I'll check out the book you've recommended. It's been recommended to me before. Your photographs are lovely, and freelance writing and directing sound like the farthest thing from boring! I wish you luck with all your wishes and hopes and dreams, and I hope you'll find your way back to this little vanity project/tantrum room of mine every now and then.
Chris, thank you so much for your comment, especially since we don't know each other, and thus your only motive for such thoughtfulness can be pure kindness!
I do have some half-formed (some might say malformed) ideas of what I want to be doing eventually, but low confidence and my scattered brain are my main obstacles. I loved your remark about being unable to think yourself into higher confidence - it reminds me of one of my favorite passages from Crime & Punishment (I'm a little bit obsessed with that book). I'm working on stepping outside my safe zones but it's a bit like groping blindly in a dark warehouse for a light switch - I don't really know what I'm doing, and I don't know if I'm even capable of doing it. But I'll keep trying - I have a lot of dreams, and we have only one life, right?
I'll check out the book you've recommended. It's been recommended to me before. Your photographs are lovely, and freelance writing and directing sound like the farthest thing from boring! I wish you luck with all your wishes and hopes and dreams, and I hope you'll find your way back to this little vanity project/tantrum room of mine every now and then.
www.flickr.com/photos/chrismitchell this is my flickr account, add me as a contact if you want. It doesn't show my career path, but that's dead boring anyway!
www.flickr.com/photos/chrismitchell this is my flickr account, add me as a contact if you want. It doesn't show my career path, but that's dead boring anyway!
Sorry that I unburdened myself wholly upon your head, but I am happy that you found a hint of solace in helping me figure out my woes. thanks =)
Sorry that I unburdened myself wholly upon your head, but I am happy that you found a hint of solace in helping me figure out my woes. thanks =)
I stumbled across this blog when browsing through flickr and I thought I'd comment because some of it sounds very similar to how I felt after leaving Uni. I don't know you and vice versa, so I will try and keep this as short as possible and hopefully it will be of some help.
After leaving Uni (almost 3 years ago) I knew roughly what I wanted to do (freelance writer/director) but I really wasn't sure how to go about it. My main problem was my low confidence and doing this type of work needs a good level of self esteem. I was not out going and when I was younger I used to suffer from agrophobia as the result of an accident, which greatly effected my confidence. The thing is you can't think yourself into being more confident, life would be so much simpler if that was the case. You just have to build on it with experience and positive thinking. Slowly over time my confidence has grown and one of the best pieces of info I heard about improving my self esteem, was an artist (painter) on TV talking about how people get stuck in their safe zones and never step out of them.
Safe/comfort zones effect everyone and are just more precise ways of describing confidence levels. So for example I would get real nervous about phoning up a company and inquiring about who I could send my CV to for the consideration of any work. Slowly after numerous attempts at trying to ring a specific company but not getting past the dial button, I eventually did and spoke to the receptionist who gave me the relevant details. After this I made several more calls and got even more confident doing so. Nothing came of these at the time but I did feel better about myself. It seems weird thinking about how nervous I got, now I have no problems doing this what so ever. I recently finished working a short term contract job and after finishing I made about 5 different calls on the same day to other companies I would like to work for, without even thinking about it. I don't know if anything will come of the calls, but something could do. The important thing was to step out of that safe zone.
I still don't have the confidence I would like but things have improved so much over the last couple of years I feel like a different person. It is different for me compared to you in the fact I know what I wanted to do for a career, but in some ways this has boxed me in. At least you have the freedom to choose what ever you feel like doing and don't let safe zones hold you back. I would recommend a book called "working with Emotional intelligence" or "Emotional intelligence" by Daniel Goleman. It makes some really interesting points about human emotions and the way it effects careers. Hope this of some help. Chris.
I stumbled across this blog when browsing through flickr and I thought I'd comment because some of it sounds very similar to how I felt after leaving Uni. I don't know you and vice versa, so I will try and keep this as short as possible and hopefully it will be of some help.
After leaving Uni (almost 3 years ago) I knew roughly what I wanted to do (freelance writer/director) but I really wasn't sure how to go about it. My main problem was my low confidence and doing this type of work needs a good level of self esteem. I was not out going and when I was younger I used to suffer from agrophobia as the result of an accident, which greatly effected my confidence. The thing is you can't think yourself into being more confident, life would be so much simpler if that was the case. You just have to build on it with experience and positive thinking. Slowly over time my confidence has grown and one of the best pieces of info I heard about improving my self esteem, was an artist (painter) on TV talking about how people get stuck in their safe zones and never step out of them.
Safe/comfort zones effect everyone and are just more precise ways of describing confidence levels. So for example I would get real nervous about phoning up a company and inquiring about who I could send my CV to for the consideration of any work. Slowly after numerous attempts at trying to ring a specific company but not getting past the dial button, I eventually did and spoke to the receptionist who gave me the relevant details. After this I made several more calls and got even more confident doing so. Nothing came of these at the time but I did feel better about myself. It seems weird thinking about how nervous I got, now I have no problems doing this what so ever. I recently finished working a short term contract job and after finishing I made about 5 different calls on the same day to other companies I would like to work for, without even thinking about it. I don't know if anything will come of the calls, but something could do. The important thing was to step out of that safe zone.
I still don't have the confidence I would like but things have improved so much over the last couple of years I feel like a different person. It is different for me compared to you in the fact I know what I wanted to do for a career, but in some ways this has boxed me in. At least you have the freedom to choose what ever you feel like doing and don't let safe zones hold you back. I would recommend a book called "working with Emotional intelligence" or "Emotional intelligence" by Daniel Goleman. It makes some really interesting points about human emotions and the way it effects careers. Hope this of some help. Chris.
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