Glen,
As much as we have sparred on the blogs, at a moment like this, we put the swords down and stand strong together.
I am thinking of you and praying for you during this difficult time. I have been there...I know it feels like you won't get through this...but I assure you, you will.
It's all going to be ok.
Ginger
Thanks Ginger. You are right though. Right now, I can't sleep and can't see any relief.
Glen, I just wanted you to know I'm thinking about you. I hope you find peace.
Glad to see you writing on here again. However, I am sorry to hear so much pain. May the strength of the many be your strength through this.
Awww, I'm sorry you're having to go through this. Let me know if there's anything I can do.
Also, if you don't want to be spiling your guts publicly, but still want to talk and get comments, try LiveJournal. You can set your posts to friends-only so only the people you want to see can see the posts. Just a thought.
Glen, what Ginger said, and I might add that it will help you if you try not view your actions as something you are "doing" to her. This is a time to stay close to those whose counsel you value.
I wish you well.
Ivy, I understand that this stuff is personal, and as a man, it is also humiliating. But I guess I am past all of that now. From my point of view, I don't care anymore. I have to ask you though. Do you think that I am wrong to air this type of stuff in public? Do you feel that it is not fair to her, or even to Frank, even though he is only three? Let me know, because right now, with all of the emotions, I am not sure I have the judgment to differentiate between what is proper and improper. I don't want to be mean and vindictive, but maybe I do. I could be in constant manipulation mode and not even know it. Like I said, it is hard to trust my own judgment right now. I trust you though as a friend, and as a woman. If you say that it may not be proper to talk in such specific terms for all the world to read, I will stop doing that, and in the future only speak vaguely about what is going on in my life.
Mack, it's hard not to see things that way. She is about to start hating me, because she will view me as having done something "to her", not that I am doing something for Frank or doing what I believe is right. This is tough, because I love her and don't want to hurt her. I still don't see her as a bad person, just a sick person. But in the past, I have been guilty of enabling her, I think, at the expense of Frank's welfare. I was wrong for that and I don't want to do that anymore.
It is really tough for me to have someone that loved and respected me, even during separation, to begin hating me. I've got this thing about relationships, that I can't let them go easily. It's codependence I guess, but its a little more complicated than just a label.
Glen, the fact that you are reaching out is a very healthy thing. I am in the process of writing you an e-mail with some suggestions.
Please do not beat yourself up. You are doing the best you can...that's all that can be asked of yourself.
One day at a time...one moment at a time.
How much you air in public is up to you, really, but I do worry that putting TOO much information out in public could hurt your court case. I don't know that for sure, really, since my own divorce was back before blogging. But I'd just worry about that.
I also wonder what your son might think, depending on what you write, if he came across it when he's older. That's why I suggested LJ- if you lock your posts so only your friends can read it, then it's not indexable by google and therefore can be deleted and not dredged up later, if you choose to do so.
It's important to vent, it's important to have friends to talk to about these sorts of things. But depending on what you say, you might not want it out in the public eye where anybody can get ahold of your words.
But out here I get so much more attention 
Glen - I'm very sorry to read this. I can only imagine how hard it must be. But please remember you have many friends here in the blogosphere who will be praying for you and your family.
You will get through this, my friend. One day at a time.
The issue of what happened behind our backs while in treatment and all the lies told about us has fueled such negative energy within me. I could ruin her career in just one e-mail and that would justify my pain! Probably not
Glen,
Today is the first time I've come across your blog. I found it while googling divorcing an alcoholic. Next week I'm taking my two babies and filing for divorce from my alcoholic husband. I am SO torn over this decision because I do still love him very much, but it's time for me to get off this roller coaster. I've reluctantly come to realize this is not the person I married 12 years ago. He is very sick and doesn't want help but to point the finger constantly at me. Thanks for your post. It's comforting to know I'm not the only one going through this. I wish you and your son the very best.
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