document.write("<script language=\"javascript1.2\" type=\"text/javascript\">function emo_pop() {window.open('http://www.haloscan.com/commenthelp.php','Help','width=200,height=320,resizable=yes,scrollbars=yes');}</script><table width=\"97%\" align=\"center\" cellpadding=\"0\" cellspacing=\"0\" border=\"0\" class=\"MainTable\">  <tr>    <td>    <div align=\"center\">    </div>    </td>  </tr><tr><td class=\"MessageCell\">    <a name=\"21036\"></a>        <p><img src=\"http://www.gravatar.com/avatar.php?gravatar_id=b288d022c980556b454d874b4032c0dc&amp;default=http%3A%2F%2Fec1.images-amazon.com%2Fimages%2FG%2F01%2Fx-locale%2Fcommon%2Ftransparent-pixel.gif&amp;rating=PG&amp;size=32\" alt=\"Gravatar\" title=\"Gravatar\" style=\"padding: 1px; margin: 2px; float: right;\" class=\"gravatar\" />The most fun part for me when PhysioWife and I got married was being held aloft on a chair while everyone danced around me in a circle and I held on for dear life!<br><br>[<i>Now, that is something I would love to see, but I'm glad I have no plans to do. <img src=\"http://www.haloscan.com/images/smileys/content.gif\" border=\"0\" alt=\"\" width=\"15\" height=\"15\" /> </i> SL]<br /><span class=\"byline\">           Comrade PhysioProf | <a href=\"http://physioprof.wordpress.com/\" title=\"http://physioprof.wordpress.com/\">Homepage</a> | 05.28.09 - 2:59 pm | <a href=\"#21036\" title=\"Link to this comment\">#</a></span></p><hr /></td></tr><tr><td class=\"MessageCell\">    <a name=\"21056\"></a>        <p><img src=\"http://www.gravatar.com/avatar.php?gravatar_id=53ae0c708e0c564949ae809badfee06a&amp;default=http%3A%2F%2Fec1.images-amazon.com%2Fimages%2FG%2F01%2Fx-locale%2Fcommon%2Ftransparent-pixel.gif&amp;rating=PG&amp;size=32\" alt=\"Gravatar\" title=\"Gravatar\" style=\"padding: 1px; margin: 2px; float: right;\" class=\"gravatar\" />wow.  you are experiencing something i feel i went through when M. and i got married.  my parents were the sort of parlour liberals that were supportive of my 'choice' to be gay, they had gay friends, had participated in some radical politics back in the 70s.<br><br>but as soon as we set a date for the wedding, all bets were off.  they were furious when we didn't do what they said, which was basically turn it into a fancy party where they could show off to their friends.  hey wanted to invite people i had NEVER MET.  oh yeah, and my mom told me my sisters couldn't be ushers \"because they're girls.\"<br><br>ultimately, there was a lot of bad feeling, and we didn't talk so much for about a year afterwards.  things have gotten better now, and we're all on a much more adult footing.<br><br>on some level, i know that they love me and support my life.  but they are too bound up in their own values to be able to see that my choices and my true being are different from them but no less worthwhile.<br><br>good luck with yours -- i hope they come around.  weddings bring out the absolute worst in people, especially parents i think.  it's such a symbolic moment, emotionally charged, hyped to some mythical status that is complete hogwash.  stay sane, and again, best of luck!<br /><span class=\"byline\">           freedomgirl | <a href=\"http://freedomgirl.wordpress.com\" title=\"http://freedomgirl.wordpress.com\">Homepage</a> | 05.28.09 - 11:40 pm | <a href=\"#21056\" title=\"Link to this comment\">#</a></span></p><hr /></td></tr><tr><td class=\"MessageCell\">    <a name=\"21263\"></a>        <p><img src=\"http://www.gravatar.com/avatar.php?gravatar_id=74750def8b23c6d46befbd9775e92560&amp;default=http%3A%2F%2Fec1.images-amazon.com%2Fimages%2FG%2F01%2Fx-locale%2Fcommon%2Ftransparent-pixel.gif&amp;rating=PG&amp;size=32\" alt=\"Gravatar\" title=\"Gravatar\" style=\"padding: 1px; margin: 2px; float: right;\" class=\"gravatar\" />I have to totally agree with freedomgirl... wedding do bring out the worst in people.<br><br>Even the bride...<br><br>I broke my phone at work into pieces slamming it down too hard on the receiver after talking to my hubby-to-be and getting pissed off at him two days before our wedding.  Heh... It was rather entertaining though...<br><br>Anyway, I'm REALLY excited for you and Ferret!!!  It's going to be a beautiful day for you.  Don't let anyone stand in the way of having the happiest day of your life.  This is YOUR day and you make it exactly what YOU want.  <img src=\"http://www.haloscan.com/images/smileys/content.gif\" border=\"0\" alt=\"\" width=\"15\" height=\"15\" /><br><br>Much love to you Lemur... You very much deserve all of the happiness brought your way.<br /><span class=\"byline\">           Neemie | 06.04.09 - 7:56 am | <a href=\"#21263\" title=\"Link to this comment\">#</a></span></p><hr /></td></tr><tr><td class=\"MessageCell\">    <a name=\"21274\"></a>        <p><img src=\"http://www.gravatar.com/avatar.php?gravatar_id=7d59475fa354afe92095db16e19958a0&amp;default=http%3A%2F%2Fec1.images-amazon.com%2Fimages%2FG%2F01%2Fx-locale%2Fcommon%2Ftransparent-pixel.gif&amp;rating=PG&amp;size=32\" alt=\"Gravatar\" title=\"Gravatar\" style=\"padding: 1px; margin: 2px; float: right;\" class=\"gravatar\" />Congratulations!!!  Before we tied the knot, I myself was very much opposed to marriage as an institution--still am, really. However, it turns out that when you have a wonderful, generous partner, it actully feels pretty great to be married.  I always heard people say that marriage is just a piece of paper, it doesn't change your relationship, etc.  But after our ceremony I was amazed by how much the commitment Van & I made to each other deepened and enriched our relationship.<br><br>I hope the people you care about come through for you and support you on your big day.  <br><br>So, what are you wearing? <img src=\"http://www.haloscan.com/images/smileys/clin_oeil.gif\" border=\"0\" alt=\"\" width=\"15\" height=\"15\" /><br><br>xo<br>SF<br /><span class=\"byline\">           Sublimefemme | <a href=\"http://sublimefemme.wordpress.com/\" title=\"http://sublimefemme.wordpress.com/\">Homepage</a> | 06.04.09 - 1:25 pm | <a href=\"#21274\" title=\"Link to this comment\">#</a></span></p><hr /></td></tr><tr><td class=\"MessageCell\">    <a name=\"23239\"></a>        <p><img src=\"http://www.gravatar.com/avatar.php?gravatar_id=d41d8cd98f00b204e9800998ecf8427e&amp;default=http%3A%2F%2Fec1.images-amazon.com%2Fimages%2FG%2F01%2Fx-locale%2Fcommon%2Ftransparent-pixel.gif&amp;rating=PG&amp;size=32\" alt=\"Gravatar\" title=\"Gravatar\" style=\"padding: 1px; margin: 2px; float: right;\" class=\"gravatar\" />It will all work out...have fun, that's what matters most- imo.<br /><span class=\"byline\">           spa | 08.13.09 - 7:07 am | <a href=\"#23239\" title=\"Link to this comment\">#</a></span></p><hr /></td></tr><tr>    <td class=\"InputCell\">                  <br /><div style=\"margin: 0 auto; width: 125px;\"><a href=\"http://secretbuilders.com/ref?id=JSKIT\" target=\"_blank\"><img src=\"http://www.haloscan.com/images/secretbuilders.jpg\" width=\"125\" height=\"125\" border=\"0\"/></a></div><br /><div id=\"newcomment\"></div><form method=\"post\" name=\"addComment\" action=\"http://www.haloscan.com/comments/screaminglemur/252330476809431218/\" target=\"_self\">        <p>    Name: <br />          <input name=\"name\" type=\"text\" size=\"38\" value=\"\" /><br />          Email:<br />          <input name=\"email\" type=\"text\" size=\"38\" value=\"\" /><br />          URL: <br />          <input name=\"url\" type=\"text\" size=\"38\" value=\"\" /><br />          Comment:&nbsp;&nbsp;<a href=\"javascript:emo_pop()\" title=\"Smiley and tag help\" target=\"_self\">?</a>&nbsp;<br />          <textarea name=\"addMessage\" rows=\"12\" cols=\"38\"></textarea><br /><input type=\"checkbox\" name=\"subscribe\" id=\"subscribe\" value=\"1\" /><label for=\"subscribe\">Notify me of followup comments via email</label>        </p>        <p class=\"PSubmit\"><input name=\"submit\" type=\"submit\" value=\"Publish\" style=\"font-weight: bold;\" class=\"SubmitButton\" />&nbsp;<input name=\"previewMessage\" type=\"submit\" value=\"Preview\" class=\"SubmitButton\" />        </p>      <input type='hidden' name='user' value='screaminglemur' /><input type='hidden' name='comment' value='252330476809431218' /></form>    </td></tr>  <tr>    <td><p align=\"center\">        Commenting by <a href=\"http://www.haloscan.com/\" target=\"_blank\">HaloScan</a></p>      </td>  </tr></table><img src=\"http://c5.statcounter.com/counter.php?sc_project=561713&amp;java=0&amp;security=01eeff58\" alt=\"\" border=\"0\" /></body>");