Well, we all live with this pain at one point of time or other. We women tend to lose friends sooner though. I had a friend who finally realised that she could not stand only being wished Happy Birthday and then calling me only on my Birthday-those were the pre-cellfone days. She formally called it off and said we would not talk henceforth. I respected that because I could not promise to talk more on phone, given my preoccupations. And finally this January, after 5 years she called back, saying she would like me to forget that she was rude. We are again talking on phone but a thread is a thread "..judei gaanth pad jaye.."
Good Luck to your thread...
Men's and women's ideas of friendship probably are somewhat different, it appears to me, from your comment.
Thanks for the good wishes! 
Strange are the ways of life? All I can say is face to face I can get away with a lot, on paper, email and phone I have to be careful. What do you say?
Could be either way...A lot depends on the people involved in the interaction, perhaps, besides the equation that they share among themselves...
I sincerely hope you get back with V.. life's short, busy and ruthless.. there are times when you need a friend more than family, siblings, kids even your spouse and the worst is when in those times you turn around and see you have lost that one true friend you ever made..
Insha-Allah! God willing!
I agree with you about the significance that friends can have in one's life.
Sat Sri Akal!
This, I guess, is why anger is considered such a great wrong.
My anger kept me separated from my family for 20 years - my choice, not theirs.
Now that your anger is overcome, I hope you can become friends again. I have one friend of 50 years; I well know nothing could ever replace an old friend.
Best wishes to you both.
Sidhu ji
Salaam/Sat Sri Akal..
what a touching story - I hope that V reads this somehow - am sure they have internet access in the Navy now and see how his friend remembers him..
Having said that it is painful to see people go but sometimes we need to respect and realise the reality that things change and we move on - or at least others move on and if we really care for them we should set them free
oops slightly cliched but thats the way I feel about this issue, having gone through a similar experience...
@Mai Harinder Kaur: Thanks for the good wishes!
I hope for the best and have left the rest to the Almighty.
@Raza: It should be good if that happens.
I agree with you and have accepted that at times that is all that one can do.
However, I have learnt from this experience that rebuffing sincere attempts at reconciliation is not a good thing to do and that patience really is a virtue in such cases.
That's the story of my life - friends keep coming and going. Before I used to think that somehow we could keep in touch - but that never happens, they just move on and so do I.
A very poignant post. Good to see a fellow punjabi blogger. A friend yesterday mentioned that punjabis can't blog because they don't know how to. Very glad to come to your blog. Well written posts.
http://unwantedgirlchild.blogspot.com
I was googling Sidhu and came across your blog.
Reading this article gave me a slightly uncomfortable chill down my spine.
I'm 17 right now, studying in a boarding school in the US. All my close friends back home. This is the last summer we have before everyone leaves for college. I remember standing outside a soccer field in chandigarh with my friends on a chilly and rainy saturday evening. We all promised each other that after we had accomplished what we desired in life that we would all reunite and rekindle our friendships. Every year since then I've felt like that promise will remain unfulfilled. Friendships are mutable and not constant, but there will be some friendship that (I think) will last forever. It's that feeling you get when you talk after such a long period of time but everything is still the same.
I hope I don't find myself writing a blog entry like this 20 years from now, but even if I do atleast I shall have with me memories albeit fragments of my wonderful past.
Well, life's little punches in our face... wish you get reunited. I had a similar instance with a friend... for a year. And one fine day we were reunited over .. guess what?
A rather humorously edited book on Einsteins's theories
@Cyberkitty: C'est la vie (Such is life!)!
@Roop: Being as human as any one else, there is absolutely no reason why Punjabis can't blog. :D
Thanks for the compliment!
@Bilawal: Glad to have you land up here!
It doesn't go this way for every one and for all friendships. So, I wish you and your friends all the very best of every thing.
However, there probably is a lesson somewhere in this blog-post, for youngsters like you, to not let your friendships wither away.
@Sriram: Thanks for the good wishes!
Well, life has its own quirks, I suppose.
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