so sorry, I can't imagine what it is like for you right now. take care and we will be thinking about you.
Seconded. I'm so sorry, Wood. My stepfather died a couple of years ago, and raised me like his own, too. My entire world fell apart for a while. My sincerest sympathies.
Sending hugs to you and yours...
I'm so sorry. My deepest condolences to you and your family. Take care of yourself.
I'm so, so sorry about your stepdad, for you and your whole family.
My deepest condolences on your family's loss. Losing is one thing that doesn't seem to get any easier through life. Lost of thoughts to you and yours.
I'm sorry for your loss, for your family's loss. He sounds, from your stories, like a very good man.
What a lovely post, Wood. I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry. I wish there was more I could say. But nothing I could say will make it better. Nothing, really, can make it better.
My sympathies, Wood.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Wood.
I'm so sorry... xo. hang in there.
Thinking of you and your family.
i'm so sorry, wood. sending some warm thoughts your way...
I'm sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you and your family.
oh wood- so soon. much, much too quickly, this was, for you, for your mom, for doug. it is so very different when it's happening to you, isn't it?
i'll continue to pray for all of you, especially your mom, that you can find some peaceful and moments in all this sadness, and strength for the journey ahead. you all hold on to each other tight- be gentle on yourself, too. xo.
I was pregnant with our first child as my husband's mother was dying of cancer. I remember the singular sensation of being poised in the wings.
I remember remarking on this strange and holy feeling to my mother, who simply said, "Of course. Birth and death are adjacent rooms in the same house."
Reading this post brings me so vividly back to that thin place. I see you standing in that passageway now, between the coming and the going of things. Literally, no-man's land. The privilege of being a woman, and a mother.
All sympathy to you and your family.
k.
Although it may sound an unmeaningful cliché, it is so very true. I am sorry for the loss of your loved one. I feel your pain in every word you wrote. Peace and strength for your grieve and healing.
I was five months pregnant with my only child when my father died. It was very hard. I know what it is like to want to forget.
Wising you peace.
I'm thinking of you all and I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I love you. xo
I'm so sorry for your loss, Wood. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
It's never fair.. but I'm glad for your mom that you can be there with her. Especially with your growing belly, the promise of bringing more love into the family. That can only help, right?
My heart goes out to her and to you.
I am so sorry for the loss of your step father. Enjoy the time with your family and keep his memories close to your heart.
I have lost both mine. With my father I was surprised no one reached out to tell us they would miss him, with my mother we were surprised at how people crawled out of the woodwork. It does little to prepare you for the ultimate emptiness you feel inside and there is nothing that can really prepare you for that. I am sorry for your loss.
You all are in our thoughts and prayers. I lost someone dear to me recently and the grief is too near to think upon for very long. It is hard, but know there are so many of us out here thinking of you.
wishing you grace during this time. rub that belly and feel life.
Wood, I am so sorry for your loss, and for your mother's as well. It is all impossibly difficult. I wish you strength and every comfort.
My heart is with you, Wood. I haven't yet experienced the loss of a parent. It will be beyond difficult. Your words are poignant, poetic. You are so real. (Hugs)
i am sorry for your loss
I'm so sorry Wood.
I was dreading an update here, knowing that it would bring this sad news. I'm so sorry about the loss of Doug, for both you and your mom. And, of course, also for Juney and the coming boy, that they won't get to know him.
You know where to find me, if there's anything I can do (car? playdate? door-to-door alcohol delivery service?).
I am so sorry for your loss. From what I have read here about your step-father, he sounds like a wonderful man.
I don't know what to say so I'll just listen.
Hugs and love from Seattle.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Wood. I, too, have had the rare good fortune of having a wonderful stepfather in my life, who took me in and loved me as his own. Being a stepfather isn't for just any man - only the most admirable and honorable can do it well - and I'm sorry that yours is no longer with you and your family.
You are all in my thoughts.
I'm so very sorry to read this. You're all in my thoughts.
Wood, I'm so sorry for your loss--the previous entry that you linked to made me tear up. I wish that there were words that I could say that made a difference, but all I have is sympathy.
(I've been reading Sweet Juniper for a long time now, but very rarely comment.)
I'm so very sorry. If there were words that could offer you some comfort, I would have filled the comment section. Our thoughts are with you and your family.
Please accept my most sincere condolences. I'm so sorry for your loss.
My sympathies and condolences for both you and your Mother. Take good care, of yourselves and each other.
deepest condolences.
Much love to all of you, and my condolences. Your mom is blessed to have you, Wood.
Oh, Wood... If hope from a stranger means anything, I hope that the warmth of your hand brings comfort to both your mother and your grandmother as they deal with these rotten battles. I hope you have someone keeping your hands and heart warm, too.
Oh Yuck. I am so sorry. My thoughts go out to you and your family.
I'm so sorry Wood. I hope you and your mom can find peace.
So sorry. We're thinking of you.
My condolences, Wood, to you and your family.
I am so sorry.
I am so sorry for your loss.
I don't know you, have never met you, but wanted to say I'm deeply sorry for your loss and to thank you for your beautiful and honest post.
I'm so sorry - my thoughts are with you and your family.
I'm so sorry. What you've written here is beautiful and moving about someone who was obviously very important.
I'm so sorry for your loss - Doug sounds like a wonderful man, and that you and your mom were very fortunate to have him in your lives.
My mom died when I was 7 months pregnant with my second, and I remember feeling like that each morning, before I was fully awake ... as if I could just stay asleep, I wouldn't have to remember.
Wishing you all peace.
I am so sorry.
I am truly sorry for your loss, Wood. I know you've said how amazing Doug was to you over the years. I'm glad that you have the comfort of a baby coming to bring a little light into everyone's lives.
I hope your mother does alright in the coming months, especially with the holidays coming up. The first year of a lost spouse is so hard. I'll be thinking of your family and wishing them well.
I'm very sorry. From your posts, I, as a reader-stranger, take comfort in knowing that he was loved greatly by you and your mom, that he had the joy of knowing Juniper and the happiness of knowing that you and Dutch have a little boy on the way. Though the pain of your loss is immeasurable, I hope the knowledge of those things also helps comfort you and your family.
I am so sorry for your loss.
My condolences and sympathy to you and to your family, Wood.
*hugs*
Many thoughts and healing wishes to all of you.
I'm so sorry, Wood. My heart goes out to your family.
Grace and peace be with you and all your family.
I'm so sorry. Your mother is very lucky that you understand that she is not ok.
I'm so sorry for you and your mom.
I'm so sorry for your and your family's loss.
Deepest condolences to you and your family for your loss.
I have been thinking about you and your lovely family ever since Dutch let the internets know. Please accept the condolences of this stranger and know that you're in my heart right now.
I'm so sorry to hear this - my thoughts are with you guys.
Sadly, many of my 30ish friends have lost parents recently .. including my own mom this spring ... I'm very sorry that you are going through this. We're thinking of you guys here in SF.
I read your blog (and a few others) often, but never comment. After reading this post I decided it was time. I too am very sorry for your loss. I lost my dad a few years before my son, his namesake, was born. Wishing you and your family light and love from foggy SF.
i am so, so sorry for your loss. please take care of yourselves and each other.
I am sorry for the loss you and your family are experiencing.
So sorry.
My sympathies. I was about 7 months pregnant when my father died, and the contrast between growing life and losing life was unbelievably hard to reconcile.
On a brighter note, the presence of my nephews, one older than Juniper, one younger at the time helped us all. In response to my sister-in-law explanation that Grandpa was gone, but he could always keep the memories they had together, my nephew asked, "can I keep them in my belly button?" Moments like that went along way as we sorted and planned and dealt with our grief. I hope you'll have some of your own to cut the sadness.
so sorry ...
I'm so sorry. You are in our thoughts.
Our preacher spoke once of the dash between the dates of one's birth and death. If we focused on the dash and what it represented, we would not necessarily feel any better that instant, but we could, in time, think about the life that our loved ones have led and be thankful that we were a part of it.
My deepest condolences for your family's loss; you will be in my prayers.
I'm so sorry.
I am so sorry. I am wishing all of you peace and healing.
so sorry for your familys loss. stay strong in the love you all so clearly have for each other.
There's nothing to say except how sorry I am that he is gone, and far too soon.
My condolences.
I don't think I have ever commented here before, but I read every day. And I enjoy each post from you and Dutch, I love the Juniper stories and I am so happy you are having another baby.
Because you have shared your lives with me, even though you don't know who I am, I must tell you how sorry I am. My thoughts are with you, and with Dutch, and with Juniper, and with your mom. I wish for some sort of peace to be with you in the coming days, weeks, months and years.
Delurking to say I am so sorry. That was a lovely post - you encapsulate those feelings so well. Your whole family is in my thoughts and prayers.
Hang in there you two - there are no words to express to you or your mom the simple fact that this is horrible but as much as it's hard to imagine you're not alone. And even though you haven't revealed a name yet, I think the greatest tribute you could do for a man who had such an impact on your life is to have a "Sweet Doug!" to join the "Sweet Juniper!" in your family...
I'm so sorry, Wood. My thoughts are with you.
All I kept thinking when reading this post is how beautiful it is that you're having a son. One incredible man exits stage left as a new one enters from the right.
Beautiful post. You're heart and insight constantly blow me away.
So sorry. I believe even if she can't remember your visit means something important for your grandmother.
I'm really sorry. I lost both my parents (separately) in my 20s and know how hard it is to lose loved ones too soon. My thoughts are with you and your family.
sorry to hear of your loss. my step-father adopted me 2 1/2 years ago (i'm 31) and i can't imagine how my life would have turned out without him in it. step-parents are more than "step-in-parents", they are life's soldiers serving as the stable element a child needs to feel their way through the day.
again, i'm sory.
Am just glad that you are able to be there with your mother. If I try to imagine the grief of losing my beloved spouse, my heart gets all compressed and uncomfortable.
And when it comes to having an additional parent who, not because of genetic obligation, but because of pure love, takes you under his wing, the loss is pretty overwhelming. My heart goes out to you for all you are going through, too. I hope #2 is bringing you some comfort, and that the reality doesn't chase you into your dreams.
I have no words, except I'm sorry.
I'm so very sorry.
Your writing is brave and beautiful, even in the midst of all this confusion. My thoughts are with you and your mother.
J
So, so sorry Wood. Sending peace and comfort to you, your mom and the rest of your family.
I'm very sorry for your loss. Your mom is very fortunate to have such a supportive daughter and son-in-law at this sad time in her life. May the happy memories of Doug live on in your stories and experiences.
My step-father died suddenly this past April. No, my mom is not fine either - not then, not now.
And my heart is not fine. He was so very much the man that I wished my biological father had been. He was so very much the grandfather that I wanted for my son. And I hate that he is gone.
I'm so sorry that you have this loss. And I know you don't know me, but I will remember you and your family in my thoughts...........and hope that your hearts will heal.
i'm so very sorry. i lost both of my parents 3 years apart, and my little brother (even though he was 32) just this past january....it does get better, eventually. just make sure you take enough time to grieve...do what you need to do to be okay, even if you have to be a little bit selfish for a while.
take care, be well.
I'm sorry for your loss. That was a beautiful post and there is never much one can say during times like these, especially from strangers who don't know you at all.
I can only pray that you all find exactly what you need as it comes. Healing is a long road, and while the visitors are nice sometimes too you must yell "Please, not now. We need to be alone for just this minute." I think that maybe Dutch could do that for you.
Love and prayers from Seattle.
I'm sorry Wood. For what it's worth I'll be thinking of you and your mom.
I'm so very sorry for you and your family's loss. I hope that you and your mom can find peace.
it's weird that someone right down the road is going through a tragedy just like me, although mine hopefully is not permanent. regardless, i hear you and my thoughts and strength are with you and your family.
So sorry for your loss, and for your mother's. I hope having Juniper around gave your mother some comfort. We lost two close family members this summer and my born-in-June daughter provided comfort to my mother and godmother - snuggling a little baby can be a wonderful remedy for grief. I hope your mother will find hope and strength throughout the coming years in your support and the love of Juniper and #2.
my heart breaks for you. my dad died in march after 3 1/2 months with leukemia (acute biphenotypic). he was 58. his wife is broken. they had so many plans for retirement that won't happen. he planned on coming to my graduation from my phd program. so much is different. it's different for those of us who were connected to him -- the world is a different place entirely. i think i know the sorrow you're feeling, but death and grief is so different for each of us. my best wishes go out to you and your family -- that you are able to remember not just the end, but all of the times that came before: the good memories, the times that made you all better people, the times that reminded you that he was truly living. blessings your way.
I'm so sorry Wood. Just catching up with your lives and then...this. Shitty news. I hope you're well.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Hey. I'm so sorry I'm late to this. This time is bad, but your mom is still busy and distracted. It sounds like she has a pretty good support system, but it's almost worse when the phone STOPS ringing and the cold cut platters stop coming. It's horrible when it is quiet and you are alone with your thoughts and memories. Take care of her and yourselves -- especially as the holidays approach. Good luck and we're all thinking of you.
xo
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