The role of "healer" is a difficult one for me. It is so difficult at times that through experience you "know" something to be true and you do not want to see someone fail...It is easy to tell them your experience, but at the same time it can be a discouraging moment for the individual you tell. I try "very" hard unless someone is doing something that will result in large damage to the organization or themselves...to let them try...encourage learning and make sure that I am there to help pick up the pieces...but it is hard!!!
I agree Wayne - it's very challenging and at times the more you say to help or advise the more the person resists. I have let it play itself out only to be surprised that the outcome was actually better than I anticipated and by empowering, supporting and allowing the person latitude they became the healer - but on the other hand, I have seen people crash too, despite well intended interventions on my part or the part of others. It's a fine line. Yet - I believe whole heartedly that one has to risk being the healer when it's needed - both as a role model and out of responsibility to others. Sometimes I think it simply (or not so simply) takes the form of non-anxious presence. Mary Jo
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