interesting, and disturbing, line of inquiry. Because, yeah, I have a ton of near miss (and not so near miss) experiences in my past too. And as the mom of a girl, the worry will grow and grow as she goes out there in the world more and more.
Posted in two parts due to length:
One of the things you can do which you've probably already started or are already doing is to emphasize that she has the right to question anything that feels inappropriate and if it feels skeevy to her then it IS skeevy and she has the right to listen to her instincts. So many girls second guess their own instincts or just sort of downplay them as not being as valid or believable because they -- a girl -- had them, and then before they know it, they're in a bad situation they can't stop or change. If you tell -- and if her dad tells her -- constantly -- that her opinion is just as valid if not more so when she reads a situation and that she should act on it, then she'll have the confidence later to listen to those instincts.
Another thing I would highly recommend for every girl and woman is to find a good karate school which teaches self-defense. My brother's a fourth-degree black belt in Tang Soo Do (so he's considered a "Master") and his school's empahsis is on self-defense, not doing publicity-type of things like breaking boards. Find someone she's comfortable with, a class of other girls or girls and their moms. Even if she doesn't stick with it to get a black belt, which can take a couple of years, the things she'll learn in the self-defense portions will stay with her forever.
Sorry to be so long-winded. I'm passionate about this since I did have so many bad experiences (and near misses). It's what I wish had been taught to me.
I'm a commenting fool today, but you asked, "Is there anyone who doesn't have stories like this?" and I am raising my hand. I have never been struck by a man (or a woman for that matter) nor felt physically or sexually threatened by a man. Part of the reason why is my long history of hypervigilance, a mother who never took shit from anybody, a father who acted right, luck, an intimidating and confident manner, and no boobs. I don't want that last bit misconstrued... just because a woman has a sexy or appealing figure does not make it right for her to be harassed, god knows. I'm just saying, I think girls who mature younger and more...lushly(?)have a harder time with the odd partnership of adult body and child mind and judgment. They also just simply get looked at by predators more.
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