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His #1 myspace friend (besides Tom)Johnny Bouncewell lives in Plainfield, IL. Maybe HE knows something. |
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His #1 myspace friend (besides Tom)Johnny Bouncewell lives in Plainfield, IL. Maybe HE knows something. |
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Why did they have to go on the run?! That's what it sounds like to me, they've gone to ground for some reason. (Or he has?) Why?! |
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Sounds like he has Kat, if the add for the dog is anything to go by.... |
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i think HE may be in Chicage, not so sure about the girlfriend. He has a nasty history of violent tendencies....very alarming |
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And maybe, just maybe Trevor and Wendy just went to Chicago to find a place to live and all before they come back to get their belongings. Maybe they felt that as adults they didn't need to get anyone's permission. And maybe the idiot they thought was a friend who agreed to care for the pets failed to do so and is now keeping their mouth shut while everyone is running away with the speculation about this case. Maybe when Trevor and Wendy learn of this they will be very angry. And who can blame them? |
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I don't think anyone would blame them. You have to wonder, and I just made a note to this effect in the entry above, why no one else reporting this story brought that up. The St. Pete paper caught onto the Craig's List post about the dog -- after I published this entry. |
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this couple is heavily into cocaine and pills, like xanax. i was one of their neighbors. one of the most odd couples i have ever met. trevor was the sweetest guy in the world one moment, then next he'd start shit with someone. he is truly a psychopath. it wouldn't shock me if it was a drug deal gone wrong or if he did something awful to her. she also has a daughter, which no one mentions in the reports. |
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forgot to add that i know them from hernando county. they moved up this way in the summer of 2006. they told me they were originally from clearwater. |
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I am thinking either both of them are on the run from some kind of trouble (legal, or angry people meaning to do harm) or only he is on the run. That's just the vibe I get from the ads. It might still be tied to crime somehow. The fact that they apparently gave the dogs away tells me they were planning to go to ground and be less traceable. They've watched AMW and the like I'd say. |
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Concerned Neighbor, can you elaborate on the daughter? How old is she, and who kept her? If they were placing those adds to set the stage for a planned disappearing act, then I would bet Chicago is the LAST place they would be. More likely, they have headed in the opposite direction towards Texas, California, or even Mexico. |
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Clarifying. I know the pets were left behind, what I was saying is, the fact that they advertised to give them away shows they were planning to go underground and not be traced. And, the dog(s?) were left behind. Whoever is on the run (if they did manage to get away) doesn't want to be easily traced. It is still possible that the nameless entity(s?) they were working to hide from got to them first though. Or, he killed her and set it up to look like she went away with him willingly. |
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KatK, if I were a betting man, I'd lay my money on the latter possibility. That domestic battery bit is bothersome. |
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Yeah, his previous charges are worrisome. *sad* |
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If you're running away and may have possibily murdered your girlfriend, why bother finding someone to take your dogs? Why not just drop them off at the animal shelter or, if you're that big a douche bag, just leave them on the side of the road. |
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You make a show of giving away your possessions to lend credence to the idea that everything's ok, you've just moved. Implying: "Nothing to see here, she went with me to Chicago." Or, "we've gone to Chicago, and not in completely the opposite direction, so look there for us". It was part of the gambit, either to fool people into believing Wendy is still alive and whith Trevor or to fool people into going to Chicago to find them (while they went the other way). |
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Wow this is really crazy. Sounds like something bad happened. Sounds like they are going through very extreme financial problems. I know that the mortgage business has been very tough for EVERYONE. He seems to be a Lose Cannon??? |
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Search Trevor's name. Yeah, something is definately not right. |
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Concerned neighbor, did you read the blog entry? I linked several Hernando county records found through searching that site yesterday. Is there something new? |
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As far as the Daughter is concerned, shes safe with her father since july. Dad was aware of trever being a domestic violence case, and faught for custody and won. My prayers are with wendy. |
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I used to employ trevor, Wendy, and Her Brother Russel. I have always known Trevor to be very aggressive towards wendy and to russel. I pray that she is alright and I know someone in Chicago that he may contact if is in deed heading there. But I believe he is from texas his father is an attorney there. |
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Did anyone notice that Wendy is named on this court document... |
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Also does anyone know what this court case is? All it says is real property.... |
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Read Steve's entry again, he mentioned the last court case you linked Kel, *and* linked to it. He said "McGinty and Wendy Dusza were both named in this Hernando County Probate case. It was a foreclosure sought by LaSalle Bank. A default judgment was entered against Trevor and Wendy and 3 other defendants on October 19." |
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We need to look for Trevor!!! Wendy would not abandon her pets! Trevor has a history of abuse and Wendy always calls her family!! There is so much more and somebody really needs to investigate this case! We have been worried about her before this happened..... and they were not stable, he was abusive!! Please find her!!! |
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I believe Wendy was found murdered over the weekend and he was found after having commit suicide. |
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Sorry, I read it wrong, she is still missing. He committed suicide. |
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To Wendy's Mom, Dad, brothers, and cousin Amy: My heartfelt concern, thoughts, and prayers have been with Wendy since first hearing of this early Sunday afternoon. My thoughts and prayers remain with her and you. |
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Just reading the news last week, there were more than 3 women who were killed or missing, and the spouse is the "person" of interest. What is in the water? |
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To Wendy' daughter and her father you know you are in my prayers and should you need anything let me know |
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As former employee of Trevor, I find it interesting that no one has mentioned his past in the restaurant business. Trevor was the general manager at a popular St. Petersburg restaurant for quite some time, and was actually the person who fired me (so he could re-hire his cocaine dealer!!). |
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I feel sad for women that find themselves in this type of situation. Maybe he was kind and loving at first before his violent side was shown. By then she's in too deep or under pressure to stay together when a emotional trigger is pulled and the violence spins out of control. Everybody loses, nobody is unaffected, lives are lost and lives are changed. Very tragic indeed. |
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Thank God her daughter's father did what he did, when he did, when he got custody! I think we would be reading about 3 people instead of 2 if the actions taken did not take place. I've known Wendy since school, and she did not deserve this! Only a coward can beat a women to death, and then take his own life...Our deepset sympathy goes out to Wendy's family. She was a beautiful woman. |
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I will never be quite the same without you Wendy!!! I will always watch over your daughter but I never got to say goodbye....I will always love you...you were a sister and a friend...May God always be with you!!! |
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you were a great mother and you will be missed... |
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Britt, Hey doll my heart goes out to you and your dad and if you need anything you call me !!! your mom was a great lady and my prayers are with her, you and your dad!!! |
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This goes out to whomever thaught Trevor was a sweetheart. And to his family, I want you all to know, I was the one who had to tell my daughter this morning that your so called sweetheart killed her mother. Bear that pain as you grieve. |
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My deepest sympathy goes out to my niece and Wendy's family. No one deserves this. I was the one who helped "dig up the dirt" on Trevor's violent past (FL, IL and TX) to assist her father in getting his daughter out of a very dangerous situation. I am glad Britt wanted to get away while she still could. God only knows what would have happened if she would have stayed. |
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I knew trevor for years and I called this years ago, he is an EVIL scumbag and when I got the news this morning, I wasnt a bit surprised! ROT IN HELL TREVOR! My heart goes out to the family of Wendy. |
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To Wendy's family: You are all in my prayers. Brit, I am so sorry to hear about what has happened to your mother, no child should ever have to go through what you have been through. |
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I live in this neighborhood... it's quite shocking and tragic. I just wish there was something I could have done to save this poor woman. My heart goes out the her friends and family. |
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Speechless.... Wendy was a good friend....and a good Mother. He turned her into what they both became. Cuz we all know it really wasn't her. RIP Wendy ... I know you're smiling down on Mike and Brittney. He saved her,.she saved herself. |
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From Wendy's family - we would like to say thank you to all those who have offered their condolences in this sad situation. Needless to say, there is ALOT of misinformation and speculation about this situation. We can now say that our dear Wendy was shot once in the face by this sick person, and then she was placed into a large storage container and "hidden" in a storage shed. Then the sick coward ran from the scene until police finally found him. Instead of acting like a man he choose the cowards way out, and killed himself. We knew Wendy was with a very psychotic person, yet nothing we said to her would stop her from continuing a relationship with him. A wonderful, bright, loving, warm, and caring person was taken from us by an individual who should have been institutionalized years ago (and the key thrown away!). Now, we are left with memories - and a huge hole in life. I pray that none of you ever suffer this loss - always love those important to you, since life can end in a literal heartbeat. We will never know the exact circumstances that transpired that night, since the reasons died with Wendy - only time will help in healing, but closure can never take place. Thanks again for your concerns. |
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October 26? |
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my heart and prayers go out to wendys family, i met wendy about 4 years ago she was a great women and so very kind to me. Cary |
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To Wendy's family, you are in my prayers. Take it easy, don't over-extend yourselves. EAT! DRINK WATER! Cry if you can, when you feel the need, but don't feel guilty if you can't yet. Rest when you can. Take it a minute at a time if you need to. |
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I don't know what to say. I am shocked, disgusted and appalled. Wendy was beautiful. I took her picture this time last year. I will remember that image of her, always. She was so pretty; what a beautiful smile and shinning, glowing face. She was happy, yet sad; a conficting emotional time for Wendy, I'm sure. I knew her breiefly through the priveledge of being related to her family. Her family, by the way, is the kindest, most sincere, fun-loving bunch anyone should ever be privledged to know. I know her cousin loved her and is currently VERY angry with the whole situation. He had a lot of fun with her (Wendy)and thier shared cousin, A_ _, both as children & as adults. This is a heart-felt family with GOOD roots and spiritual souls. I personaly LOVE my husband's family and I am proud to call them my own. I am so sad today; yet I am still so grateful to share the rest of my life with such as wonderful family as Wendy's. God bless FAMILY & may the HOLY SPIRIT heal our pains today, tomorrow & always, JoAnne M. |
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Wendy was such a great person... I'm so sorry this had to happen to you.. My prayers are with you and your family.. You will be missed.. Friend of Wendy & Russ |
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O M G ! My sincere condolences to Wendy's family and daughter. I can't even imagine your pain right now, especially since you wanted her away from this loser-coward. |
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Today I am so sadden that this had to happen to such a sweet, caring woman. I am so greatful that you got away Brittany. We love you so much and are so very proud of you for standing up for yourself. Trevor was a awful person and we are happy that he will not spend another second hurting anyone anymore. I know that God will punish him like all of us here on earth want to so badly. |
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We were shocked to hear that Wendy Dusza had met with such a tragic end to her life.Our thoughts and prayers are with her mother,Debbie,her father Paul Dusza ,her daughter and brothers,also her extended family in buffalo,N.Y.Know that she is with the Lord and is at peace.God bless and be with you all. |
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I have honored Wendy with a FEATURED PHOTO on my_photographic_soul "HOMEPAGE". Oddly, enough (family will understand), I took this picture of her a YEAR ago (to the day?). Just click the blue HOMEPAGE link. With LOVE, JoAnne M. |
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We had the priveledge of meeting Wendy when we rented the house in Hernando county. She was a wonderful person, and was great to talk with, when Trevor wasn't there. She was always talking about her daughter, and how much she loved and missed her. We only saw Trevor a few times, but struck us as very dominating over Wendy whenever he was around. Our prayers are with you, she was a good person. |
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everyone forgets wendy was a druggy too? |
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I just want to let Wendy's family know that I am so sorry and that you are all in my prayers. Brittany I met you awhile back, I worked with you're Mother at Hops and then I had got back in touch with her about 3 years ago and I saw you both at a restaurant. May God bless all of you. |
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When Wendy stayed with me for days and she was never on drugs, she was here in Buffalo a year ago to this day for my Uncle's funeral. I'm not sure what she did while she was with "him", but she has lived with me for years in the past and she was never a druggy!! She lived here before she was with Trevor, and I KNOW FOR A FACT that she was not on drugs, I spent everyday with her! She was an honest christian woman and I know she is in heaven right now with my Grandmother and Uncle Jim by her side!!RIP.... |
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Whether she was a druggie or not, does that give Trevor the right to do what he did?? Whenever I saw her, she was fully in control of herself and never seemed like she was under the influence of anything. |
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I JUST WANT TO ADDRESS ANYONE ON HERE THAT HAS SAID THAT WENDY WAS A DRUGGIE!!!!!!!!!!!! I HAVE TWO THINGS TO SAY TO YOU, "SHAME ON YOU" DON'T YOU HAVE ANY EMPATHY IN YOUR SOUL.WHAT IF THIS WAS YOUR CHILD OR LOVED ONE, WOULD YOU BE SO NASTY AND CRUEL THEN? AGAIN "SHAME,SHAME ON YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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To "never mind" a.k.a. the apologist for a murderer... |
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P.S. IN REFERANCE TO THE PERSON THAT POSTED AND SIGNED,NEVER MIND. I NOTICED YOU WERE TOO ASHAMED TO SIGN YOUR NAME. I WOULD BE TOO, IF I WERE YOU.SHAME,SHAME ON YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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I would like to share the following words of encouragement sent to me by my niece, Kim Meissner. (Mike's cousin) ... Before I do, I want to say that we know that Wendy was unable to remove herself from an abusive situation, like so many women before her, and like so many women will be unable to do so after her. Britt has been busy printing and collecting pictures of Wendy, family and Lucky. Our family, the Klodzinski family, knows that Brittany, Debbie, Paul, Brian, Russell and Amy, tried their best to help Wendy escape. For those posts here that indicate otherwise, you may find enlightenment in educating yourself on the signs of abusive relationships and how difficult it is, and for some impossible, to escape them. |
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i would like to dedicate the song IN THE ARMS OF AN ANGEL to Trevors family.for anyone interested in the lyrics please google---song/in the arms of an angel-------------read the words it is sung by SARAH MCLACHLAN. |
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Treveor's family does not deserve a song dedication. Unless it's "little boy you're going to hell." Trevor is not in the arms of an angle. Rather, he took an angle from us. I am sure his family knows he's rotting in hell. |
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Every adult is responsible for their own actions. To blame a family for the actions of their son is hateful and short-sighted. Trevor's family suffers as well, and should be allowd to grieve without verbal attacks. I have not seen anything where his family excuses his actions. |
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What do you know "Errrrburrp" of what that family deserves or not, hmmm? Do you possess perfect knowledge so that you can make such determinations? For that matter what do you know of God's justice? I suppose if an individual's suffering assuages you then that is natural, however is not very Christian. If you wish to vent fine, but leave out things of which you do not know. |
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Teveor's family mourns too, and I'm sure those who feel adversarial towards them right now, will come to realize they are just people, and had no more control over Trevor than Wendy did. *TREVOR* chose to do drugs, and he chose to abuse people. It doesn't mean he had permissive parents, or was abused as a child. Sometimes abusers just grow that way, despite being nurtured to develop better than that. The blame rests with Trevor, not Trevor's family. I hope people can come to terms with this idea, so Trevor's family can also heal in peace. Imagine having the idea brutally hammered home that you've been holding a viper to your bosom this whole time. Their world is upside down too, mercy! |
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to errrrpburrp, before you say anything about the song"in the arms of an angel" you should google-- song/in the arms of an angel----------then read the words very closely!!!!!!!!!!! go to the one sung by sarah mclachlan then go to lyrics. |
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This is not Trevor's family's fault, he was an adult. I do have hateful feelings towards Trevor at this time, but I hope I can eventually forgive, because I know that is what God wants us to do. We are all human and we can't help to have these feelings, but I will continue to pray and hopefully God will ease the pain and the hate....as for Trevor's family, I am sorry that you have to go through the pain of what Trevor did to my dear Wendy, your family will also be in my prayers..... and I mean that sincerely... |
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I'm sure Trevor's family feels just as bad as everyone else in the aftermath of this tragic situation. How much can they do when living soo far away no matter what they knew or didn't know. Trevor's judgement day has come, and God has decides his fate. |
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Never claimed to be a christan... Nor am I blaming his family. I am blaming him. If anything they know that Treveor was a coward, and he is in hell. He broke a commandment, "Thou shalt not kill" YOu should know that. His parents could have stopped this if they caught his physco behavior early enough, but no, they did not pull the trigger, their poor excuse for a person of a son did. Trevor took away a daughter, a mother, a sister, and a friend. I have no remorse for his family. |
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Drugs and alcohol have such a devistating effect. It is awful to see 2 lives come to an end because of it. |
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No, you cannot magically stop a psychopath if they are the kind that murders. Rarely do others believe the person raising the alarm about a psychopath, because one of their traits is the ability to *CON* people into believing them over alarmists who see through their mask of sanity. You *are* blaming the parents errrburrp, whether you see it or not. Read up about the "common" psychopath you probably know at the link below. |
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Alcohol and drugs have a devistating effect on a person. I know personally and through family what it can do. I pray for all involved, and hope God and not errburrp is the one to pass judgement |
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Dude.... you just sent me a link to bullyonline.com? if you were trying to bring up some kind of credible facts you should have at least directed me to the APA. |
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Did you even pull up the link? Have you ever visited the site at all? Or, did you assume the site as "pro-bullying" by the name and sneer? *eyebrow* Also, *dude* I'm a dudette for the record. *steely gaze* |
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THIS IS THE VERY WORST THING THAT COULD HAPPEN TO BOTH SETS OF PARENTS. NO PARENT WANTS TO OUTLIVE THEIR CHILDREN.IT'S SO SAD THAT THESE TWO YOUNG PEOPLE CAME TO SUCH A TRAGIC END.I DO KNOW THAT WENDY'S FATHER, PAUL DUSZA IS PRAYING TO GOD TO GIVE HIM THE GRACE TO FORGIVE TREVEOR.IF HE CAN PRAY FOR TREVEOR THEN MAYBE WE SHOULD ALL LOOK INTO OUR OWN HEARTS.PAUL IS ONE OF THE KINDEST PEOPLE I HAVE EVER KNOWN AND DEBBIE TOO,NO WONDER WENDY WAS SO SWEET,AND NO WONDER EVERYONE IS SO ANGRY AND SAD ABOUT HER LIFE BEING CUT SHORT.IT'S BECAUSE SHE WAS SO LOVED BY EVERYONE WHO KNEW HER. LET' HONOR HER MEMORIE. |
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"His parents could have stopped this if they caught his physco [sic] behavior early enough, but no, they did not pull the trigger" |
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No, I did not assume that the site was pro-bully. I attacked the credibility of the site. |
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SORRY, I MISPELLED "MEMORY" IN MY LAST POST. |
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I FINALLY FOUND THE SONG I WANT TO DEDICATE TO WENDY'S FAMILY. IT'S CALLED "ONE DAY AT A TIME" BY CHRISTY LANE. YOU CAN GOOGLE------------------ ONE DAY AT A TIME LYRICS-BY CHRISTY LANE |
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Jan & Bill, Thankyou for caring so much, it has been years...I am Conrad & Marlene's daughter... I just want everyone to know that Wendy was a kind, loving, compassionate woman who always found good in everyone....I guess that's how she always found good in Trevor? It may seem crazy but...I will not be the one to judge her because it's not what I am here to do, I will just be here to always love her & I am saddened to think she really thought she was with a good man.... |
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I FINALLY FOUND THE SONG I WANT TO DEDICATE TO WENDY'S FAMILY. IT'S CALLED "ONE DAY AT A TIME" BY CHRISTY LANE. YOU CAN GOOGLE------------------ ONE DAY AT A TIME LYRICS-BY CHRISTY LANE |
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DEAR AMY, I KNEW WHO YOU ARE. AS FAR AS WENDY ALWAYS SEEING THE GOOD IN EVERONE I THINK THAT TRAIT RUNS IN THE QUAGLIETTA GENES. YOUR MOTHER,SANDY,AND DEBBIE ARE THE SAME, NO WONDER THEIR CHILDREN ARE THE SAME. WENDY GOT A DOUBLE DOSE THOUGH BECAUSE WE TALK TO PAUL EVERY WEEK AND I'VE NEVER HEARD HIM SAY A BAD THING ABOUT ANYONE,EVER.I CAN FEEL YOUR PAIN RIGHT NOW IS SO RAW AND I KNOW YOU'VE LOST ONE OF THE BEST LOVES OF YOUR LIFE,I KNOW YOU KEEP WONDERING "WHY". WE NEVER KNOW WHAT GOD HAS PLANNED FOR US BUT I KNOW YOUR FAITH WILL STRENGTHEN YOU SO YOU AND THE REST OF THE FAMILY CAN ENDURE THIS UNBEARABLE PAIN. |
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My prayers are with Wendy and family Ive lost part of my soul! I ask my self why do you stay with someone that discharges a firearm in front of your daughter? Sounds like this guy was too controlling. The daughter got away ....Smart...What kind of control freak was she with. Wendy I LOVE you! I'm sorry!!! I'm just left with an unknown?? CUZ |
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First and foremost I want to extend my deepest sympathies to the families who have lost such a wonderful person that they shared such a special place in their heart for. Mike and Brittany...my heart goes out to you both, you will be in my thoughts and prayers. I have not seen Wendy in years,the memories that I do have of her were always very positive. She was a very happy, beautiful, and caring person and did not deserve to have her life taken away. |
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This tragedy has been haunting me day and night. I met Wendy and Trevor the day they moved into the Beachwalk condo approximately 2 months ago. I was walking my dogs as they made trip after trip and carried their belongings upstairs. I still remember thinking to myself, “Wow, that girl is a hard worker; she makes at least two trips upstairs to every one trip of the other two people helping and she keeps smiling.” We introduced ourselves and I welcomed them to Beachwalk. As time passed I frequently ran into Wendy when she walked her dogs. She told me the male dog belonged to her daughter in New York (“….but that was a whole different story.”) and the female dog was hers. I got the feeling right away that something wasn’t right and she wanted someone to talk to. The more we ran into one another walking the dogs, the more we would visit and talk to each other. She was obviously crazy about animals and we always let our dogs play together. I thought she was such a sweetheart and when I would see her with Trevor I often wondered why such a beautiful, vibrant girl like her was with such an emotionally dead person like him. See, when Wendy was alone we would talk and visit together all the time but when she was with Trevor, she would just walk by me and hardly say a word which I thought was very odd. One night we were walking our dogs and ran into one another and must have stood and talked for an hour. She suggested we hang out together sometime and I remember feeling disturbed by the desperation in her eyes. Later that night she knocked on my door around 1:30am but because I had to get up so early I didn’t answer the door. I know this will haunt me for quite some time; maybe I could have been there for her and helped her somehow! I’ll never forget the last time I saw her, she was so upset that she was moving to Chicago and had to find a home for her little dog. I told her to take some color pictures of her and we would post them at the Beachwalk mailboxes and I would also take some to my office and hang them in the break rooms. I told her we would definitely be able to find her a good home. That was the last time I saw Wendy. After that I would walk by and see her little dog on their screened patio and assumed they just hadn’t moved to Chicago yet. After a few days passed and the dog was still out on the patio I started wondering if something was wrong. Unfortunately when I got home from work last Friday I ran into the police and the owner of the condo and found out her family had reported her missing. I knew nothing about Trevor’s violent past but he was the first person who popped in my head. I can recall a day she was walking to their jeep and he was walking behind her and just the way he looked at her gave me a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. I wish so bad I could have done something to help her. I think about her every time I walk by that condo and say a prayer for her family and friends. I am |
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I was a friend of Wendy back when we were teenagers and up to our early twenties, SHE NEVER DID DRUGS!!! |
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This is such a sad situation. My husband worked with both Wendy and Trevor and has been friends with Wendy's brother Russ for sometime. Since we recently relocated to Chicago from Tampa, Wendy and Trevor often spoke with us of their plans to move here. My husband and I are absolutely shocked by this unfortunate tragedy. Both families are in our thoughts and prayers. |
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One glaring question is not being asked. |
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Mr. Geezil, it is part of the dynamics of the cycle of abuse. The person isn't like that at first, and by the time the person being abused realized it, they are already committed and probably don't have a clue (or the courage) to extricate themselves. The abuser may already have made threats about what they would do if the person leaves. Sometimes it's "I'd kill myself if you ever left me." sometimes it's "I'll never let you go, don't even try to leave me!" and yet others it is "If you wouldn't make me so mad, I wouldn't have to do the things I do, if you'd just do better things would be better for you." All of that is aimed at keeping the abuser in control, and the person being abused in the situation. |
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That is exactly what happened! |
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It saddens and angers all of her relatives on her father's side of Wendy's untimely death. We remember her here at Buffalo as a child mostly. At family gatherings, at picnics and having fun with the other cousins she has here. She did not deserve to die in this tragic way. We will never have closure to her death because the beast of the man she lived with was an abusive animal and took the cowards way out. There are all sorts of questions - could have, would have. Then you think, maybe if she would have stayed in Buffalo this tragic death would have never occured. The last time I saw Wendy was a couple of years ago and she was a beautiful and wonderful human being. Our hearts go out to her daughter Brittany. God chose her for this untimely death for a reason. I try to make myself believe this. She is now sitting up there in heaven beside Him. He is taking care of her now. She is out of her misery. Even knowing this, it saddens us. She had so much life ahead of her. All her relatives here in Buffalo pray for her. Even though she didn't come back to Buffalo, her home town, Wendy, my dear, you are home at last, beside the Lord. We are truly sorry for the abuse you must have under gone while living with that animal. We just wish you would have left him. We will never know why. My dear Wendy, you deserved better than this. We just hope you know how much you were thought of and loved back here in Buffalo. May you be happily singing with the angels and the Lord. Love, love, love, Uncle John and Aunt Kathy |
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KatK, thank you for addressing Geezil's comments. The Wendy I knew would NEVER have chosen a man over her daughter. Please understand that it took 3 years for Trevor to work his way into Wendy's life, taking it over one bit at a time, alienating her from family and friends, abusing her, battering and belittling her in front of her child, belittling and abusing Brittany as well to the point where BRITTANY chose to never go back. The legality of it all was only necessary as a result of Trevor's abuse and Wendy's inability to remove herself from that relationship. |
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MR. GEEZIL, YOU MAY NOT BE AWARE OF THE CYCLE OF ABUSE,BUT SOMETIMES THE ABUSER EVEN THREATENS THE PERSON BEING ABUSED THAT IF SHE SHOULD LEAVE HIM HE WILL HUNT HER DOWN AND NOT ONLY KILL HER BUT WHOEVER IS HELPING HER OR GIVING HER A PLACE OF REFUGE,ALSO HER LOVED ONES. I THINK THAT IS THE REASON SHE NEVER REACHED OUT TO HER FAMILY OR FRIENDS. SHE DIDN'T WANT TO ENDANGER ANYONE SHE LOVED BECAUSE OF THE WHAT SHE PERCEIVED AS HER WEAKNESS FOR HIM. AFTER BRITTANY LEFT HE HAD THE BEST WEAPON IN THE WORLD.IF SHE LEFT HIM HE WOULD THREATEN HER THAT HE WOULD HURT BRITTANY. THAT WAS ENOUGH TO KEEP HER RIGHT WHERE HE WANTED HER,IN HIS TOTAL CONTROL.THE PSYCHOPATHS ARE ALL ABOUT "CONTROL" AT ANY COST!!!!!! |
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I have read all the posts about Wendy being involved in a controlling and abusive relationship. I can tell you from personal experience that it is very difficult to escape. You have to realize you are strong enough to get out and then do whatever it takes to get out SAFELY. From all that I have read, it seems that Trevor was a real piece of work; controlling from the very beginning. His control issue was not obvious at first. No matter what your family and friends tell you or want you to do to get out, the person being abused (in any way, shape or form) is the one who ultimately has to make the decision that it is time to leave and then stick to it. |
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Mr. & Mrs. Henry, |
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To Mr. Geezil |
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MR.GEEZIL,ANY IDIOT THAT HAS EVER KNOWN ANYONE IN THIS SITUATION KNOWS THAT WHAT I SAY IS TRUE. WHY DON'T YOU CALL A PSYCHIATRIST AND ASK THEM ABOUT PSYCHOPATHIC KILLERS.IT'S ALL ABOUT CONTROLLING THE OTHER PERSON,AND POWER. BECAUSE THEY HAVE NO CONTROL OVER THEIR OWN EMOTIONS AND BY CONTROLLING THE OTHER PERSON IT GIVES THEM THE POWER THAT THEY SEEK BUT CAN NEVER ACHIEVE IN OTHER LEVELS OF THEIR LIFE.IF WENDY WOULD HAVE ESCAPED HE WOULD HAVE FOUND ANOTHER VICTIM.HE WAS A VERY SICK MAN AND CHOSE TO DO WHAT HE DID,AND ULTIMATELY DID HIS LAST CONTROLLING THING TO HIMSELF.HE AND ONLY HE WAS GOING TO CONTROL WHAT HAPPENED TO HIM. HE KNEW AHEAD OF TIME WHAT A JURY WOULD DO AND TO BE IN THE CONTROL OF OTHERS,i.e. JURY OR PRISON WAS NOT ACCEPTABLE TO HIM SO HE CONTROLLED HIMSELF TO DEATH. |
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P.S. TO MR. GEEZIL, HIS LAST ACT OF CONTROL ON HIMSELF WAS PROBABLY THE FIRST TIME IN HIS LIFE HE EVER EXERCISED ANY "SELF CONTROL". |
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If its of any comfort to Wendy's family at all, the type of psychopath Henry/Trevor was [and, yes, "youknow", I caught the identity switch implication you made], he had molded what he thought was his perfect partner, his true victim. |
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You know what as the days go by I am reading all these different comments by everyone and I am starting to see why the world is getting so bad you can tell who the good people are versus who the people who are just talking to hear themselves talk!! Let's remember one thing here Wendy did not chose this fate !! No matter what was going on previous to this and no matter if the rumors were true or not the fact remains this Wendy was a good person and I am sure given the chance of leaving or being brutally murdered ,she would have left however she wasn't given that chance her life was just taken from her, did all of you people (who are blaming wendy for this and pointing fingers ) ever think maybe she was trying to leave maybe she was content knowing brittney was safe and she was slowly backing out and that is why she was killed? Maybe her plan was to not pick him over her daughter like some people are assuming but to indeed make sure she was safe with people who wendy knew could protect her and now wendy felt safe trying to get out and that is what she was attempting to do !!! the fact remains noone will ever know and pointing fingers and placing blame is wrong what is done is done and as I stated earlier I am sure this is not what wendy would have chose so unless you can say you walked a mile in her shoes then don't judge her!!!! Noone knows how she was feeling!!! Let us just remember she left behind a beautiful little girl who needs people to surround her with love and support and she should not have to read about people saying negative things about a mother who loved her enough to let her go so she could be safe let us all remember wendy for the good person she was!!!! I only met her a couple times but the times i did she always had a smile on her face and that is what I will always remember!!!! |
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Being Britt's aunt, I know Wendy would never choose a man over her daughter. No one will ever know the exact details of what happened to Wendy and why Trevor did what he did. As Robert M. put it, it was because Wendy told him no. The truth of the matter is, no one was there that night and no one can say for sure what actually transpired; it is all just speculation. Trevor kept Wendy isolated from everyone as he watched and controlled her every move. There is not one of us who did not try to help Wendy get away from Trevor. |
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I AM A FRIEND OF TREVORS SISTER ALISSON,AND I AM HERE TODAY LOOKING AT WHAT EVERYONE HAS WROTE. ALL OF YOU ARE SISTING HERE AND ARGUING ABOUT WHO IS WRONG AND WHO IS RIGHT ABOUT THIS WHOLE SITUATION. THE FACT IS THAT IT WAS NOT A GOOD THING THAT HAS HAPPENED. IF YOU WANT TO SIT HERE AND SEND YOUR LOVE AND THOUGHTS THEN DO IT , BUT DO NOT SIT HERE AND ARGUE BACK AN FORTH WITH EACH OTHER. PEOPLE GET RAPPED UP IN THERE OWN THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS AND FORGET WHAT THE SITUATION IS ALL ABOUT. |
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Johnny Bouncewell. “Maybe HE knows something.” Yes. Yes I do. I’ve known Henry/Trevor for over ten years. He was a brother, friend, and a teacher to me. There were always two sides to Henry that made him such a complex person. When he was good, he was great. He had a natural talent of gab and he could entertain for hours with his stories of misadventure. When he was bad, he was rather rough. Yup, he had a rap sheet. Yea, he got in trouble. Bar fights and bad deals followed him (or perhaps he brought them) wherever he went. |
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A friend of mine was staying at the Clearwater Beach motel where Trevor and Wendy were staying. I went to visit my friend who was sat with Wendy and Trevor one evening. We all sat around the table and Wendy appeared upset about something, he was unsympathetic and was drinking a lot. As time went by he became abusive and started waving a knife around. He started verbaly abusing me, and I sensed he was going to get violent so I left. As I walked home I just couldn't believe what an evil bastard he was and prayed that Wendy would be OK. Pitty I didn't stay. I'm convinced he would have stabbed me....I would be the one dead, that asshole would have been in jail, and Wendy would still be alive.. Hope you're burning in hell Trevor. |
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Please let Wendy rest, no one deserves a coward of a man hitting and beating on her and especially a child. Everyone has an opionion but let wendy rest and think of ONLY the good things she brought to this world. I love Brit I get the honor of being her future step mom. Wendies shoes can never be filled. So I need everyone to pray for her and it must be working because she is tough. Pray for her families to heal there pain. Pray for my fiancee who has to be strong for his daughter! Wendy rest in peace. Sorry Trevor will never rest! |
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I want to wish the best to Wendy's family. I worked with her and had no idea of what was going on with her and Trevor. I wish I could have done something to help her, she has been in my thoughts since I heard the terrible news. |
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I have known Wendy for many years and she has always been a good person. She was fun, loving, caring and she was always a very involved mother to her child. I worked with her a long time and I never would have thought in a million years that she would have taken crap like this from anyone. Brittany, I am so very sorry that mom is gone, you were the apple of her eye and I know that you will grow to be a beautiful smart young women. Please stay sweet and know that we will be here if you need us. With love from our family to yours...God bless... |
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And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. |
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I am Trevor's sister, Allison. I have been reading most of these posts and am at a loss for words. I too have been an observer of the most heinous and unthinkable crimes and have passed ignorant judgements. I have never understood the true magnitude of Bipolar Disorder. I myself have never suffered from depression. I have never dealt with demons, drug addictions, alcoholism, or violence toward others. My brother has been a confused and tortured soul for years. He left Texas and moved to Florida in search of a new life and a fresh start. We all know one can never run from yourself -- all evils and troubles will follow you, find you, and consume you. His entire family, excluding his Father and Stepmother, live in Texas. We would often go months without hearing from Trevor and when we would he would lie and lead us to believe that he was happy and successful. He said he found his true love and was wanting to ask Wendy's hand in marriage. As time went on it was apparant that their relationship had become tumultuous. I would receive random calls but was kept in the dark about the full extent of their lives. I knew there was domestic violence issues but when I spoke to them neither would admit to me what had happened. It would be some made up tale downplaying the actual events. We knew Trevor suffered from extreme mental disorders, we knew he took drugs and drank hard liquor often. We have all tried to intervene but ultimately it was on him. He lied to us time and time again. This incident was just as shocking to us as it was to Wendy's family and friends. Perhaps even more so because we were not in Florida witness to their behavior with each other. Wendy never spoke to me about abuse. Trevor, naturally, hid it well. If there was anything any of us could have done to help/prevent this horrifying crime/suicide we would have. We mourn Wendy. We also mourn Trevor. He was my brother. I will always remember him before he became the monster that he was. He was a happy baby, a loving child, and had a heart as big as Alaska. Unfortunately his heart become filled with darkness and despair. He self medicated with whiskey and cocaine instead of anti-depressants. Over the last few years his psychosis snowballed into an overwhelming rage that he could no longer control. And neither could we. No one could have prevented this. The only two people who truly knew the extent of the abuse are now gone. I am in shock as is my Mother. She blames herself, naturally. However it is not her fault nor mine nor anyone else's. I understand the anger. But please do not pass blame onto our family. We are suffering a great loss too. I have lost my brother, my Mother a son. Despite his sins, he is still my family and he was not always this person. God bless Wendy, Brittany, Deborah and the rest of the family. We're truly sorry for you loss. And we're truly sorry for ours. |
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I'M FREE |
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DEAR LINDA JO, I'VE BEEN SEARCHING FOR A SONG TO DEDICATE TO WENDY'S FAMILY THAT HAD EXACTLY THOSE TYPE OF WORDS IN IT. I WISH I COULD HAVE FOUND A SONG SIMILAR BUT YOU HAVE JUST PRINTED SOMETHING EVEN BETTER. I KNOW WENDY'S FAMILY APPRECIATE IT. |
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Allison, while I understand you are grieving the loss of your brother, please think of this: there is one person who knows about the abuse, lived with it and, thank god, was able to escape it. Wendy's daughter witnessed the abuse her mother was subjected to first hand as well as the abuse your brother made her endure. No one deserves to be treated that way; especially that child. I am not diminishing your family's grief in any way. BiPolar Disorder is a very difficult disease to deal with. I only hope that you and your family will realize that this child lost her mother by your brother's hands and her life will never be the same. My prayers go out to you and your family for the loss of the person your brother was before he became a confused and tortured soul. |
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This is from her Aunt Kathy in Buffalo. I am her father's sister-in-law. I believe the song is appropriate at this time. But her life was taken unnecessarily. It doesn't make us feel any better because she lived with such an animal and we were unaware of that situation. You must have been aware living in FL. I was not aware that she lived with such an abusive person. Obviously, you were. Why was her father, Paul, not contacted on this? I don't think a song will make us feel better. She had more life ahead of her. The only thing that consoles me, as her aunt, is that she is in heaven. A song won't do it for me right now. |
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The previous message was noted for Jan & Bill Henry whom I met in Buffalo years ago at my house on Autumwood Dr. in Cheektowaga. It seems to me that you know more that we did in Buffalo. Maybe you should have notified the family here. |
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Brittany, please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers and we are so sorry about the loss of your Mom. We thought the world of her and you too. We knew things were not quite right at your house and only wish we had been able to intervene. We are so thankful you were brave enough to get out. |
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Uncle John and Aunt Kathy: You stated you live on Autumwood Dr. in Cheektavagas? Small world, I live on Basswood Dr. one block from you...I grew up and went to school with Wendy. She will be deeply missed. |
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DEAR KATHY, WE ARE VERY GOOD FRIENDS WITH PAUL. BILL AND PAUL TALK ON THE PHONE SEVERAL TIMES A WEEK. WE HAD NO IDEA WHAT WAS GOING ON WITH WENDY AS I DON'T THINK PAUL KNEW. THE SONG WAS POSTED BY LINDA JO.I HAPPEN TO THINK IT WAS BEAUTIFUL AND REPLIED TO HER ABOUT IT.I'M SORRY YOU DON'T AGREE. |
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Brittany is a very brave young lady. She made a very difficult and adult decision for her own safety and stability. I cannot imagine what she feels right now.Wendy did not deserve this and Brittany does not deserve the loss of her Mom. |
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I knew Wendy a few years back, and the last time I saw her or spoke to her was a few years ago, we went to lunch at the Olive Garden, in Hamburg, and she brought her daughter. She looked great, as usual, and her daughter Brittany was sooooo grown up - not the little toddler I remembered. We talked and had a nice lunch, I thought her daughter Brittany was a wonderful young girl, seemed "older and wiser" for her age but respectful and gracious at the same time. Wendy, I am sooooo sad that apparently you suffered, and for so long, you didn't deserve this, you deserved so much better. The entire time I knew you, you were trying so hard and I wish you had the happy ending you deserve. Amy |
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I am in shock. I haven't stopped thinking about this since I heard. I go back to childhood memories in my mind. Wendy was a good friend of our family while growing up. I visualize her smile. I think of us as kids, teenagers. She was real close with my sister Chris growing up here in Buffalo. We are praying for everyone. |
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Kim, I went through all my photo albums and I found old pics of you, Wendy, Sharon C. and the whole crew.... memories I've forgotten at Sharon's house.....thanks for the prayers....Amy Sucharski Croce |
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does anyone know if brittany's dog was able to be brought back to buffalo yet? i know that's not the main thing on everyone's mind at this time, but i'm sure that it would help brittany at least alittle to have her dog back with her? |
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yes i was able to get my dog.... |
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Brittany, I'm glad to hear that your getting your dog today, I hope she helps you to get through this terrible ordeal. My prayers go out to you and your family. |
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I'D LIKE TO SHARE WITH EVERYONE THAT I TALKED TO PAUL DUSZA LAST NIGHT ON THE PHONE AND TOLD HIM THE SONG I DEDICATED TO WENDY'S FAMILY(ONE DAY AT A TIME BY CHRISTY LANE) AND AS SOON AS I SAID CHRISTY LANE HE LET ME GO ON AND TELL HIM THE TITLE. HE SAID AS SOON AS I SAID CHRISTY LANE HE KNEW THE SONG BUT HAD TO WAIT AND HEAR IT FROM ME.IT SEEMS THAT IS HIS VERY FAVORITE SONG IN THE WORLD.HE STARTED SINGING THE WORDS.HE COULDN'T BELIEVE I HAD PICKED THAT SONG.IT WAS VERY TOUCHING. |
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i have been reading some of the stuff on here and some of it is real nice butsome of it i have a hard time wrapping my brain around.for instance when the aunt kathy thinks that just because mr&mrs henry live in the state of floridathat they should know what's up in wendys life when she didn't even know her own nephew lived one block from her.floridas a big state,not just around the corner.it wasn't up to the henrys to keep tabs on wendy.i don't think that was their job discription,just wondering where the aunt was coming from she seems kind of weird to lay that on them.it seems that they are just friends of the family. |
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Ok, let the two individuals rest. This has happend and is now over and done with. Let them go, things like this happen everyday across the world. It was no-one's fault but Trevor's. He wanted to deal with it by ending his own life. Its sad, and i am sorry for the both families. We can't harp on this EVERYSINGLE day. Help is out there for people that want to help THEMSELVES. A family member, a friend, a sibling, a child can NOT help the individual from a violent relationship until they help themselves. I am sorry wendy went through this but at the same time stop blaming the people that knew what she was going through for not helping. Its sick reading how people can carry a conversation and point the finger. JUST STOP GO ON WITH YOUR LIVES. No one deserved any of this and Brittany doesnt deserve to be stuck reading everything on here. |
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To my darling Neice: |
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Sam: I am not Aunt Kathy's nephew. I am Brit's Uncle, her father's twin brother. I stated that Brit has family one block away from me, and I was not aware of that. Small world I guess. |
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To Allison: Sister of Murderer...(sorry)... |
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PART 2...sorry, got cut off... |
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To Geno: |
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Get over it all...get on with your lives and stop all this pointing fingers. TREVOR was an adult. You can't mold an adult to behave well. Like you can a child when they grow to be an adult. Its no-one's fault BUT TREVORS. Trevor stayed in jail no one bailed him out. Those were his sentence dates. Anyway, i hope you realize Brittany reads these post. Just as Wendy never deserved any of this. Brittany doesnt deserve to read all the hate. Just keep it to your self. We will never know reasons, and i am sure Brittany would like to have peace and move on. Do her a favor and stop the finger pointing and go on with your lives. |
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My heart goes out to all of Wendy's family and friends. I am so very sorry for your loss. Wendy & I were very good friends in our younger years and our families have remained friends over the years. I remember her beautiful smile, her caring nature, and the fact that she would do anything for her friends. It's hard to believe that such a good person could meet an end such as this. When Amy stated earlier that Wendy always tried to find the good in people, I think she was right on. |
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Hi. I'm a reporter with the St. Petersburg Times, and I would like to talk with family and friends of Wendy and Trevor. If you would like to talk, please contact me at 813.226-3373 or by email at vansickle@sptimes.com. |
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Ihave been reading for days and kept my comments quiet all but once way up this list. All should know Britts hangin tough, today she gets her dog back along with a piece of her mothers memory. I feel for Trevors familys loss, to a certain extent. They did not force Trevor to do this to Wendy. But I have had the pain of consoling Britt for days now, and I am glad to know that pain is nowhere near what Trevors evil soul is going through right now as it will be burned and tormented in the fires of hell for all eternity. Britt will be very well loved and taken care of, which was my vow at birth, and when I got custody of her back in July after hearing horrific things. |
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I hung out with Wendy and her cousin Jenny during our time at West Seneca West School. I can't beleive that this has happened to her. My friend from Buffalo called me when she heard about it on the news and I have been reading all of the stories online. I also live in Florida now. I just feel so terrible for Wendy's family and I wish I stayed in contact with her after high school. |
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A Mother is taken |
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I don't know if anyone noticed, but the Gainesville police reported he left the suicide note stating: I am sorry for my suicide and what happened was an accident... |
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Woman was created from the rib of Man. |
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Dear Brittany, |
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Dear Someone... |
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No-one made him drink no-one made him do drugs. My point is he chose to make his own decision's. We can't hold his hand every second and say dont drink dont do drugs. Those are his choices. Were they right? NO; not at all. My other point is no-one needs to point the finger anymore. They are both gone and there is nothing we can do to bring them back. Instead of writing on here every minute, hour and day, go help another individual out so they dont get hurt or abused. Dont sit here in front of the computer and bad mouth anyone who makes a comment that you dont approve of. Get a life outside this website. Help people out there. I dont care to know your personal life. Everyone is different and have other problems going on. So Trevor didnt want help, he dealt with it and he's gone. No need to STAY on here CONSTANTLY and argue with one another. THATS WHY THIS WORLD IS THE WAY IT IS. YOU PEOPLE THINK ITS OUR, YOUR, HIS, HER PLACE TO JUDGE SOMEONE. ITS NOT!!! LEAVE IT FOR THE MAN UPSTAIRS! If it was someone in your family that this happend to. I would think you'd like some peace and quiet. You wouldnt appreciate others budding in and trying to point fingers. Get on with your life leave Trevors family alone. Leave Wendy's family alone as well. |
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to someone: allyou have to do is turn off your own computer!!!!!!and not turn it back on. |
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To the addiction counselor. You know very well that all the intervention in the world will do no good, if the addict doesn't want to get better inside themselves! Coulda, Shoulda, Woulda....it makes not one whit of difference if Trevor didn't want to get better. They'd have made more progress eroding away a brick wall with their breaths as they talked at it. You know this! Shame on you for pawning off guilt onto them! |
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No-one made him drink no-one made him do drugs. My point is he chose to make his own decision's. We can't hold his hand every second and say dont drink dont do drugs. Those are his choices. Were they right? NO; not at all. My other point is n |