Hi. I don't see a problem with taking out physical aggression on something like a punching bag. The physical energy of our emotions exists, and it often helps to work through those feelings if one can work through the physical impulses as well.
Second, while I agree with you that this kindergardener should not be taught to hit back, I would point out that even in kindergarden, adult supervision is far from constant, and there is plenty of opportunity for a child to be teased without any grownups noticing.
While I believe that it's the proper thing to do, the father probably feels that bringing it to the attention of school authorities would be to his son's detriment, as it has often been noted that once adults are alerted to a bullying situation, it makes the teasing worse and more intense when adults are absent. The only real solution is to get to the bullies themselves and teach THEM not to hit this boy in the first place. That's where the solution lies.
Hi again, I just wanted to come back to clarify that was not a negative comment towards your post because I totally GET what you're saying, I just wanted to add some points for discussion 
I think some kids are naturally more physical than others, whether that means hitting or not. My best friend has two boys that have been raised the exact same way, and one of them is just constantly rough-housing.
You can tell he doesn't really mean to hurt anyone and that he's not being mean, but he can't seem to stop himself.
My brother was that way, and hitting a punching bag was the best thing my mother ever got him to do. When he would be angry, he would go down in the cellar and go sick on that thing. Then he'd be nice and calm.
I used to whack that thing myself, and it's a great release. Luckily, my son is a laid back wiseass and knows how to use his words to deal with any bullies. They end up liking him, because he's Mr. Comedy.
Miss Grace,
I volunteer over at my son's school so we are fortunate enough that there are adults around everywhere. Sure, it is not always enough, there will always be ways kids can bully. It is unfortunate. As for the punching bag, that is something I learned from someone in the anger management field. He is a psychologist who deals with all sorts of things and that was one of his observations from lots of clinical practice. He teaches relaxation and dealing with frustration and anger is a mellow way...to train yourself to calm down...and positive outlets like going for a jog or bike ride. By the way, don't feel as though you can't comment whatever you want here. I certainly would not be offended. I want opinions, especially those that are different from my own. They are all well appreciated!
Lola,
What works for some... that is great. I think it is also great that your son knows how to use his words, especially if he can change the situation with humor. Really people who can do that have great social skills and talent!
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