I am sorry for your loss. My wife and I lost our child in 2000. He was stillborn early (20 weeks). I don't know why these things happen, but I do know there will be a little face i will recognize waiting for me in Heaven. I can see from your post you are still very angry, and you must deal with this anger before it comes between you and your wife. I say this from experience, our marriage nearly dissolved because of my anger and hurt. I will add you to my prayer list, and may God bless you and your wife.
Sammy | Homepage | 01.25.06 - 10:42 am | #

I can scarcely imagine the pain and anger you have experienced, and know that any words I would add would be of little help ... but will offer condolences & prayers as well.


/TJ
TJ | Homepage | 01.25.06 - 11:55 am | #

Powerful sharing of a sensitive time in your life. Thank you; I will remember you on this year anniversary. When humans fail, God is still there. Lyn
Lyn | Homepage | 01.26.06 - 4:21 pm | #

TFM, I'm glad you chose to write it out. God's grace flows through your words, believe that. I would like the link to your fiction story.

My wife and I had one miscarriage, only after a few weeks, and I still remember the pain. I had already started journaling to the little one, in fact. (Consequently, I never could manage to journal to my daughters when they were in the womb.)

That loss of ours is a mere shadow to what you've suffered and continue to suffer.

Peace, my friend, to you and DW. Daniel is watching, and smiling at his brave, loving parents. I believe this and hope you do too.
The MaryHunter | Homepage | 01.26.06 - 7:35 pm | #

I am really sorry to hear that. Really, I am. I really hope, you and your wife will have another child, and I think you will. There is still hope, so don't give up. =)
Giomanach | Homepage | 01.28.06 - 5:43 am | #

Bill thanks for sharing your innermost thoughts and life experiences with your readers. Your wife and you are so fortunate to have found each other and to have such a special bond. I love you for being such a srtaight forward guy! You are truly a wonderful human being. Please don't rule out the foster care system if your health allows it. It has truly made a difference (for the best) in our lives!
Greta (Hooah Wife) | Homepage | 01.28.06 - 8:31 pm | #

TFM,
Your blog (and this post specifically) has been nominated by Don Surber for "The Best So Far" Blog Awards, January 2006 at Bloggin' Outloud. lgp

http://blogginoutloud.blogspot.c...log- awards.html
Lyn | Homepage | 01.29.06 - 8:18 am | #

I've read your post twice. Both times I felt such pain that I can't express it. I can only say that I understand your loss.
RightInFlorida | Homepage | 01.29.06 - 5:51 pm | #

What a heartbreaking and beautiful story. I am so sorry for your loss. God bless you all.
Cat | Homepage | 01.29.06 - 8:18 pm | #

My little sister and her husband lost their baby daughter this last year. She was born at almost 25 weeks and was with us for 3 weeks. Losing a loved one is always so hard, but I've come to believe that it's just the saddest and most painful thing ever when a sweet little baby who is so wanted and anticipated and loved does not stay. I'm so sad that you lost your baby boy, and I'm so very sorry for your loss and pain.
anon | 02.05.06 - 2:13 am | #

Powerful, moving. Thanks for sharing that, painful though it still is. My prayers are with you and your DW.
David | Homepage | 01.25.07 - 10:45 am | #

Dear TFM..I cried throughout this read..so powerful and moving...thank you for letting me be a part of it..I am so deeply sorry for your loss and get the sense that your courageous wife really has Faith..something so many lack. He is with God..and I have no doubt about that..why this all happened...ah..this my friend, we may never know..until y'all are reunited with precious Daniel.
Angel | Homepage | 01.25.07 - 11:23 am | #

Continue the counseling for yourself; and may God bless you and yours, you're also added to my prayer list.
Cao | Homepage | 01.25.07 - 6:25 pm | #

My sincerest condolences to you and your family. I pray and hope that God will give you peace and strength. May God bless you.
Carl | Homepage | 01.26.07 - 2:53 pm | #

By all means, never give up on adopting a baby.
Carlos Miller | Homepage | 01.27.08 - 12:46 am | #

My thoughts are with you and your DW on this anniversary. There are no comforting words.
right in florida | Homepage | 01.28.08 - 7:58 pm | #

I would like to read your story. That crushing pain that takes your breath away does not go away, but you will learn how to live it...for him. God bless all three of you.
Rosemary | Homepage | 02.07.08 - 4:31 am | #

I read this every year and every year I cry and ache for you and your wife. I don't think there's anything I can say that would help; just that I ache for you for so many reasons.

You're always in prayers, though we have never met.
Tere | Homepage | 02.15.08 - 11:47 am | #

I find your blog while searching for something concerning Trenton Duckett. When I saw that you had lost your son, I had to read this blog. I understand what you and your DW have gone through, as my DH and I have walked the same road. I send many thoughts and prayers your way.
Janice | 02.19.08 - 1:16 am | #

I can still feel the pain you and your DW have. I hope it eases soon, though the memories remain. All the best.
RightinFlorida | Homepage | 02.02.09 - 6:46 pm | #