http://www.haloscan.com/ Latest comments for onherown. Syndicated by HaloScan http://www.haloscan.com/ http://www.haloscan.com/halolink.gif http://www.haloscan.com/ 88 31 Commenting Powered by HaloScan.com http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/6966125308578511224/?src=hsr#42680 Mon, 09 Nov 2009 09:44:54 +0000 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/6966125308578511224/?src=hsrs#42680 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/6966125308578511224/?src=hsrs#42680 >But overwhelmingly, the experience was good. I think that's the same with everyone. http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/6966125308578511224/?src=hsr#42679 Mon, 09 Nov 2009 07:33:52 +0000 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/6966125308578511224/?src=hsrs#42679 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/6966125308578511224/?src=hsrs#42679 OTD- Of course not. I had some bad experiences with OJ at home, just like I had some bad experiences with other things at home. But overwhelmingly, the experience was good. I should note that the experiences I had with OJ at school, on the contrary, were frequently negative (especially in high school and seminary). http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/6966125308578511224/?src=hsr#42675 Sun, 08 Nov 2009 11:56:28 +0000 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/6966125308578511224/?src=hsrs#42675 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/6966125308578511224/?src=hsrs#42675 It's hard to predict how children will turn out there are so many factors. My brother and I grew up modern orthodox in London but going to state (=public) schools and only attending "heder" on Sunday mornings. Our area had less than 1% Jewish population. We both went to Yeshiva in Israel for a year after high school (not because our parents wanted us to - my Dad was scared I'd turn out haredi as I http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/6966125308578511224/?src=hsr#42674 Sun, 08 Nov 2009 11:00:48 +0000 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/6966125308578511224/?src=hsrs#42674 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/6966125308578511224/?src=hsrs#42674 >So many of the OTD/skeptic friends I have talk about the negativity they feel toward Orthodoxy because of what they experienced in their homes -- their parents screaming and panicking before Shabbos, their being forced to learn and go to/stay in shul in spite of their nature that would have them do otherwise, the emphasis their parents put on the "don't"s, the lack of any excitement in celebratio http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/416577010090589044/?src=hsr#42457 Sun, 18 Oct 2009 17:10:47 +0000 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/416577010090589044/?src=hsrs#42457 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/416577010090589044/?src=hsrs#42457 How does anything you do in this way make any sense? You can't be a half-Jew: either you believe in God and try to do His word and observe the traditions of the Jews (and for the record, Yom Kippur isn't a tradition. it's a commandment.) Or you don't believe in God, don't follow His word, and don't do any of the "traditions" that you bash so often. And why haven't you gone to a doctor to ask abo http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/268893876753468591/?src=hsr#42402 Mon, 12 Oct 2009 16:57:48 +0000 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/268893876753468591/?src=hsrs#42402 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/268893876753468591/?src=hsrs#42402 Hey RJ -- Yes, how to educate my children (if I have them?!) is definitely a quandary, and a pretty interesting one at that. I think I know what my next post will be about... :-) http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/268893876753468591/?src=hsr#42348 Thu, 08 Oct 2009 10:43:32 +0000 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/268893876753468591/?src=hsrs#42348 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/268893876753468591/?src=hsrs#42348 Nice reading your blog there sister. Many of your feelings towards being inside or outside of the OJ community are spot-on. It's a funny thing - you want to leave the theology behind and keep the social/communal aspects. But you can't have both, or can you? That is the divide and it never will shrink. Instead, you will have to either break away or allow your thoughts to remain in your head while e... http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/268893876753468591/?src=hsr#42263 Wed, 30 Sep 2009 10:35:55 +0000 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/268893876753468591/?src=hsrs#42263 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/268893876753468591/?src=hsrs#42263 I was never really into davening except for a few years following the death of my father,when my way of mourning morphed into running to shul 3 times a day even after the 11 months were over. I seldom attend services now unless I am sure there will be a pretty excellent kiddush. For me going to shul means shabbat morning. I often gaze and wonder about the lemmings who incessantly run to a minyan. http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/268893876753468591/?src=hsr#42262 Wed, 30 Sep 2009 08:00:06 +0000 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/268893876753468591/?src=hsrs#42262 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/268893876753468591/?src=hsrs#42262 I would find it sad if most people davened just because they must, without finding any meaning in Tefilah. Personally, as a woman, I do not daven very regularly, but still I noted the progress I made in 20 years. First spelling the words without understanding, than starting to understand easier prayers, than understanding without thinking, and eventually findig meaning in them that changes with... http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/268893876753468591/?src=hsr#42259 Tue, 29 Sep 2009 21:42:42 +0000 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/268893876753468591/?src=hsrs#42259 http://www.haloscan.com/comments/onherown/268893876753468591/?src=hsrs#42259 I think most people daven because its what you're supposed to do. Its divorced from any rational purpose or meaning. Say what it written in the siddur/machzor, and good things will come to you. Not saying the teffilos is seen as an aveirah, and bad things will happen to you. What it actaully means doesn't really matter to most people. Or at least, the meaning has nothing to do with why they're